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Enneagram and Marriage

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The Enneagram and Marriage Podcast, hosted by Christa Hardin, MA, is rooted in two decades of experience counseling and coaching couples. On top of her expert marriage advice, Christa uses the Enneagram to add another layer of understanding in how we work as individuals and gives us deeper insight into how we connect and shine together in marriage and relationships across the collective community.

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United States

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Marriage

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The Enneagram and Marriage Podcast, hosted by Christa Hardin, MA, is rooted in two decades of experience counseling and coaching couples. On top of her expert marriage advice, Christa uses the Enneagram to add another layer of understanding in how we work as individuals and gives us deeper insight into how we connect and shine together in marriage and relationships across the collective community.

Language:

English


Episodes

Building Sexual Attraction Together in Marriage: Igniting the SX Instinct Together in Marriage

3/27/2024
As you aim for a healthy and loving sexual intimacy life in your marriage, in this second installment of the Igniting Your SX Instinct Series of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, we're not only discussing what attracts us to one another and what builds our love and chemistry up, but also about what builds desire biologically, psychologically, and emotionally for a healthy love life together just for the two of you in your marriage! Watch on YouTube here! This week only, join the Enneagram & Marriage Membership here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership-join The sensate focus exercise is here: https://health.cornell.edu/sites/health/files/pdf-library/sensate-focus.pdf For even more details on the research behind this episode, check out www.thepauselife.com and www.hubermanlab.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:25:33

Connecting Authentically to Process Our Joy & Grief, w/Author Molly Stillman, 2w3 (2-8 Pairing)

3/25/2024
Right now in our highly curated culture, individuals are desperately seeking authenticity, depth, and understanding together. This is because we all need connection as we process hard pieces of life and grief together if we want joy, love, and laughter to genuinely emerge from a healthy space. To tackle this huge topic with joy and depth both, Christa is joined by the highly authentic (and highly humorous) author and podcast host Molly Stillman (The Molly Stillman Show), author of the deeply personal account, If I Don't Laugh I'll Cry: How Death, Debt, and Comedy Led to a Life of Faith, Farming, and Forgetting What I Came into This Room For. Tune in to hear Molly's tips for other 2-8 couples and for all of us walking through communication issues, and life crises, including finances, losing parents, and potentially losing ourselves too, if we step into the light of connection and faith. Watch on YouTube! Purchase Link: https://www.stillbeingmolly.com/if-i-dont-laugh-ill-cry/ Website: https://www.stillbeingmolly.com/ Social Media Links: https://www.facebook.com/stillbeingmolly https://www.instagram.com/stillbeingmolly To join our Enneagram and Marriage Collective membership group for more authenticity and vulnerability, join us here for only $29 a month for four extra pods a month, Zoom meetings, and more!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:57:52

Igniting the SX Instinct in Marriage: An E + M Series

3/20/2024
Marriages are often broken down by unhealthy sexual intimacy triggers and practices and in your quest to get healthy intimately together in your sexual instincts, you need to address your connection from a foundation of goodness. In this new E + M Series, you'll learn to connect through intimacy that starts with foreplay both outside and inside of the bedroom. Here we begin to ignite your passion again by laying intimacy building blocks as you and your spouse to build a safe emotional landscape together, one step at a time. Tune in as we gently and respectfully explore how to nourish your sexual intimacy life from the foundation up, bringing a baseline of goodness versus rigidity, perfectionism, and especially as you let go of hurtful practices that ultimately leave you in shame or addictive cycles. Tune in to create a baseline for true, heart-stopping intimacy goodness together here in this primer for the SX instinct new series! Show links: Here's the Heart of Parenting seminar mentioned on the podcast! Here's our Relationship Bundle where we go type by type through tips for spouses in the bedroom type by type + bonuses as well! For our deeper dive podcast on Sexual Desire & Arousal Change Across the Monthly Cycle, visit Apple Podcast Subscriber Series here! Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:15:26

Help for Dealing with Narcissists in Relationships, w/NPD Certified Expert Melissa Thompson

