Enneagram and Marriage

The shadows and stresses each of you bring to marriage have volumes of family lore behind them, backing them up and urging you each on to survival in your own nuanced ways. When the honeymoon is over, and these rhythms tend to re-emerge and spousal stories converge and collide into differing rhythms in middle seasons of marriage, how can you stand united? Today Christa invites you on a brief and gentle journey of viewing your stories alongside some of the stories right here from her book and otherwise in terms of places and spaces we want to grow from together! Also, celebrate with us a day on the top of the Amazon Christian Marriage charts for the new books, because of our awesome launch team! Don't forget to order yours right here as we bring the Enneagram learning to others! Pre-order your book right here and get the bonuses! Watch on YouTube Bonuses are: 🕯A guide to lead a small group book study on The Enneagram in Marriage! 🕯A handy printable chart for quick and easy reference on The Enneagram Types! 🕯Tips to increase sexual intimacy for each Enneagram Personality Type! 🕯Plus, you’ll get a FREE Audiobook! Grab and order here!

Many of us from faith circles have been asked questions about the Enneagram origins and whether they are compatible with a Christian or even logical scientific worldview. Today we take time to process this question in detail with Christa's husband Wes Hardin, MA, who has a degree in biology and philosophy as well as a Master's in Theology from Wheaton College, along with his medical degree as a PA. Join Christa in the interesting conversation with Wes from a historical, faith-centered, and scientific logical viewpoint so you can learn more for yourself and more about how to discuss the Enneagram with intelligence and care in your marriage, faith, and social groups! Visit much of this content in written form on our FAQ page here also! Watch the convo on YouTube here You can find Jesse Eubanks' podcast link/s here and Tyler Zach's aforementioned resources on the same topics here! You can grab Christa's new book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing," right here also!https://a.co/d/ed25gVA

When we get busy and overwhelmed in marriage, talking about what’s deep and emotional may feel like the least desirable option. Yet we all know that hiding and stonewalling are the very worst things we can do together, especially during the busiest years with school-aged kids underfoot. Today we talk with Juilliard-trained creative artist and oboist Dr. Meredith Hite Estevez, Enneagram Four, who offers us an invitation to find the depths together safely, helping us not to lose ourselves as we continue to find our best rhythms together. She also talks about her marriage to her type 7 hubby who is the pastor at Kirk on the Hills Church in Bloomfield Hills, MI. Join us for this lilting conversation with this tremendously gifted writer, teacher, speaker, Ivy-league-trained musician, and creative artist Dr. Merideth, and also enjoy her music in the background during her introduction as well so you can find your own joyful rhythms as we connect together here! Episode music credits: Merideth Hyte-Estevez - oboe Jani Parsons - piano Find Merideth's beautiful site, podcast, and work here! www.artistsforjoy.com and for creative (and free!) meet-ups find her popular The Artist's Way group here

Although most parents desire a deep relationship spiritually with God, it's easy to leave it behind along with self-care and marriage care during the busiest seasons of the parenting era. Kayla Craig, author, wife, mom of five, and creator of Liturgies for Parents, has comforted thousands of souls with her prolific words on prayerfully parenting together through the very hardest of days. Christianity Today calls Kayla's page an essential parenting resource, and in this interview, we speak not only Enneagram (she and her hubby are an 8-8 couple with differing instinctual stackings), but she's got four kids, including a child who needs extra measures so she truly gets how lost we can be in finding the depths and heights with God when we're literally knee deep in kid messes of all kinds. We get real here on this fun but meaningful podcast. Don't miss this time together, and definitely don't miss Kayla's brand new book, Every Season Sacred that launches into the world this week! Watch on YouTube here! Kayla Craig's author website and Liturgies for Parents Get Kayla's book! Love the Enneagram & Marriage pod? We would love to get your review so others can find the show as well. Share on Apple Podcast right here! Buy Christa's new book now so you can make sure tou get your pre-order bonuses before the launch date in 2 weeks! www.enneagramandmarriage.com

The work we do across personality types often has its very foundation in how our thinking tends to shift in stressful moments. In this E + M mini, Christa walks you through all the ways our mental fixations can attack us in life and marriage. To combat the dysregulating thinking, we also walk together through the holy ways of thinking of each type (the Enneagram holy ideas) and release our biggest mental blocks spiritually. Take a few moments to try to bring your unhealthy mental focus into healthier rhythms with us right here! Pre-order your book right here and get the bonuses, including the one-page chart with your holy ideas, virtues, vices, fixations, and more all on one page! Read my book, “The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing” so you can truly thrive! Get these bonuses for pre-ordering, too! 🕯A guide to lead a small group book study on The Enneagram in Marriage! 🕯A handy printable chart for quick and easy reference on The Enneagram Types! 🕯Tips to increase sexual intimacy for each Enneagram Personality Type! 🕯Plus, you’ll get a FREE Audiobook! Grab and order here!

