The Marriage Code Podcast

Summary: One of the hosts of the Marriage Code has some life-changing news that boils up tons of emotions. Phillip and Benji tackle the issue head-on in this episode of The Marriage Code. “Logic and emotion are like oil and water; they don’t mix… it’s like trying to push a rope – good luck with […]

Summary: It’s Q&A time at The Marraige Code. Phillip and Benji tackle some of the tough questions about Relationship Inventories. “The problem is that so many of us have become good at having an average marriage.” – Phillip Enkey Links: The Other Guys (2010) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aDJgv1iARPg Fully Understanding the Tally System – The Marriage Code […]

Summary: What does an M-16 and 2 grenades have to do with washing dishes? Phillip and Benji actually answer this question along with how to feel connected with your spouse and work as a team. Links: Marriage Code Podcast questions – podcast@themarriagecode.org In this episode: Introduction…sort of Benji’s injury Phillip’s amazing contribution to the armed […]

Summery: Have you ever known what the other person was going to say and you just didn’t want to hear it, and cut off the conversation short? Or have you ever wanted to talk but the other person doesn’t want to wait for your answer and ends the conversation? Does this happen frequently? Frustrating right? […]

Summary: In this Episode, Phillip and Benji celebrate the 40th episode of the podcast by talking about how The Marriage Code began, and by talking about where it is going. Also an announcement where Phillip and Benji will be speaking on June 30th. Links: Hope Cast – https://www.facebook.com/watch/KentsteadMedia/ Zig Ziglar – Courtship after Marriage – […]

Summary: Spouse not feeling “connected with you”? In this episode, Phillip and Benji discuss four major ways to emotionally connect with your spouse. And describe easy ways to implement them. Links: Night at the Museum 2; guard scene – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDI-sDCzGZY&t=3s Marriage Code Podcast – How to Get Spouse Certified – https://themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com/mc-010-how-to-get-spouse-certified/ In this episode: Deeper […]

Summary: What are the biggest three mistakes couples make in talking to each other? In this episode, Phillip Enkey is back from serving his country and is ready to dive right back into discussing marriage and relationships. Phillip and Benji discuss the three biggest mistakes couples make and give examples. Links: The Office: S2 E22: […]

MC 031: What’s in your Playbook? Summary: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji and Phillip continue the conversation of “What if you had only 30-days to save your marriage?” and finish explaining their 30-day plans. In this episode: Benji’s 30-Day Plan Week 1: re-Discovery Day 1: Get a notebook and a yellow […]

Summary: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, what if you had 30 days to save your marriage? What would you do? Phillip Enkey and Benji Boekweg dive right in and explore how to save their marriages in 30 days. Links: Aladdin – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OczOUJw1Z7k&t=15s John Gottman – https://www.gottman.com/about/john-julie-gottman/ In this episode: Another announcement! Big […]

MC 035: Insights Gained from Childbirths Summary: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Someone has an announcement! Also Phillip and Benji discuss the personal insights they have gained while going through the childbirth process with their wives, and how it relates to the human mind and the current paradigm. “This was one of […]

Summary: Once thought to be lost forever, this found and remastered episode takes a dive into the root cause of unmet expectations. Expectations – Are you shooting at a moving target? Phillip and Benji share examples and laughs as they draw out a 4-step system to alleviate day-to-day tensions that we all naturally assume are […]

Summary: The journey continues as Benji incorporates a new style of parenting that revolves around teaching children to govern themselves. Now back to report on his progress so far of implementing a family government, the hiccups, and reason why. Time to explore the answers. It may be simpler (and crazier) than you would have thought. […]

Summary: The journey begins as Benji incorporates a new style of parenting that revolves around teaching children to govern themselves. He refers to the book he is implementing and give a progress report on what he has accomplished so far and also what he hopes to achieve, along with some important insights he received while […]

Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, from touchdowns to clean kitchens and beyond, Phillip and Benji discuss the importance of your Marriage Playbook. What rules or guidelines have you and your spouse pre-agreed on for when the situation arises, you both will know how to respond? Links: Remember who you are – […]

Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji is joined by his wife, Ann Boekweg, and discuss two interesting questions of “Can the child claim the parent is disobeying them?” and “Can simple words of love actually change a child’s behavior in the moment?”. Links: http://themarriagecode.org In this episode: Children’s response to structure […]

Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji discuss the importance of “calibration” in a marriage, as well as emotional connection in the phases of marriage. Links: Metronome Synchronization – https://youtu.be/W1TMZASCR-I In this episode: Calibration Techniques: Sway – sway back and forth for a few minutes while listening to a song with […]

Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji returns from a 3 day marriage seminar with all the latest tips, tricks, and insights into how to make marriages work better, stronger, and longer. Links: Metronome Synchronization – https://youtu.be/W1TMZASCR-I In this episode: Marriage Phases 5 – Thrive in Abundance 4 – Calibrate 3 – Challenge […]

Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji Dives into the four steps to begin the journey of implementing the Marriage Code principals into your marriage. Discussing the four simple procedures than anyone can do to start upgrading your outlook and start actively mirroring. “You don’t have to be great to start, but […]

Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji Dives into the four steps to begin the journey of implementing the Marriage Code principals into your marriage. Discussing the four simple procedures than anyone can do to start upgrading your outlook and start actively mirroring. “You don’t have to be great to start, but […]

Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji spend more time fleshing out how to prepare for a Relationship Inventory and share some of the do’s and dont’s they discovered, while also addressing the question of how to best initiate a Relationship Inventory with your spouse even if they are not […]