3/18/2024
Though compassion and gentleness are wonderful traits, when these traits are paired with codependency, enabling, and a lack of healthy boundaries, vulnerable individuals, namely empaths, often repeat familiar trauma cycles by pairing with a mate who has high narcissism markers in relationships, sometimes even pathologically so. This high tolerance for unchecked inappropriate behaviors can lead to fawning or freezing when it's time to set boundaries, get help, or leave a dangerous relationship. If you find yourself or someone you love shamed or scared to leave but being threatened and gaslighted in a marital, dating, or spiritual situation, this episode is for you! We are joined by NPD expert Melissa Thompson, Enneagram 2, who is here giving us the very best tools for healthy empowerment! Watch on YouTube! Find Melissa's FB Group here! Follow Melissa on Instagram Follow Melissa on TikTok Find Melissa's website here! Find all of your relationship needs at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:43:46

Typing + Lessons in Love from Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice w/Hannah Hardin, Type 4

3/13/2024
In this just-for-fun E + M on Spring break episode, we ask you to kick back and enjoy a relaxed and endearing episode as we discuss the enemies-to-lovers trope of Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice as well as what types we think the most romantic couple of all time are, Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet. Don’t miss this chance to explore the hilarious cast of characters we will discuss with love and fun here on this E + M meet-cute of literature and love! Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:41:19

Finding Restful Rhythms for Your Personality Type in Marriage

3/11/2024
Now that daylight savings time has come and you’re finding energy wherever you can, you'll also need rest so you can truly thrive together for the long haul. Here Christa helps each type set the tone for healthy and much-needed restful rhythms, which differ for individuals of each personality type both in life and in relationships. Listen and learn how to find healthy rest amidst the hard work for you and also your partner right here! Watch on YouiTube here! Get your Enneagram Glow pairing guide here! For all of your relationship needs, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:29:52

Improving Energy Levels for Your Relationship Type by Type

3/6/2024
As humans, we desire to use our energy well so we can tend to our families, and today we talk about putting this into place practically with joy. Since each type has a very particular way of over (or under) expending their energy, in this mini-episode, you're also getting a few brief tips for you type by type. Learn to use your energy to the very fullest for your relationships to thrive here! Watch on YouTube! Sign up to watch Apple Podcast Myers Briggs + Enneagram today also! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:22:29

Caring for the Soul of the Helper with Dr. Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, Enneagram 2 (2-9 Pairing)

3/4/2024
If you’re serving clients, patients, kids, families, students, or helping at work in a fast-paced environment, inviting in restful rhythms in life or marriage may feel audacious and impossible next to your never-ending to-do list. However, those who are natural givers often deeply struggle to thrive because of this tendency to serve until burnout. Here you're invited to lean into practices that will help you to give for the long haul as we chat with Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, author (Soul of the Helper) Enneagram 2 (2/9 pairing), mom, wife, associate professor and associate dean at Baylor University’s school of social work. Don’t miss this chance to learn how it’s truly possible to slow down as well as love your people well. Watch on YouTube here! Holly K. Oxhandler, PhD, LMSW, is an associate professor and the associate dean for research and faculty development at Baylor University’s Diana R. Garland School of Social Work. Dr. Oxhandler has developed various instruments to measure the integration of clients’ religion/spirituality in mental health treatment, the integration of the helping professionals’ faith in their work, as well as clients’ views toward discussing their spirituality in treatment. Learn from Holly on her website with her offerings right here! Here is her Instagram also! Get her book on Amazon here! It's here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the All-Access Pass to the Summit here! Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:37:09

An E + M Mini: Myers-Briggs (MBTI) & Your Marriage

2/28/2024
Although the Enneagram is a wonderful tool to assess our relationship depths, other personality assessments also offer us excellent insight for our relationship love styles. Here Christa introduces you to Myers Briggs (the MBTI) in this listener-requested mini episode to give you a brief tutorial on how you may grow in love and work life together using this robust system. Explore Introverting versus Extroversion (I/E), Sensing versus Intuition (S/I), Thinking versus Feeling (T/F), and Judging versus Perceiving (J/P). As you learn, allow yourself to lean into your partners' type as well as to your lesser activated styles of relating too as you consider your differences for a fuller life experience. Don’t know your types? Watch On YouTube Here Take the TypeFinder/16 Personalities (their free MBTI variant) on Truity.com Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:17:35

