The M3 Bearcast from Male Media Mind

Ever felt the world slipping out of control? Ever wish you could control the seemingly endless stream of information that barrages us daily? This episode, featuring the insightful Carlos from the TikTok channel, Walk in the Light, takes us on a journey through our modern anxieties, exploring how our ever-growing access to information may be fueling our dwindling sense of control. Carlos provokes us to question our presuppositions, challenging the notion that our ancestors were free from existential worries. Imagine if you could manage the anxiety brought on by current events. Is it even possible to temper the flood of news that shapes our thoughts and feelings, without feeling overwhelmed? As we weave through the labyrinth of worry and control, we also unravel how our minds instinctively guard us from potential dangers and how to sift through what truly matters to us. We further explore how comedy and personal experiences influence our understanding of safety and the pressures of certain societal expectations, like dating the 'right kind of white boy.' Content creation and podcasting is no walk in the park. It's a challenge that can trigger anxiety at the best of times, and even more so when juggling a disability. Carlos shares his candid experience of creating a podcast series where he delves into raw and deeply personal topics. We wrap up our conversation with Carlos, reminiscing on the power of living in the present moment and how seemingly insignificant moments can indeed be powerful.

Have you ever considered the power that lies within your dark moods, or how anger, when properly harnessed, can serve as a tool for justice and self-defense? As we pivot from the societal norms that perceive dark moods as problematic, my guest Greg and I invite you to embrace these emotions as signals highlighting deeper issues that require resolution. Join us as we journey through the pages of "Night Vision Seeing Ourselves Through Dark Moods", a compelling book that vibrantly illustrates the value of anger. Experience a personal narrative of my confrontation with anger and frustration, and gain insight into how these emotions can be positively channeled. We even dive into an inspiring work by a professor at the University of Texas that redefines darkness as not negative but situational, and the process of adapting to this darkness as a crucial part of healing. As we navigate the last section of our discussion, Greg and I dissect different facets of anger, discussing its diverse forms and the roles they play in setting self-defenses and boundaries. We touch on societal perceptions, particularly focused on black men, and how these influence the expression of anger. We anchor our conversation with thought-provoking works like "Killing Rage" by Bell Hooks, that illustrate how anger can be a tool for setting boundaries and staying true to oneself. Concluding our chat, we discuss the role of anger in relationships and the significance of tuning into your body’s signals. Embark on this enlightening exploration of dark moods with us, and uncover the surprising benefits they offer.

Follow Carlos from @walkthelight_new on tik tok https://bit.ly/44gAc7 Today, we're opening up a conversation about mental health with our guest, Carlos from the TikTok account Walk In The Light. His unique perspective on dialectical behavioral therapy, consciousness, identity, and choice weaves an intriguing narrative that challenges the rote engagement driven by negative emotions.Our discussion is not about just fanning the flames of anger but about creating meaningful connections by offering something real and unique. As we traverse the landscapes of identity, shame, and emotional regulation, Carlos shares heartfelt stories from his childhood, feeling different and finding solace in metaphors and analogies. We question the distinction between guilt and shame and ponder on how self-compassion can evolve from reflecting on our past choices without judgment. These conversations then lead us to the complex world of emotional regulation, the challenges it incurs, and how it becomes even more taxing when we don’t feel safe. Crossing over to the realm of consciousness, AI, and internal zodiacs, we examine intriguing elements from the game Horizon Zero Dawn and its AI system Gaya. Carlos presents the compelling concept of internal zodiacs as tools for better self-understanding. We reflect on the power of archetypes and the significance of having twelve in a complete system. All this culminates with our thoughts on the impact of storytelling and AI’s potential in crafting emotionally powerful narratives. So, come along and join us in this eye-opening exploration of mental health, online engagement, and self-discovery. Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

