I Think I Love My Wife

In this episode (Selflessly Selfish), I discuss with Darrin how he navigated obstacles such as long distance, being an entrepreneur, and infidelity prior to getting married as well as how those lessons learned has helped him become a good husband. We focus on the challenges that come with trying to satisfy your passions as well as your partner. I talk about the importance of having someone that supports you and your passions. We explore the tough calls and tradeoffs you have to make when doubling down on pursuing your dreams and how critical it is to know when to get out or pivot. We also examine how generational differences impact how we view dating today, pursue relationships, and consider sources of advice. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (The benefit of truly learning somebody), I wrap up my conversation with Carlton as we talk through the benefit of truly learning someone and having a healthy sex life in a marriage. We discuss the challenge that men have listening instead of problem-solving. We highlight the intentionality required to develop organic and strong relationships with the in-laws. We examine the importance of sex in a marriage and maintaining an active sexual dynamic throughout the years. We conclude on the idea that the head of the household being a collective effort. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (The unfortunate part of dating), I discuss the value of knowing your person’s heart with Carlton as he shares more of his journey in marriage and in fatherhood. We talk about why guys are okay dating more than one person at the same time and the tradeoffs you make while dating multiple people. We discuss how harder it becomes to date as people get older and considerations for living with your partner prior to marriage. We examine the need for parity in a relationship and being mindful of the development opportunities of who you choose to hitch your wagon. We highlight the importance of communication in the middle of conflict and investing in your relationship once kids are in the picture. We also debate what matters more: trusting or respecting someone for their opinions or feedback. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (Am I really willing to do the work?), I discuss the feeling of knowing when you know and how they led to Carlton dating someone he randomly met prior to graduating college as well as their journey in marriage. We discuss the importance of being intentional when getting to know someone. We break down the process of knowing that you know and how specific experiences can solidify how a guy feels about a woman. We also dive deep in what it means when a guy says “you know when you know”. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (I could have went off the rails), I wrap up my conversation with Courtney discussing critical moments that challenged his marriage early onsuch as dealing with a miscarriage and overcoming a severe covid experience. We emphasize the need to find time and space for yourself in the midst of internal and external chaos so you can show up better for your partner and family. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (From supporting myself to supporting three), I talk to Courtney about his journey of becoming a stepfather. We discuss the importance of creating boundaries and relationship norms while learning to be a stepfather. We dive into the conversations required to engage as a parental figure while dating. We highlight why you should break through taboo norms and not wait very long to have meaningful conversations on important topics (i.e., life goals, salary/income). Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (Shoutout to Bumble!), I discuss how Courtney’s match on Bumble turned from a casual dating scenario to a marriage. We talk about dating a woman with a child and navigating how to build individual relationships with both. We highlight his doubts and misconceptions. We also examine the natural progression men go through in their journey towards marriage. Black-owned bourbon brand named in this episode is by the Brough Brothers Distillery (https://broughbrothers.com). Please support by checking them out. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (I don’t want a cheerleader), I wrap up my conversation with Jourdan as he explains his need to have a partner he can trust and that can hold their own as he navigates his marriage with someone of a different ethic, cultural, and religious background. We run back their decision to not live with each other, despite moving to a new city together. We talk through navigating the differences between expectations and preferences. We discuss the importance of having tough conversations to get to a happy place even if you’re not happy with the outcome. We offer our perspective on compatibility and how vulnerability looks different for different people. We highlight the need for self-awareness in a relationship and to show up for your partner just as much as you do for yourself. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (We never look at anybody’s Ls), I talk to Jourdan about his reluctance in participating in the dating game and how being honest with himself and what he wanted led to him finding his wife. We examine the world of dating today and thematic problems that people face. We discuss taking a different approach to dating and the importance of strong communication and being upfront with people from jump. We dive into navigating dating while focusing on life’s other priorities. We emphasize the necessity of being honest with ourselves first when it comes to dating - what we want, the realisticness of our expectations, and the tradeoffs we’re willing to make. We also spend time on the need to understand our mental health and benefits of seeing a therapist. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (We took the first baby for granted), I wrap up my conversation with Julian, reflecting on an emotionally tough period in his marriage, dealing with pregnancy issues, and having a rainbow baby We talk about how it was supporting a pregnant wife while living long distance. We discuss the difficulty of having to terminate a pregnancy. We highlight the importance of not checking out during traumatic and emotionally heavy situations. We also dive deep on dealing with the fears and emotions while trying to navigate the pregnancy of a rainbow baby. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (Titles and definitions have to be the same), I continue my conversation with Julian as we reflect on dating apps and attributes he saw in his wife leading to his proposal. We highlight important attributes to look for in a partner. We discuss swiping with intentions on the dating apps. We examine the importance of supporting your partner in the midst of adversity. We also dissect how pivotal it can be to see how someone shows up for you, especially in areas of vulnerability. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (You have to let yourself heal first), I discuss finding love after a serious breakup with Julian and talk about his journey towards marriage and the road to fatherhood. We talk about recovering from a breakup after a long-term relationship. We discuss the importance of listening to your gut. We examine the scary part of giving up control when in a relationship. We conclude this episode highlighting the value of talking to a therapist and how helpful it can be, especially after a big breakup. Check out @exclavespirits on instagram or www.exclavespirits.com if you are interested in trying the Rye that Julian was drinking or supporting Black-owned distilleries. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (You’re supposed to be the rock), I conclude my conversation with Nkem discussing key aspects he considered in getting married and that he values in his marriage. We investigate the importance of marrying someone in the same culture. We discuss why for some guys it’s important for a woman to take their last name. We highlight how it is growing up in the Nigerian culture and the impact it can have on relationships. We examine the difference between being the rock for your family and being the source of strength for them. We also spend time on things we want to replicate from the culture we were brought up in and things that we don’t. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (The streets retired me), Nkem and I examine some of the issues he had to overcome in his long distance relationship and marriage. We talk about when guys start looking for marriage in a relationship. We highlight how moving in with someone is a big step and some of the considerations to factor if doing it before marriage. We agree on the necessity of having tough conversations with people in a respectful way. We emphasize the importance of having positive experiences in dating. I also reiterate that I don’t like the term dating. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (Seeing more cons than pros), I discuss with Nkem how he transformed a long distance relationship into a marriage. We talk about doing things out of obligation and provide our thoughts on whether love and logic go together in a relationship. He explains how understanding love languages are even more essential when in a long distance relationship. He shares his belief that men know where they fall in a pack and should shoot within their range. We highlight how men are not taught how to please a woman sexually and the importance of communication when it comes to sex. We discuss factors the may impact sex and our expectations for sex during life transitions (i.e., in marriage, during pregnancy, post-partum). Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (Not a fan of the term dating), I provide a recap of what has been going on within me, share why there has been so much time between seasons, and express why I am not a fan of the term dating. Major theme from this episode include: Life lifes at times and there’s nothing wrong with focusing on the things you choose to prioritizeSome of you wanted my “advice” so I got certified as a life coach and started a business called Nelo Effect (www.neloeffect.com) where I offer thought partnership to clients. I’m also working to become a licensed professional counselor so I can better support those who want to grow as individuals, as desirable candidates in the dating world, as strong partners in their relationships. Follow on IG (@nelo.effect) Podcasting is not cheap, so I’ve created ways for people to support the cause and assist with equipment, studio time, operational costs to keep the podcast going, especially as I work to add a video component to the podcast for season 4. Support donations can be made via Zelle tothinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.comInterim titles on the road to marriage don’t matter as much if you focus on healthy communication, sincere honesty, intentional action, reliable consistency, graceful patience, and showing up authenticallySeason 3 starts next week This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (Get your no’s out of the way early), I wrap up my conversation with Brooke Fitzpatrick, the founder of Mosaic Matchmaking and l get her thoughts as a dating coach. We talk about the costs of dating and some of the thoughts that go into asking a woman out on a date. We examine what’s a reasonable amount of time to chat before you move off the apps with a match. We discuss common complaints that people have with dating apps. We breakdown the advantages and disadvantages of several dating apps. We offer thoughts on ways people can improve their dating profile. We also dive into the difference between dating and courting and the importance of reciprocity. For more information on Mosiac Matchmaking to go https://mosaicmatchmaking.com/ and follow on IG at @mosaicmatchmaking Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (Woman should participate in courtship), I learn more about Mosaic Matchmaking with its founder Brooke Fitzpatrick We learn how she sets expectations for client’s and the potential matches and how she goes about matching them. We spend a great deal of time talking about how important it is to invest in your dating app profile. She highlights common issues she hears from her clients and why they choose to go with a matchmaking service. We share our thoughts on dating multiple people at once and the feeling required to have a chance for success For more information on Mosiac Matchmaking to go https://mosaicmatchmaking.com/ and follow on IG at @mosaicmatchmaking Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (Matchmaking as a Service), I discuss with Brooke Fitzpatrick, the founder of Mosaic Matchmaking, and learn about her business, how she got started, and how she coaches singles as well as matches them with viable candidates. We talk about what she’s hearing from both men and women who are trying to find love. She highlights the importance of taking some risks while dating and what comes with the territory of putting your heart out there. We learn about her philosophy when it comes to matchmaking and what happens to people that join her database. For more information on Mosiac Matchmaking to go https://mosaicmatchmaking.com/ and follow on IG at @mosaicmatchmaking Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (Marriage is extremely dynamic), I wrap up my conversation with a guy who’s met his partner in Vegas while visiting from another country and examine his journey to marriage and fatherhood. We talk about the importance of making space and time for yourself, especially in a relationship. We discuss finances and allocating money for your personal hobbies and individual needs. We highlight the intentionality required to keep the spark alive in a marriage. We dive deep on balancing emotions and understanding which ones to project out, because everything doesn’t need to be shared. We uncover some of the unique feelings that come from fatherhood. We break down some of the misconceptions of marriage and how critical timing is to meeting the right partner. We wrap up with our thoughts on what people are truly looking for in a partner and our perspective on dating women with children. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, for your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services. Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!