How Neurobiology Can Bring Safety, Empowerment, and Connection, w/Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT

2/26/2024
Often you want so desperately to relate well and with joy together, but when a relational rupture happens, we don't know how to repair it with healthy shifts and boundaries. Here we are joined by neuroscience expert and licensed marriage and family therapist Juliane Taylor Shore to help us sort out how to handle more difficult experiences together. Juliane takes us through the heavy lifting of relationships at their best - and their worst - with comfort, empowerment, and a head, heart, and body approach to help us discover what we can do when we are lost and feeling unsafe in our relationships. Watch the uncut version on YouTube here! Join Juliane Taylor Shore at her website with her offerings right here! Get her book on Amazon here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:40:16

Cultivating Humility in Your Relationship (For All Personality Types)

2/21/2024
Humility is the absence of pride and conceit in a relationship, and unfortunately, the underbelly of an individualistic Western philosophy is often a lack of it. Yet, sometimes we believe that if we’re humble, our partner will take narcissistic advantage of us, and if they’re not healthy, that may well just happen. Tune into this must-listen mini episode for tools for both of you to truly find the essential virtue of humility as well as steps to get there right here healthily for each and every personality type! Watch on YouTube! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:16:55

All the Light We Cannot See, w/Wes Hardin, Enneagram 1

2/18/2024
When you share the gifts you have, the whole world is improved, little by little. In contrast, when couples and individuals get caught up in the dark desire to get ahead for themselves despite what happens to others, those who are weaker, elderly, less affluent, less desirable or otherwise more culturally marginalized get forgotten and discarded. In this episode, Christa walks you through sharing your light, even through discouragement, through the lens of the magnificent WWII novel, "All the Light We Cannot See" along with her husband Wes, who joins in for a conversation walking through the important elements from the accompanying Netflix series. Tune in here for reminders of how to love in each of our own very small but also very significant ways! Watch YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Read or watch All the Light We Cannot See here: Netflix Series: https://www.netflix.com/title/81083008 Book: https://www.amazon.com/All-Light-We-Cannot-See/dp/1501173219 Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:51:39

Special Valentine’s Episode: Balancing Healthy Masculinity & Femininity To Ascend in Your Relationship

2/14/2024
What do women find attractive long-term? How do you show strength and softness as a man? How do you allow for femininity without becoming weak? Join us today for this special love episode as we give tips for all of this, and moreover, as we give your love just the boost it needs in this mini-must listen episode on ascending the peaks of your relationship together! Watch on YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:27:34

Staying Calm & Resolving Conflict When You’re Upset, w/Mediator Hesha Abrams

2/12/2024
So many times in marriage there are arguments that don't get resolved, underlying anger that doesn't get diffused, and tempers flying out of control, depending on your personality type. Today we are joined by world-renowned mediator and attorney Hesha Abrams who is an expert at not only helping you to find your power and self-control, but also in truly finding intimacy through actually resolving the conflicts at hand together in your marriage and other important relationships. Tune in here! So many times in marriage there are arguments that don't get resolved, underlying anger that doesn't get diffused, or tempers flying out of control, depending on your personality type. Today we are joined by world-renowned mediator and attorney Hesha Abrams who is an expert at not only helping you to find your power and self-control but also in truly finding intimacy through actually resolving the conflicts at hand together in your marriage and other important relationships. Tune in here!Watch on YouTube! Get Hesha's book Holding the Calm: The Secret to Resolving Conflict & Diffusing the Tension here on Amazon Find everything you need at Hesha Abrams' website here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/emcoaches Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:43:47

Taylor Swift and the Enneagram with Melody Hardin, Type 9

2/6/2024
Music can speak to us in a way that words alone often cannot. In this week between the Grammys and the Superbowl, we're having fun sharing songs by Taylor Swift for each and every Enneagram type to enjoy in love, life, and times of lament, too. Watch on YouTube here! Enjoy this E + M curated Taylor Swift & the Enneagram Spotify Playlist here. There are 2 songs for each type, in order 1-9, per the episode here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/emcoaches Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:19:16