Parenting well with intention has so many great benefits for your child, but also takes its toll if you forget to take care of yourself. Yes, dysregulated and exhausted parents need support, too, and as we walk through the parenting era together, we have one of our favorite guests back to guide us, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, psychologist, burnout support expert Instagram leader, and beloved Enneagram 9 (9-3 pairing). Whether your kids are littles, big, or grown, we invite you to today's refreshing episode! To connect with Dr. Morgan and 20OK+ followers (her reels are awesome!) find her here Get Dr. Morgan's book plus bonuses right here! Watch on YouTube here! Visit www.enneagraminmarriage.com for all of your E + M needs, including our book bonuses!

There are so many cultural overlays that affect our relationships, and development across generations is absolutely one that matters, both in your marriage and as you hack or deep dive your way through life, depending on your generation. Take a quick dive intergenerationally with Christa today as we dive into practical tips for both Erikson's developmental theory and Strauss and Howe's generational theory for your marriage and family today! Watch the mini-episode on YouTube! Pre-order a copy of The Enneagram in Marriage and sign up for your pre-bonuses right here!

As we jump into talking about marriage across seasons, stages, and generations all month, we take a fun leap into September with author Molly Wilcox, Enneagram 7, as we walk through the steps it takes to shine brightly together once again or for the very first time. With a book behind and another ahead, as well as work and baby life in the first five years of honeymoon, Molly has systematized ways to keep her married life both intentional and playful and continues to thrive even after the honeymoon has lost its first gleams. How does Molly keep balance, love, and faith in her life even across the busy threads of life? And how can you follow suit as you re-embrace your own honeymoon a bit here with us? Join us here for lift-off to a journey of joy on this fun Labor Day episode! Play the typing mystery contest @ our Instagram Stories and guess Molly's hubby's type! Find Molly's website and book and find her inspiring Instagram here @MrsMollyWilcox! Pre-Order your new Enneagram in Marriage book here and get the pre-bonuses also! Watch Episode on YouTube

When we learn to pause, you give your system time to regulate, and you also bring yourself into sensory awareness for the very best of conversations and inner scripts to spring forth. Each Enneagram type in marriage and life needs intentional pausing for a different reason, and today we talk about what those reasons are in this E + M mini with Christa. Listen here as you truly become more life-giving and empowered in your relationship right here! Get your pre-order bonuses today when you buy Christa's book here! Listen on YouTube here

It’s a common fallacy in marriage to look at one’s spouse as being less healthy than one's self or to think that having a spouse of another type may create fewer issues. However, we bring ourselves into all relationships as a common denominator, too, an extremely important issue to consider. Today we are so grateful to have European Union diplomat Frederick Coene, Enneagram researcher and SP 6 to help us process what to do when you hit these difficult seasons all couples will hit from time to time, sexually or otherwise in marriage. This is a time where integrity and doing one's work matters more than ever and we are learning together! Join Christa in this riveting and potentially life-changing conversation right here! Watch on YouTube here! Take Dr. Coene's sexuality course on YouTube free Find Frederik on his website here Save your receipt as you buy your book here so you can get maximum discounts and bonuses! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage You can also leave a review on Spotify here!

We work very hard to balance our self-preserving, sexual, and social instincts, but who are we outside of that - and more importantly, above these base instincts? Christa walks you through the higher virtues lying outside of the instincts today so that you cannot only keep balance amidst the lower-hanging fruit of the three instincts themselves but also keep a higher plain of goodness in your life. Check out this in quick but important E + M mini right here! Watch on YouTube here! Click here to join our Goodreads Giveaway! Get on the E + M launch team here! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage You can also leave a review on Spotify here!

Work relationships can and do affect the ways we treat one another at home. As we dive into this much-needed topic today, today’s juicy podcast episode features Kaleigh Newby, MA, Enneagram 2w1 (2-9 pairing). Kaleigh is the perfect guest for the job, having done significant Enneagram and relationship work across organizational development as she's helped individuals and couples of each Enneagram type to find their best strides. In this pivotal episode on balancing work + relationships for each type, Kaleigh not only welcomes people of each type to learn how to walk through their work stress better but she also gives relationship tips for each of us and our partners. Tune in for these clear and activating steps right here! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Find Kaleigh's website and consulting services here and her Instagram here! Click here to join our Goodreads Giveaway! Get on the E + M launch team here! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage You can also leave a review on Spotify here!