Do you find yourself acting in ways that you think will earn you love, only to end up driving people away? Let's unravel the intricacies of insecurities and the lies we tell ourselves in our quest for connection. In this fascinating discussion, we dissect a TikTok video of a young man who felt he had to be funny to take up space and explore the consequences of seeking validation through humor. We also dive into a podcast episode that sheds light on emotional monitoring, a sign of insecurity and trauma, and how therapy can help heal these wounds. But wait, there's more! Ever heard of mental supremacy? We're about to expose the fallacy behind it and reveal how it's been misused throughout history, perpetuating certain prejudices even today. Discover the power of embodied cognition and how our physical presence shapes the way we think about the world. We'll also discuss the genius of Albert Einstein and his ability to project himself into things, which ultimately led to the development of the Theory of Relativity. Join us for this enlightening conversation that challenges the idea of mental supremacy and invites us to consider the mind and body as intertwined, integral parts of our humanity. Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In episode 37 of the M3 bearcast, Malcolm discusses serial monogamy, particularly as a male pattern of leaving one relationship only to face the same issues in the next. He highlights the importance of taking responsibility for one's actions and learning from past mistakes. Travers emphasizes the discomfort of being wrong and the defense mechanisms people employ to protect their ego. He suggests that a little delusion can be beneficial, but it's essential to acknowledge and accept one's wrongness in order to grow and improve. Serial monogamy can hinder personal growth as individuals fail to work through problems in relationships. Malcolm encourages vulnerability, asking questions, and being open to change. He also touches on the challenges of admitting wrongness in the presence of a loving witness. The episode concludes by exploring the role of beliefs, spirituality, and the value of different perspectives in personal growth. Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In Episode 36 of the M3 Bearcast, Malcolm concludes his thought-provoking conversation with Greg about Frederick Joseph's book Patriarchy Blues. Delving into the discussion of privilege, Malcolm and Greg explore their experiences as disabled individuals who also navigate privilege within their respective disability communities. They delve further into the concept of white privilege, examining Greg's aspiration to attain a portion of the advantages enjoyed by white people. The conversation takes an intriguing turn as they touch upon the need for men to feel accepted, even when they make mistakes. Patriarchy Blues: Reflections on Manhood by Fredrick Joseph https://amzn.to/41oOKkd Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In episode 35 of the M3 Bearcast, Malcolm continues his conversation with Greg about the book Patriarchy Blues by Frederick Joseph. The discussions and readings have been monumental in understanding oppression and privilege, specifically dealing with ableism and being disabled. Malcolm reflects on his own privilege among blind people and how it has affected his perspective on the world. He talks about the healing process and the importance of being comfortable discussing mental health issues with professionals. This episode is part two of their discussion on Patriarchy Blues, and it's so in-depth that there will be a part three. Don't forget to support the podcast by becoming a patron at www.patreon.com/malemediamind for early access and exclusive content. Patriarchy Blues: Reflections on Manhood by Fredrick Joseph https://amzn.to/41oOKkd Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In episode 34 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss the book "Patriarchy Blues" by Frederick Joseph with Greg. We view oppression through the lens of intersectionality. I talk with Greg, about being bullied as a kid and getting into fights. We share our thoughts and feelings on the topics covered in the book. We discuss how understanding different forms of oppression and the intersectionality of identities is key to making progress in social justice issues. Patriarchy Blues: Reflections on Manhood by Fredrick Joseph https://amzn.to/41oOKkd Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In episode 33, I discuss narrative theory and how stories shape our identity and guide us through life. I highlight the over-emphasis on conflict, villains, and agency in stories, which are not necessary for actual living. I discuss the concept of the Ego as our self-concept, made up of "I am" statements. Stories are a tool for living, but they can also lead us astray by assigning agency to everything, even natural disasters. Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In Episode 32 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss the difference between hope and optimism with Greg. Throughout our friendship, he's often been a voice of optimism. it wasn't until recently that pessimism and optimism existed alongside hope as a way to orient myself to the world. Optimism is how good or bad we estimate the outcome of an endeavor to be. In contrast, hope exists separate from optimism and is about what we believe is right to do regardless of how it turns out, Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In episode 31 of the M3 Bearcast, host Malcolm Traverse explores the relationship between happiness and capitalism. He argues that the epidemic of depression and anxiety in industrialized nations is a feature of late stage capitalism, and discusses three different angles on how to find meaning and purpose in life. The first angle examines the idea that the brain is not a happiness machine, but a problem-solving survival mechanism. The second angle discusses paradoxical thinking, where two opposite ideas can coexist, and the third angle explores finding purpose through culture, art, religion, science, and pursuits such as video games. Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

