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On Man Up, host Aymann Ismail invites men and women to tell embarrassing, funny, and sometimes disturbing stories about their lives as they try to figure out what they still have to learn—and unlearn—about being a man. They’ll talk relationships, family, sex, and identity, trying to understand their experiences to help listeners make more sense of their own.

On Man Up, host Aymann Ismail invites men and women to tell embarrassing, funny, and sometimes disturbing stories about their lives as they try to figure out what they still have to learn—and unlearn—about being a man. They’ll talk relationships, family, sex, and identity, trying to understand their experiences to help listeners make more sense of their own.

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United States

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Slate

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On Man Up, host Aymann Ismail invites men and women to tell embarrassing, funny, and sometimes disturbing stories about their lives as they try to figure out what they still have to learn—and unlearn—about being a man. They’ll talk relationships, family, sex, and identity, trying to understand their experiences to help listeners make more sense of their own.

Language:

English


Episodes

The Secret to a Healthy Porn Habit

2/28/2020
A young man wonders whether his habitual porn use has negatively affected the way he thinks about sex and relationships. Can porn cause erectile dysfunction? Is it even possible to have a healthy relationship to porn? To answer those questions and more, Man Up host Aymann Ismail turns to Dr. Emily Rothman, a professor and researcher who helped develop a program to teach teenage students about porn. She explains how porn actually affects the way people view sex, and then she offers concrete...

Duration:00:30:37

Why Can't My Wife and I Pray Together?

2/19/2020
After years of praying in mosques that treat women’s spaces as an afterthought, Aymann tries to find an alternative. First he talks to his wife Mira about the difference between men's spaces and women's spaces during prayer. Then Imam Khalid Latif joins the show to explain the origin of gender separation in mosques and how the various ways to interpret scripture and cultural teachings can offer a solution. What makes you a work in progress? Do you want to talk through something you can’t...

Duration:00:31:26

Why Valentine's Day is a Scramble for So Many Men

2/12/2020
This week on the show, a Texas man who struggles with romance tries to plan the perfect Valentine’s Day. But first, Aymann gets the cold hard truth about his past Valentine’s Day performances from his wife, Mira. Then he talks to psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb about the common mistakes couples make on Valentine’s Day and how to avoid them. What makes you a work in progress? Do you want to talk through something you can’t quite crack related to manhood or masculinity? Let us know, and we might...

Duration:00:27:49

Why Straight Bros Are So Important to Gay Guys

2/5/2020
A gay man in Maine tries to figure out how to develop closer friendships with straight men. But first, Aymann tries to understand why Sam has his heart set on those friendships in the first place. For additional help, the guys turn to Alex DeLuca, founder of the “Gaybros” subreddit, which was originally a forum for gay men who felt like they didn’t identify with mainstream gay culture. These days, Alex is critical of the mindset that spawned “Gaybros,” and in this episode, he uses the...

Duration:00:28:16

A Black Man's Fears About Managing White Women

1/29/2020
A tech company executive named Jason feels nervous about being the only black manager in an office made up mostly of white women. He wants to create a space where people feel comfortable talking about race and gender, but he’s worried about all the biases people bring to the workplace. For help, Aymann and Jason turn to Ari Joseph, the head of diversity, equity and inclusion at Vimeo. Ari talks about all the ways men of color hold back their true identities in the workplace, and he offers...

Duration:00:34:15

Why Men Would Rather Suffer Than Ask for Help

1/22/2020
Aymann wonders why he has so much trouble asking for help. First he sits down with his wife Mira, who paints a more detailed picture of the problem. Then Aymann turns to Dan Doty, co-founder of the men's group Evryman, who shares the benefits of accepting help from others and offers a simple technique for people who have trouble admitting weakness or inexperience. What makes you a work in progress? Do you want to talk through something you can’t quite crack related to manhood or masculinity?...

Duration:00:30:54

How to Raise Sons Who Won't Send Dick Pics

1/15/2020
Aymann hears from Maria, a mother in Norway who’s worried about raising her two young boys in the #MeToo era. She admits that she originally wanted girls and now wants to make sure her boys grow up to be respectful, empathetic men. For help, Aymann and Maria turn to Shehnaz, a New Jersey mother and restaurant owner who raised two sons that she couldn’t be more proud of. Shehnaz offers parenting tips and explains the importance of communication, trust, and disrupting gender norms. What makes...

Duration:00:28:35

What You Lose When You Don't Drink

1/8/2020
This week Aymann learns about the military’s machismo drinking culture through the eyes of Claire, a young Air Force officer who’s trying to earn the trust of her peers while also giving up alcohol. First Claire talks about why drinking is so prevalent at military social events and why the social politics of drinking are so different for men and women. Then Claire and Aymann hear from Heather King, who used to be in the Air Force and made it her goal to out-drink all the men. Now she’s sober...

Duration:00:30:45

Why Some Men Refuse to Do Yoga

1/1/2020
Happy New Year! To kick off 2020, we're revisiting an episode we love, where writer Terrell Starr takes Aymann to do yoga for the first time. When Terrell started doing yoga in his 30s, it opened up his mind to new possibilities of what his body could do—not to mention what he could do as a man. He realized he’d been restricting himself not only physically but mentally because of what he’d learned growing up. For this episode, he talks with Aymann about yoga, therapy, and breaking free of...