It's tempting to want to box our kids into one type or another the moment we see certain behaviors emerging, but an even better way to process how our kids are emerging is to honor both their gifts as well as the shifts and nuances across your children's development. As you help them to find and hone their traits, listen as Christa walks you through all nine types across the Enneagram in terms of developing children. We share key ways for you to reach kids across all kinds of struggles in this brief episode. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/rVRs2z5MzBk Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here,too! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!

When we confess our sexual struggles, we are given grace, hope and most, love and a release from the binding shame that comes with this brokenness. Matt Cline of Restored Ministries reaches out to spouses here in this E + M mini! He talks about community, God's grace, and his own story of recovery as well with us right here! Listen as Matt walks you through what he continues to teach thousands across campuses and groups about sexual brokenness and pornography recovery and restoration. Matt shares practical steps for walking in healing and the fullness of God's love here as well. Find Matt's ministry right here! Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here, too! Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!

Pornography is not always something people feel comfortable talking about, inside of marriage or out. This is most especially true within the church. Today Christa is joined by author Jessica Harris, Enneagram 4w5 (4-3 marriage pairing) as she both shares her story and discusses an important topic for couples, especially women who desire to find freedom and true healing from pornography. As we discss this pivotal topic that has been ignored in the church in many cases (often out of fear or not knowing what to say many times), we talk about ways we can hold one another with grace and love as we walk through and emerge from these binding struggles. We also talk about what Jesus had to say to the woman at the well, and most, what you can do to regain healing from your own struggles with this addiction, as well as lean in to support those struggling who may come your way. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Get Jessica's book right here Visit Jessica's Beggar's Daughter website and study guide here Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!

If you're just keeping afloat amidst endless to-dos or busy seasons of life, your self-preservation - and your entire marriage and family - has likely looped off track. Today Christa is joined by Jenn Johnson, Health Coach, and E + M Certified Coach to guide you back on track, or perhaps finding your stride for the first time! This is an episode you definitely don't want to miss as we deep dive into all three instincts and how you can find your healthiest self with grace, intention, and improved marriage rhythms with encouragement, no matter what season or shape you're in! Watch the Episode on YouTube! Get Jenn's Health Coaching right here or email Jenn at jennjohnsonhealthcoaching@gmail.com Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!

Across many transitions of life, there are important grounding lessons to be learned as we aim to parent well too. Today as we prepare to launch kids into their own mental wellness with healthy rhythms, Christa is joined by Enneagram expert, and coach Kelsey Lincoln, Enneagram 6 (Fuller Theological Sem, Intercultural Studies). Kelsey shares her wisdom and foresight to give us these tools we need for relationship success across every single type as we do our best to parent with love, wisdom, and lots of grace right here together! Watch the Episode on YouTube! Get Kelsey's on-point Instagram tips right here! Visit Kelsey's website here! Join the E + M Membership right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!

Have you ever wondered how your personality affects your well-being in terms of financial savvy and success? Or which Enneagram (and MBTI) types are more and less motivated by more relational versus financial provisions? Truity Psychometrics has done the deep diving for us about what we can all learn from one another, and the world is paying attention. In this all-new episode for you, we get to chat practically and relationally today about the findings, and today Christa interviews Megan Malone, Truity's fabulous content strategist and personality researcher and an Enneagram Two. Walk with us through the types and how you can find balance and expansion in your individual, couple, and work growth in this fascinating episode. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Take the Truity Test on Enneagram Follow Truity @ Instagram! Take the Truity Generations Test Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!

In our conversation last summer w/Dr. Sam Greenberg, we had a groundbreaking episode on sex and how we see it across various instinctual patterns, depending on whether we're more socially, sexually, or wired for more self-preservation. Here we are joined yet again by Christa and Dr. Sam on a deeper dive level for each and every Enneagram type in terms of the typical sexual findings, in hopes you can truly find your best sexual closeness yet. This episode is SO helpful for your marriage growth, so don't miss out! Watch the Episode on YouTube! Find Dr. Sam on Instagram Visit Dr. Sam's website! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!

Your goal is deeper intimacy, but did you know autonomy and healthy boundaries and self-care are SO helpful for a relationship as well? Today Christa is joined by one of our most popular guests, Gottman, AACC, and E +M Certified Coach Melissa M Thompson, Enneagram 2, in a conversation about how to do just this for each and every type. Join us as Melissa refreshes us with healthy hacks and reminders of how we can hold love, strength, boundaries, and compassion at the same time. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Find Melissa for coaching info here! Read Melissa's boundaries blog! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!