Live Your True Life Perspectives with Ashley Berges

How do you handle an argument that you never planned on having? Have you ever had someone start an argument with you when you did nothing to provoke them? On Today’s show, we are going to take an in-depth look into arguments. Specifically, what happens when the argument comes out of the blue? We need to understand what needs to be done in these situations. To avoid being caught off guard when it occurs in the future and to enable us to react appropriately, we must learn how to retain the concept in memory.

Studies have shown that most drivers develop an emotional connection to their car. Some people even refer to their car as an old trustworthy friend. The emotional connection people feel towards their cars is interesting and can be pretty normal. Join Ashley today as she talks about the emotional attachment that we have to our vehicles and why is it so hard to let our cars go. Ashley helps us understand why we develop these connections and why it is so hard for us to say goodbye to our cars when the time comes.

I am speaking with emerging and upcoming author David Valovcin on Today's show. David is a Financial Services Technologist and has written his first book, “A Desk To Lean On.” David’s inspiration to write the book comes from his daughter Grace. Going back to school affects both parents and children. “A Desk To Lean On” helps take the guesswork out of some of the unknown when it comes to attending a new school. Join David and Ashley as they discuss what it is like to go to school, start a new school, and the importance of a support system in an often overwhelming situation for children. Visit David’s website: https://www.davidvalovcin.com

Many of us are familiar with the new term work wife or work husband. It appears many of our friends or co-workers have one. Perhaps even one of us has a work wife or husband. We may hear the terminology emotional affair where someone is confiding in someone outside of their marriage for emotional support. We may feel alone in our marriage even after being married for many years. The marriage may have become a roommate situation. Listen to today’s show to learn more about marriage, the roommate situation, and having a work wife or work husband. #workwife #workhusband #roommatesituation #marriage #relationships #emotionalaffaire To learn more about the roommate situation log into Ashley’s YouTube channel, https://www.youtube.com/@LifecoachAshleyBerges as well as watch the following videos on YouTube: https://youtu.be/fpHKBeOEu-4 https://youtu.be/1ihtarkPLUc https://youtu.be/kbjEVg0Sd2A

On today’s show, we are going to be exploring spiritual bypassing. Many of us may be using this as a defense mechanism in our own lives. Spiritual bypassing is the tendency to use spiritual explanations to avoid complex psychological issues. Rather than working through difficult emotions or confronting our issues, we dismiss things that have happened and use spiritual explanations or toxic positivity. Often this is done to protect ourselves or create harmony with other people. Another way this is used is when people judge us, but they are hiding behind their life as a highly spiritual person. Listen in today to learn more about spiritual by-passing and identify who may be using it in your life.

On today’s show, I discuss how our past and our experiences not only color our lives, but also color the way we see and interpret things that happened to us and happened to others around us. When it comes to giving helpful advice to someone in need, we must have some sort of understanding, knowledge, and experience to provide the correct advice. In today's show, I offer a simple example of a situation that can take place to anyone at any time. The reason why I offer this example about the grocery store, and the woman and the cart is to show how is a simple situation that you tell a friend, coworker, parent, or spouse can be observed, and discussed very differently. This particular example that I provide is extremely simple in nature. However, many of us are not asking advice from our friends and family about anything simple. The interesting part is that even a simple situation can be looked at differently by various people. When it comes to deep situations, like marital issues, possible divorce, parental alienation, and the list goes on, many people have a different take on it and offer advice that may or may not be the right advice to take. When it comes to the big issues in our lives, we want to be sure that if we are taking advice, we are taking the right advice for us to better our situation. We get advice from family and friends. Sometimes we ask for advice and other times it is just given to us. Throughout today's show, I’m giving you the information that you need to be able to understand both mentally and emotionally if this advice is helpful or harmful. Sometimes the advice is not advice at all. Sometimes instead of somebody giving you advice, they’re actually judging you. We need to know where the advice is coming from and if it is advice we should be taking. It is important to keep in mind that the advice we receive is directly impacted by the person’s life experiences or lack thereof. We must decide if the advice we are being given is advice that is going to help us or make us feel worse.

On today’s show, we will be talking about your life. We are going to take a deep dive into what we really want in our life and how we are going to get it. Once we get the things we want, how do we then hold onto them? Many of us have that one thing that seems to always get in the way of us attaining what we want. Let’s examine what is missing in our lives, what we love about our lives, and finally figure out how we can get exactly what we want in our life.

Many of us may be experiencing parental alienation right now. During a separation or divorce, our children have turned against us, and we are left to understand why this happened. It is a very painful experience that often blindsides us because our relationships with our children had always been close. Join me today as I speak with Will, a father currently experiencing parental alienation. We will be discussing how it feels, why it happens, and some possible steps we can take to try and turn it around.

