Cheating: When Love Lies
Marriage
Affairs are prevalent but rarely talked about relationships. The podcast, Cheating: When Love Lies, is a deep dive into the complex emotions surrounding these secret unions.
Creator and host, Jillian Hamilton, delves into this taboo topic and asks the hard questions about affairs: how common are they, who's having them, and why? These questions illicit unexpected answers that reveal both men and women as people actively seeking something - validation, escape, understanding, vengeance, thrill, love, sex, and romance - outside of marriage or committed partnerships. Cheating: When Love Lies resists the condemnation of affairs as uniquely wrong or bad and instead considers their usefulness in learning as much about relationships as we learn about our ourselves.
On the podcast, Jillian Hamilton narrates short fictional stories about cheating based on true life events. The narration is followed by a roundtable discussion with everyday people who share their unique perspectives. Jillian also interviews cheaters and betrayed partners. These interviews are raw and real-and at times maddening or heartbreaking.
Listen now to Cheating: When Love Lies. Are you ready for the truth?
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United States
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Affairs are prevalent but rarely talked about relationships. The podcast, Cheating: When Love Lies, is a deep dive into the complex emotions surrounding these secret unions. Creator and host, Jillian Hamilton, delves into this taboo topic and asks the hard questions about affairs: how common are they, who's having them, and why? These questions illicit unexpected answers that reveal both men and women as people actively seeking something - validation, escape, understanding, vengeance, thrill, love, sex, and romance - outside of marriage or committed partnerships. Cheating: When Love Lies resists the condemnation of affairs as uniquely wrong or bad and instead considers their usefulness in learning as much about relationships as we learn about our ourselves. On the podcast, Jillian Hamilton narrates short fictional stories about cheating based on true life events. The narration is followed by a roundtable discussion with everyday people who share their unique perspectives. Jillian also interviews cheaters and betrayed partners. These interviews are raw and real-and at times maddening or heartbreaking. Listen now to Cheating: When Love Lies. Are you ready for the truth?
Language:
English
Episodes
Betrayed and Broken: The Physical Toll of Infidelity
1/28/2025
The emotional trauma that follows heartbreak after an affair can be devastating. We can experience sadness, depression and isolation. But how does an affair also affect your physical well-being? Can it damage your physical body? My guest Adele Stratton says “yes,” because as a BioDynamic Cranial Sacral Therapist, she’s seen it in her patients. Adele is the owner and founder of Phoenix Rising Healing Centre. Join us as we discuss how an affair cannot only cause physical dis-ease but can be the gateway to revealing developmental and even generational trauma. Adele is fascinating … join us! Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:31:58
Your Kids Know About Your Affair: They're Just Not Telling You
1/21/2025
You're having an affair and you think your kids don't know it? Well think again. My guest today is an extraordinary young woman who wrote in to share her story after listening to an earlier Cheating: When Love Lies episode called "When Your Kids Find Out You Cheated." In that episode a woman in her 50s, told us how in her teens, she discovered her mother was having an affair. This episode's guest (we'll call her Tina) lived a similar situation when she discovered her own father was having an affair.
Duration:00:31:24
My Cheating Husband Impersonates Our Family and Friends In Fake Social Media Accounts
1/14/2025
Do you really know your partner? After years together as a couple, can you confidently say you know everything about them—everything they do and everything they’re truly capable of? My guest, Megan, was shocked to uncover her husband’s cruelty and deception. Join me to hear how he destroyed their trust and tried to create chaos and division in her family with lies and manipulation. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:39:01
How I Turned His Cheating and Betrayal Into A Thriving Business
1/7/2025
Turn your mess into your message. My guest today also named Jillian did just that. Her boyfriend cheated on her from the beginning of their relationship to the bitter end. He had dozens of lovers (yes dozens) and is a self confessed sex addict-both of which shocked my guest and tore her world apart. But Jillian Romero Chaves, founder and CEO of the relationship app Clara for Daters took that mess and turned it into her message. Join me to hear her journey of turning heart break and betrayal into a unique and thriving relationship app. Clara for Daters is an app that you can use to radically transform and enhance how you date and evaluate your romantic relationships. Clarafordaters.com @clarafordaters Be a guest on Cheating: When Love Lies: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:47:20
I Can't Hate My Husband's Lover Anymore
12/31/2024
A woman comes into your husband's life and captures his heart. Your husband and his new lover share emotional and physical intimacy and he can't seem to leave this other woman's side. His affair threatens your marriage, family, peace and serenity. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Karen, whose hated for the other woman became enormous. How would you handle that hatred? Would you seek revenge, become depressed, or find a way to forgive? Join me to find out why Karen couldn't live in hatred one day longer, and what she did to turn it all around. Follow me on IG @cheatingwhenlovelies. Want to be a guest? Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com Find relationship coach and Owner of Soulify Wellness Beth Miller at: http://www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ http://www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiHRjsv0neY3wWVlHLlMJJw
Duration:00:40:28
When Your Husband Moves His Affair Partner Into Your House
12/24/2024
What if you suspected your partner had a secret lover. You could just feel in your gut. Something in your relationship changed, and you're convinced your partner is seeing, or even worse, having sex with someone else. Maybe you start snooping and sniffing around to see what this could-be cheater is up to. You might try to get into their phone and their computer, or do some low-key stalking. But what if this lover was right there in plain sight? Maybe your spouse's secret lover is your best friend, your neighbor, or your cousin. As horrible as that sounds unfortunately it's not sooooo uncommon. What if your spouse moved their lover right into your OWN house? You think it's impossible, then you need to hear my guest today! (My guest's name and voice has been changed to protect her identity)
Duration:00:41:48
Does Your Partner Cheat Because You Lack Self Respect ?