Exploring the World of Girls and Parenting w/Nellie Harden, Type 2

2/5/2024
Parenting requires nuanced architecture and then releasing kids to learn for themselves bit by bit - and all of this as you're navigating mood changes that start becoming real even in the grade school years. To help us through this sensitive topic, we are gifted with parenting expert Nellie Harden of Family Life, Enneagram 2, who shares her relational and brain-based biological expertise, as well as what she's gained from parenting four teen daughters along with her husband. Recollect your own teen years and learn what's ahead with kids or grandkids as we approach parenting with peace, grace, and wisdom. We dig into some of the most important questions together, including how to walk through hormonal moments with kids, dads and daughters, and how we can launch healthy and regulated adults one day, too. Don't miss it! Watch on YouTube! Nellie Harden's book and steps! https://www.nellieharden.com/ Leave a review on Apple here if you enjoyed this episode! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join the E + M Masterclass here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off. https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:58:52

A Relaxation Exercise to Strengthen Emotional Agility: An E + M Mini Episode

1/31/2024
Emotional agility is a necessary skill for relationship-building, so that when we find ourselves dysregulated, we can self-soothe. We need this practice time and again considering all of the ways we lose our footing in life and relationships. Enjoy and save this episode so you have a special practice to help you find your way back to joy and peace time and again. This guided imagery and relaxation episode helps you move from stress to finding your steps again when you feel triggered. Watch on YouTube here! Leave a review on Apple here if you enjoyed this episode! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Become an E + M Certified Coach here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:17:05

Growing Your Business Without Burning Your Marriage or Family Out w/Amy Wicks, Type 7

1/29/2024
How do you balance work and life? How do you grow at work but also leave room for family? What do successful leaders wish you knew at the beginning of an entrepreneurship journey? Today Christa is joined by superstar Amy Wicks and they are not holding back as they share tips for those wanting to create a better work-life balance. Join the chat here and sign up for the Elevate and Activate conference also! Watch on YouTube here! Find Amy's website here! Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 Become an E + M Certified Coach here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:40:27

Finding Each Other Through the Fog of Perimenopause with Bria the Period Whisperer

1/24/2024
When you or your spouse are experiencing mood shifts, don’t forget that between ages 35-55, perimenopause may beat work. Today we talk with Bria Gadd aka “Bria the Period Whisperer” about her specialty of perimenopause as she helps to identify symptoms and also helps to support families through this often foggy period. Here we invite empowering conversation around shifting health rhythms and personal and couple’s empowerment as you remobilize for thriving and rest in perhaps new ways. Bria also reminds us of what we can expect and plan for across a 4-week cycle as well as ways to open up conversation around the sometimes sensitive topic. Whatever your type/or pairing, join us as we walk through whatever the next days and decades hold together in this fun, candid, and grace-filled convo about bringing awareness, normalcy, and love for the ups and downs of ALL of our seasons. Watch on YouTube here! aQuiz: tinyurl.com/IsItMyHormones Daily Hormone Checklist: https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/pl/2147912583 https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/ Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 Become an E + M Certified Coach here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:33:30

Healing from an Emotional Affair with Josh and Katie Walters

1/22/2024
When you're in a really thin season with your temperaments both on override and also hiding vulnerabilities, you're bound for difficult marriage territories you hardly recognize, territory where you're tempted to blame your spouse or lose your marriage altogether. For Josh and Katie Walters, it was too, and it was a big something: infidelity. Today as guests on the pod, Josh and Katie speak to the pain behind infidelity and more importantly, how to courageously walk forward in actually loving your spouse versus merely following your feelings, as they listeners who feel exactly the way they did: lost, hopeless, and unsure of how to fix their marriage. This episode lays out the principles Josh and Katie Walters learned in that season when God healed and restored their marriage and they're sharing them here for you to glean from their story and the pages of their book, Same Couple, Different Marriage: Don't Let Your Worst Days Be Your Last Days. Watch on YouTube here Find Josh and Katie's website and book here! Katie on Instagram Josh on Instagram Join early bird rates for the Wholehearted Empower and Equip Leadership Conference with Amy Wicks Become an Enneagram & Marriage Coach this Feb 15, 2024 (use the code COACHINGFUN for $500 off) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Duration:00:44:47