Duration:00:30:34

Why a Dad Dancing to Frozen is Still a Big Deal

12/25/2019
Early in 2019 Ørjan Burøe had an Instagram video go viral. It showed him and his young son wearing dresses and dancing to the song Let it Go from Disney’s Frozen. The response online was mostly positive, but a handful of louder voices argued that the video was proof that traditional masculinity is under attack. This week on Man Up, Burøe talks to Aymann Ismail about how unexpected it was for the video to blow up and what the reaction says about our on-going struggle with gender norms. Then,...

Duration:00:26:58

A Man Learns to Cry Again

12/18/2019
Aymann talks to a college student named Sammy, who feels like he should allow himself to cry more. First, they talk about why so many men resist the urge to cry in the first place and why re-learning to cry is so much harder than expected. Then they talk to Avi Klein, a therapist who specializes in helping men get in touch with their feelings. What makes you a work in progress? Do you want to talk through something you can’t quite crack related to manhood or masculinity? Let us know, and we...

Duration:00:34:29

Why So Many Men Still Dress Like They’re 16

12/11/2019
A listener named John tries to figure out how to upgrade his wardrobe. First, he and Aymann bond over their fear of taking fashion risks, and then they talk to Israel “Izzy” Bermeo, owner of the clothing shop Zero Kids. Izzy helps John and Aymann think differently about their fashion choices and shows them how to incorporate new items without looking too flashy. What makes you a work in progress? Do you want to talk through something you can’t quite crack related to manhood or masculinity?...

Duration:00:26:44

A Father Tries to Talk to His Daughter About Sex

12/4/2019
Aymann hears from Adam, a father who wants to talk to his teenage daughter about sex without coming off as weird, overbearing, or inappropriate. In other words, Adam wants to be the opposite of the rapper T.I., who recently said he takes his teenage daughter to the gynecologist every year to get her hymen checked. Also joining the show is Adam’s daughter, MG, who offers her dad some tips. Plus, sex educator Desiree Caro explains why these conversations are so crucial. What makes you a work...

Duration:00:26:25

Why Men Won't Tell You What They Want for Xmas

11/27/2019
Aymann talks to former Man Up producer Danielle Hewitt and her sister to help them think of Christmas gift ideas for their dad. Also joining the show is Micky Onvural, CEO of the menswear company Bonobos. She explains why it’s so hard to shop for men and why some men have such a hard time articulating what they even want. Are you a work in progress? Do you need help with something related to manhood or masculinity? Let us know, and we might help you work through it on the show. Give us a...

Duration:00:27:58

Can a 30-Year-Old Man Change His Worst Habit?

11/20/2019
Aymann makes some adjustments to his life in an effort to stop being late for everything. Joining him as a guide is Brigid Schulte, director of the Better Life Lab and author of "Overwhelmed: Working to change how we work, love and play." Brigid urges Aymann to focus on his main priorities and ditch everything else. But that turns out to be easier said than done. Are you a work in progress? Do you need help with something related to manhood or masculinity? Let us know, and we might help you...

Duration:00:23:44

A Virgin in His Mid-20s Starts to Worry

11/13/2019
In the first episode of season 2, Aymann talks to a 23-year-old virgin who's looking for dating tips in all the wrong places. To get him back on the right track, Aymann enlists the help of Andrea Silenzi, host of the hit dating podcast, Why Oh Why. Are you a work in progress? Do you need help with something related to manhood or masculinity? Let us know, and we might help you work through it on the show. Give us a call at 805-626-8707 or email us at manup@slate.com Learn more about your ad...

Duration:00:31:54

Help Man Up Help You!

10/31/2019
Ahead of Season 2, Aymann wants listeners to get in touch and share their stories. Give us a call at (805)-626-8707, or email us at manup@slate.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:00:01:42

The Aftermath of a Public Proposal

10/9/2019
Flashy public proposals are all over social media, but people seem divided over whether they’re adorable or cringeworthy. This week on Man Up, Aymann learns about two different public proposal stories and figures out whether the people involved have any regrets. First up is Honor Eastly, a musician, podcaster, and writer based in Australia. Her partner proposed to her during a big charity event with friends and family present. Then Aymann talks to newscaster Evie Allen and her husband Matt,...

Duration:00:30:24

About Guys Who Insist on Paying the Bill...

10/2/2019
This week Aymann looks back at some of his dating habits from before he was married, specifically his policy of always paying on the first date. First he talks to Sarah Crow, who wrote a piece for GQ called ‘Why You Should Always Split the Bill.’ Then Mel Magazine writer Magdalene Taylor joins the show to explain why some women, including herself, actually still want to be paid for on dates. Tell us what you think about this and other topics by leaving a voicemail at 805-626-8707 or emailing...

Duration:00:27:28

The Joy of Quitting Football

9/25/2019
After his sixth documented concussion, NFL linebacker Joshua Perry decided to retire. He was only 24, but he knew that if his brain suffered anymore trauma, it could impact his cognitive functioning down the line. This week on Man Up, Perry tells Aymann about the physical and mental toll of football and the culture that teaches players of all ages to play through the pain. Tell us what you think about this and other topics by leaving a voicemail at 805-626-8707 or emailing manup@slate.com....

Duration:00:33:30