12/17/2024
Imagine if you could change your thinking and behavior in such a way to prevent your significant other from cheating on you. What if you could partially control whether or not your partner would be faithful by demonstrating some self respect. My guest today, Trevor Justice is a relationship coach and author of “Change Who You Attract & How You’re Treated.” Join me as I learn Trevor’s method on how to communicate in a troubled relationship and stave off cheating and affairs. Trevor shares success stories of his coaching at Attractloveandrespect.com. And for our listeners Trevor has set up a link at Attractlovegift.com to download the audio book and pdf. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:39:35
He Says He's Committed, But Acts Like He's Single
12/10/2024
Deception, lies, and gaslighting. Are they the most hurtful part of an affair, or is it the sex and knowing that your partner may be madly in love with someone else? It's different for every betrayed partner, but for my guest today whom we'll call Lisa - she was tortured her husband's lying. Lisa found out about her husband's affair, and after she nabbed him, he promised to work on their marriage. What he said sounded great, but Lisa kept observing suspicious behavior and red flags that made her question if what her husband was saying was in fact was he was doing. Join me and relationship coach and founder of Soulify Wellness, Beth Miller to talk about what happens when a cheating partner says they're committed to fixing the marriage, but acts with the same suspicious, inconsistent, red flag behavior they've always had. Lisa is here to share her story. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Reach Beth: @soulifywellness www.soulifywellness.com www.freemarriageguide.com
Duration:00:39:59
I Thought It Was Just One Affair, Then I Uncovered The Horrible Truth
12/3/2024
This week we are bringing back another favorite episode. Your husband has an affair which leads you to ask for a divorce. But it's what you discover after you file for divorce that shocks you and has you facing a moral dilemma. Your husband's been unfaithful and now you're divorcing him, so what's the use in trying to learn even more about his philandering ways - why torture yourself? My guest whom we'll call Gail uncovered disturbing facts about her husband after his affair destroyed their marriage. Now Gail is facing a dilemma: should she warn her husband's new girlfriend about his abusive and toxic behavior? Once you file for divorce are the effects of infidelity really over?Answer this episode's listener question on IG @cheatingwhenlovelies. Find relationship coach and Owner of Soulify Wellness Beth Miller at: http://www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ http://www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiHRjsv0neY3wWVlHLlMJJw Find me @CheatingWhenLoveLies and JillianHamilton.online
Duration:00:42:20
Your Subconscious Keeps Picking The Cheater
11/26/2024
For years the buzzword was attracting, as in "you attract the partner you have in your life." Then the term "manifesting" took over, and suddenly everyone was trying to manifest everything from a dream job to a faithful partner. But what if deep down your subconscious was on overdrive pulling you toward that person who awakens your childhood abandonment issues, triggers your trauma bond, and then eventually cheats on you! My guest today is relationship pattern expert, Dr. Sajad Vahedi. He helps clients to stop acting out toxic behaviors in a promising relationship by using what he calls a Schema Framework. This Schema Framework ends the toxic patterns, freeing clients to build healthy, intimate, infidelity free relationships. Dr. Vahedi wants to celebrate 2024! Go to his Instagram @drsajadvahedi to find out about limited complimentary sessions he's making available to Cheating: When Love Lies listeners. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been effected by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:38:14
When Your Spouse's Affair Is The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You
11/19/2024
Josh and Sharon are two formerly married people whose spouses cheated on them. Before they were married, Sharon's husband covered up the truth about his debts and failing finances. Then after they married, her husband started an affair with a woman he invited to Sharon's baby shower. Josh's wife had an affair after 17 years of marriage. He was devastated and disillusioned by this infidelity, and yet his marriage counselors told him he had no grounds to leave the mariage. Josh and Sharon both lived through the pain of an affair, but just like the blessings of the Holiday season, they unexpectedly found joy and hope after one of the most heartbreaking experiences of their lives. Their stories are a true holiday inspiration! Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:57:13
My Husband Was A Violent Cheater
11/12/2024
My guest today whom we’ll call Victoria, was emotionally and physically abused by her boyfriend. What began as incidents of grabbing and pushing escalated into violent beatings. But it wasn’t until Victoria eventually married this boyfriend ( oh yes she did) that she became aware of his cheating. Join me to find out what helped Victoria emerge from this nightmare to restore her life as a healthy, independent mom. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:35:05
I Was Blindsided By The Affair, Then My Intuition Kicked In
11/5/2024
About two years ago, a guy friend said to me "I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn't do it." Because of this podcast I'm sworn to secrecy, so I couldn't tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends, we can't imagine that someone we know would ever have an emotional or physical affair. This is why it is not uncommon that I hear from betrayed partners, "I was blindsided when I found out!" This is what happened to my guest Shea. Shea is her real name because with the support of Shea's husband, they decided together that appearing on Cheating: When Love Lies would be a part of Shea's healing. Beth Miller, relationship coach and owner of Soulifywellness is back to share her relationship expertise. Do you think that your partner would never ever cheat on you? Well, so did Shea. @cheatingwhenlovelies @soulifywellness https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link)
Duration:00:37:59
I Secretly Tracked My Husband On An App and Was Shocked By What I Caught Him Doing
10/28/2024
Let’s call this episode the Halloween edition because I am spooked by guest’s husband’s very odd behavior—like getting fake restaurant receipts to prove he was dining somewhere when actually, he wasn’t. My guest caught her husband in countless lies by tracking his car. She even found a bag in her husband’s closet containing the most shocking, damning evidence of cheating one could possibly find, and yet she refuses to confront him to let him know that she’s on to his cheating ways. Why does she do this? And what was in that bag? You’ll never guess, so join me now for this spooky Halloween edition of CWLL to find out. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:50:29
My Husband's Lover Got Pregnant. What Do I Do Now?