I discuss attachment theory and the importance of authenticity and connection in relationships. I argue that in the queer community need to create our own norms and standards for relationships based on attachment theory I talk about how evolution has designed humans to survive rather than be happy, but advancements in intelligence, culture, and society may be part of natural selection. Imperfections are necessary for improvement, as our struggles may ultimately lead us to a better future. Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In episode 29 of the M3 Bearcast, I delve into the concept of validation. I explore the pitfalls of seeking validation online and how it can come from people who do not genuinely care for us. Validation gives us a sense of purpose and significance. Yet, we see people who seek it as lacking self-confidence. Being authentic is how we develop true self-confidence. I also discuss the idea that evolution is not a linear process and that the way we perceive reality is only a sliver of The Truth. Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In episode 28 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss three topics that surround prioritizing mental constructions over outward situations. First, how you think about your goals matters much more than the goal itself. Second, if you don’t believe in god or new-age spirituality, it’s still essential to think about existence and the nature of the universe. And finally, we lack imagination about changing the status quo in political and economic systems and why we need to open our minds to revolution instead of reform. Tik Tok Video Creedits fatlosscoach https://www.tiktok.com/@fatlosscoach?_t=8ZefMAdzi94&_r=1 themissingself https://www.tiktok.com/@themissingself?_t=8ZefPaBklva&_r=1 dtstarkid https://www.tiktok.com/@dtstarkid?_t=8ZefWTeBmQM&_r=1 Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In episode 27 of the M3 Bearcast, I explore three topics on love and relationships. First I talk about how love and relationships are essential to our well-being and why journaling can help you get to know yourself and make you a better relationship partner. Then I do some myth-busting about communication skills being the key to a healthy relationship. What you see in couples that communicate well is a solid base of trust. The last topic is about setting boundaries with yourself in relationships. Never begging for love, never longing for someone who isn’t thinking about you, and setting a standard for communicating those boundaries early on is critical. Loving yourself and loving others @katina.bajaj https://www.tiktok.com/@katina.bajaj?_t=8ZQyPiaCWCY&_r=1 Communication isn’t relationship skills @12weekrelationships https://www.tiktok.com/@12weekrelationships?_t=8ZQysxRdjSN&_r=1 Never Beg Never chase @lamtorireid https://www.tiktok.com/@iamtorireid?_t=8ZQzAFvq5rm&_r=1 Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In episode 26 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss three ways we parent ourselves as adults. Many have found a chosen family after their family of origin no longer serves them. Depression is the result of stubborn pessimism that we have to guide ourselves away from. And learning how to show affection when you were never shown affection as a child can be a hard lesson to learn. All of these require that we learn from some painful realities. @cfstory https://www.tiktok.com/@cfstory?_t=8Z3vrK3ANNW&_r=1 @zermanzane https://www.tiktok.com/@zermanzane?_t=8Z3vv41QIxP&_r=1 @purposeandresilience https://www.tiktok.com/@purposeandresilience?_t=8Z3vzQpa1RD&_r=1 Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind PATREON https://www.patreon.com/malemediamind

In Episode 25, of the M3 Bearcat, I speak with Gregory Drayton about how we form our identity. We talk about the role self-esteem plays in shaping our perception of self. We also talk about how being different from our peers forces us to have high self-regard fall into despair and, how gay men hide being insecure and how it has shaped the dating scene in the community. Video credits https://www.tiktok.com/@small_asagiant?_t=8YruEk2zhhW&_r=1 https://www.tiktok.com/@bigthighthescienceguy?_t=8YruNa9kcwg&_r=1 Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind

In Episode 24 of the M3 Bearcast, I discuss three ways our feeling get mistaken for facts. First, I discuss why some people will perform happiness to try to feel better or as propaganda to make things seem better. The second is about intelligent design and how it plays on our emotional need for order and warps facts to meet our emotional needs. The third is about how we confuse feelings and facts when evaluating the quality of a relationship. video credits Topic 1 @joymarilie https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRb5Mnmo/ Topic 2 @insomniafood https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRb54MQk/ Topic 3 @walkthelight_new https://www.tiktok.com/@walkthelight_new?_t=8YgKiqKtUZq&_r=1 Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind

In episode 23 of the M3 Besrcast , I discuss how emotional intelligence can be helpful in three areas of life. Our relationship to money is more emotional than a spreadsheet might reveal. If you don't know how you like to give and receive love, you could be making relationships harder than they need to be. And in the gay community, what boundaries get blurred that are much clearer with straight friends? Feleciaforthewin Discusses her relationship to money https://www.tiktok.com/@feleciaforthewin Mrhoward365 on how love languages affected his love life https://www.tiktok.com/@mrhoward365/video/7175723199110384942?is_copy_url=1&is_from_webapp=v1 Metro_prince on Why gay men find it hard to make friends https://www.tiktok.com/@metro_prince/video/7145968045033573678?is_copy_url=1&is_from_webapp=v1 Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind

In episode 22, I discuss the difficulty of being raised to believe that being good entitles you to good things. I talk about how you can begin a conversation with someone with different beliefs and invite them to see the world as you see it. I then discuss how being outraged by someone’s behavior doesn’t entitle you to tell them how to behave. TikTok videos credited to: @kobecampbell_ https://www.tiktok.com/@kobecampbell_?_t=8Y8LPptaoNa&_r=1 @maryrobinettekowal https://www.tiktok.com/@maryrobinettekowal?_t=8Y8LTg6C6yB&_r=1 @nyjo.brennen https://www.tiktok.com/@nyjo.brennen?_t=8Y8LXZUbQ2k&_r=1 Subscribe to Male Media Mind on social media. Make sure to turn on notifications so you can participate in our live streams. INSTAGRAM http://instagram.com/malemediamind YOUTUBE http://www.youtube.com/user/MaleMediaMind FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/MaleMediaMind TWITTER https://twitter.com/MaleMediaMind