Today Ashley speaks with two women who are making a significant difference in the lives of children. Children today need to have ways to work through stress, be more at peace, and be comfortable with who they are. Maleku’s Gift, A story about consciousness and the power of your own breath, helps parents and children learn how to come together and do the necessary work to help children. Join Ashley and Children’s Author, former child educator, and Doctor of Educational Psychology, Jill Reed, and Patricia Coester, Children’s Book Illustrator, breathwork teacher, coach, and psychotherapist, as we discuss the book and how it is going to help parents empower our children.

As humans, we all face challenges. However, it's important to question whether these challenges truly deserve to be labeled as problems. To do this, we must first understand what defines a problem. It's crucial to analyze the situation and determine what actions we can take to make a positive change. When we define a situation as a problem we pigeonhole ourselves by seeing an issue that needs to take place that might be impossible to overcome.

Are you hyper-focused on a situation in your life? Perhaps it feels like all your energy is being consumed by this one issue. It can be difficult to navigate this kind of hyper-focus, as it often leads to neglecting other aspects of our lives and creating new problems. On today's show, I will offer some helpful advice for anyone facing this kind of situation. This advice will allow you to reach a conclusion and move forward in a positive direction.

Today on Live Your True Life Perspectives, Ashley talks with Life Transformation Coach, Illumination Guide, and children’s author Julie D’Ann. Julie has recently released her new children’s book titled, “Which Would You Choose?” This book presents experiences that children or any person may come across in life. The book also demonstrates how to choose thoughts to change feelings and emotions to make more positive choices in life. Join Ashley and Julie as they discuss higher being consciousness, your heart center, dealing with emotions, feelings, processing thoughts, and Julie’s new book. You can find Julie D’Ann by following the links below: Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C11L5WXB Author/Coaching Website: https://juliedannauthor.com/ TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFYTAKtbzh4 FB profile: Julie D’Ann facebook.com/groups/illuminateyourlife Instagram: julie_dann_

On today’s show, I am going to identify when a narcissist has crossed the line, and how to safeguard ourselves against them. When it comes to the people in their lives, narcissists have no boundaries and have double standards. We need to identify the signs of narcissistic retaliation, their playbook, which includes everything from projections and judgment on us to the narcissist's use of flying monkeys. Once we can identify these things, we will be able to protect and distance ourselves from our relationships with narcissists.

Do you know what you want in your life? Most of us have an idea of what we want our lives to look like. Unfortunately, many of us are in limbo in our lives. We do not know how to put our thoughts and ideas into practice. We need to think about how to take what we want and make it our reality. We must make choices and decisions to change our current situations and create the life we want. Has your Marriage Become a Roommate Situation? Has your Marriage Become a Roommate Situation? https://youtu.be/wKThkKemKps Save Your Marriage From the Roommate Situation https://youtu.be/1ihtarkPLUc Stop the Roommate Syndrome, Get Your Marriage Back https://youtu.be/fpHKBeOEu-4 When did the Marriage become a Roommate Situation? https://youtube.com/live/HpUdaQ0QHC4

Many of us are unaware that narcissistic parents raised us. Nobody ever said that our parents were narcissists. As we grew older, we started to see and comprehend what was happening. On today's show, I'll talk about how narcissistic parents affect us as well as the warning signs and symptoms of narcissistic parents. Watch the links to the following videos below: How to Handle Being the Scapegoat or Black Sheep in the Family? https://youtu.be/N8SXvtEINrs When Narcissistic Parents Choose their Favorite Child. Is your Sibling the Chosen One?https://youtu.be/d_k2F3UmEOs

Join me as I examine the distinction between potential and performance on today's show. Recognizing the difference between the two, and seeing when there is only potential, are both critical to identifying and understanding them in your life. Let's discuss the differences between potential and performance, how to distinguish them, and the roles they both play in our relationships.

I am talking about the relationship that has left you in shambles on today's show. It started out so amazing, perfect, and unbelievable. Suddenly something changed. You are now left in the position of wondering what happened. The overwhelming anxiety is preventing you from eating or sleeping. You cannot believe that your relationship went from being so wonderful to picking up the pieces of your life and trying to move forward.

On today’s show, we are talking with author and producer, Adam Swain Ferguson about his recent book, Love Without Wings, an Adoption Fairytale. This is a heartfelt story about folks who want children and are unable to have them on their own. It covers all the obstacles people go through in order to adopt children and become families. Join me today as I talk to Adam and learn more about his intentions and the concepts of the book. Adam Swain Ferguson's website: https://www.purplefoxentertainment.com/

Time is our greatest illusion! Many of us make decisions that may not be the best for us based on the illusion of time. What is time and how does it impact us? Our perspective of time affects everything in our lives from our health to our life partners. Time or the illusion of time determines much of our decision-making. Often, we rush into things that may need more thought because of our fear of time. Join me as we explore the illusion of time and the effect it has on our lives.

We are impacted daily by things that we are aware of and things that we are not aware of. These impacts can affect us both positively and negatively. On today’s show, I will help us realize what is impacting us, understand what the impacts are, and how great the impact is on us. This will help us see where we are, what we are doing, and what we need to be more aware of, in our lives.