10/21/2024
In this week's classic episode It's hard to think of a more demoralizing and debilitating situation than this: your husband has an affair, and his affair partner gets pregnant. But wait - it gets worse because you were pregnant around the same time his lover was pregnant. This is what happened to my guest Carly. Will Carly choose to save her marriage and embrace her husband's lover's child? What would you do? Find Beth at: www.freemarriageguide.com/ www.instagram.com/soulifywellness/ www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ www.soulifywellness.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen Be a guest on the show. Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.
Duration:00:38:15
My Husband’s Affair With His Hospital Nurse
10/14/2024
I remember once a famous LA doctor said to me, Jillian everything seems so important until you get sick, then once you're sick the only thing that matters is getting better. This was the situation for my guest and her husband who was so ill, he was often hospitalized. His wife believed he was receiving the best possible care, but something happened at the hospital that threatened to end their decades long marriage and broke her trust in him. I have the upmost respect for so many in the medical profession that keep us healthy and alive. So when I heard this story of deceit and misconduct inside the hospital -I just couldn't believe it. Follow me on IG @cheatingwhenlovelies Want to be a guest? Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com Please subscribe and share!
Duration:00:39:37
My Lover’s Wife Became My Ally
10/7/2024
Bringing back a favorite episode this week….The man you've fallen in love with is another woman's husband. As much as you try to resist the lure of his flirtation, eventually you succumb to his charm and start an affair. Your relationship with this married man feels deeply emotional, sexy and passionate. But when his wife finds out about you, the affair turns into a tumultuous saga involving you, your affair partner, his wife, his children, and your family. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Nicole. The affair starts to spiral out of control and you're going down with it. Then one day you and your affair partner's wife uncover a painful truth that bonds you as confidantes and allies. As a wife, could you ever befriend your husband's lover? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:01:00:32
Why Committed Partners Cheat On Dating Apps
9/30/2024
Do dating apps drive people to cheat? Do dating apps facilitate cheating? Or do dating apps have nothing to do with cheating at all? My guest Samantha, her boyfriend brazenly cheated on her with a multitude of women, and at times used different dating apps to find these other partners. Samantha has a PhD in public health and wrote her dissertation on dating app use — so I was thrilled to have this conversation with her from a personal and professional perspective. Join Samantha and me to ponder the question: how do dating apps influence cheating —if at all? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:30:04
Are Your Partner and Their “Best Friend” A Little Too Close For Comfort ?
9/23/2024
Is your spouse’s best friend too close for comfort? Does your partner’s BFF get more attention, time and better treatment than you? When you start to question just how close your spouse is to their “best friend” are you paranoid or intuitive? My guest Brent, who is married to his husband Michael ( not his real name) would say the latter. Brent’s world was turned upside down when he was deceived by a relationship that his husband Michael claimed was purely platonic. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:37:11
I Was Blindsided By The Affair, Then My Intuition Kicked In
9/16/2024
About two years ago, a guy friend said to me "I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn't do it." Because of this podcast I'm sworn to secrecy, so I couldn't tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends, we can't imagine that someone we know would ever have an emotional or physical affair. This is why it is not uncommon that I hear from betrayed partners, "I was blindsided when I found out!" This is what happened to my guest Shea. Shea is her real name because with the support of Shea's husband, they decided together that appearing on Cheating: When Love Lies would be a part of Shea's healing. Beth Miller, relationship coach and owner of Soulifywellness is back to share her relationship expertise. Do you think that your partner would never ever cheat on you? Well, so did Shea. @cheatingwhenlovelies @soulifywellness https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link)
Duration:00:37:24