The Art of Charm

In today’s episode, we cover how to make friends with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold. It is an unfortunate statistic that we lose friends as we get older, but why does that happen, what can you do to make and maintain friendships that last a lifetime, what are the 3 traits you need to be the friend everyone wants, and proven system can you implement tomorrow to attract dynamic high value people into your life? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Why do you have fewer friends today than you did 10 or 20 years ago and what can you do to rebuild friendships you’ve lost? Make dynamic high value friends that turbocharge your life – 10:05 What can you do to find and build friendships with high value people who share your values and interests? 3 steps to be the rock star of your social circle – 20:38 What 3 traits do you need to master to be the guy (or girl) everyone wants to be around? How do you pinpoint the valuable social capital you bring to friendships so you can leverage it to accelerate the building of future friendships? Build rock solid friendships effectively and efficiently – 38:46 How many hours does it take to build friendships that last a lifetime? What is the most effective AND efficient strategy to funnel the best prospects for friendship into your life so you don’t waste time getting to know people who don’t meet your standards? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It’s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can’t be found anywhere else. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we cover getting unstuck with Adam Alter. Adam is a renowned academic and speaker known for his work in marketing and psychology, the New York Times bestselling author of Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked and Drunk Tank Pink: And Other Unexpected Forces That Shape How We Think, Feel, and Behave. His newest book is Anatomy of a Breakthrough: How to Get Unstuck When It Matters Most. It can feel crippling to get stuck in life and not know how to move forward, so what psychological traps keep you stuck and how do you avoid them, how do you manage your emotions so you don’t waste time staying stuck longer than necessary, and what can you do to create a hot streak every time you get unstuck? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How can you recognize when you get stuck so you don’t waste your life away? What is the secret Lionel Messi uses to overcome his performance anxiety? Your mind is tricking you into staying stuck – 16:42 What are the psychological traps that keep you stuck in life and how do you avoid them or get out of them? Managing your emotions to get unstuck – 27:10 How do your emotions help you or hinder you when it comes to feeling stuck in life and how do you deal with them? Fishy life lessons – 39:25 What can we learn from specific fish about the value of patience and always trying to be first? How do you use failure to get unstuck? Creating your own hot streak – 44:16 What can you do to create a hot streak of success in your career regardless of where you are in life? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It’s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can’t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we cover the 4 pillars of happiness with Arthur C Brooks. Arthur is the best selling author of 12 books on topics ranging from economic opportunity to human happiness, and his newest book Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier that he co-wrote with Oprah Winfrey. Happiness is a feeling anyone can cultivate but one that is increasingly difficult in a tech-centric world, so what is the best way to manage your emotions to achieve happiness and success, why are extroverts happier than introverts and what can you do to decrease your unhappiness as an introvert, and what is the difference between pleasure and enjoyment that most people don’t know even though it makes the difference between fulfillment and loneliness? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 When is intolerance and hatred necessary? Why do humans crave social interaction with family and friends? The secret to happiness – 14:08 What is the key to increasing your happiness no matter what is going on in your life? How do you manage envy so it doesn’t prevent you from being happy? Why you need to feel unhappy – 24:08 Why is unhappiness just as important as happiness when it comes to managing your mood from day to day? What are the 4 pillars of happiness? What is the most important thing loners need to understand if they want to be happy in their solitude? Real Friends vs Deal Friends – 37:00 What are the two types of friends we all have and which group contributes to your loneliness? What are the 5 challenges we face in building strong and healthy relationships? The right choices to build relationships – 50:36 What two things should you be focusing on to build lifelong relationships with friends, family, and your significant other? What is the neurochemical difference between pleasure and enjoyment and why does one make you feel empty and lonely? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It’s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can’t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we cover happiness with 4 of the world’s leading experts on the topic: Arthur C. Brooks, Dr. Robert Waldinger, Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar, and Christoph Schnedlitz. Happiness and purpose make a life worth living, but what factors contribute to and take away from your ability to be happy, what role do relationships play in your happiness, and how do you build happiness that doesn’t depend on what’s happening in your life? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Who are the world’s leading experts on happiness? Building Happiness – 3:50 What simple question can you ask yourself to build life-changing happiness? Success Addiction – 12:00 How do you get addicted to success and what can you do to break the addiction? Harvard Happiness Study – 14:24 What is the Harvard Happiness Study and what can you learn from the results to foster happiness in your life? Social Media and Happiness – 24:25 How does social media affect global happiness and what can you do to protect yourself from its effects? Relationships and Happiness – 29:02 How much do your relationships influence your lifetime happiness? What can you do to maintain the relationships in your life that bring you happiness? What are the biggest happiness myths? The 3 Happiness Skills – 40:35 What skills should you work on to build resilient happiness? Why is boredom an important component of happiness? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It’s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can’t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we cover the 3 pillars of powerful communication with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold. Humans are social creatures and history has taught us that powerful communication can help anyone achieve any goal we have in life, but what are the 3 pillars of powerful communication, how can you strengthen each one, and what are you risking by never becoming a powerful communicator? What to Listen For First pillar of powerful communication – 0:00 What is the difference between hearing what someone is telling you vs actively listening to someone? What are the 3 layers of listening you need to understand so the people around you feel like they are important to you? What is the crucial skill you are missing to get ahead professionally, personally, and romantically? Second pillar of powerful communication – 22:17 What is the biggest pitfall you make in conversation that can kill a connection and make people not want to talk to you? How do you give people value in a conversation so they want to know more about you and spend more time with you? Third pillar of powerful communication – 35:53 What is the one thing you should pay attention to if you don’t want your friendships, relationships, or even your marriage to fail? What is an emotional bid and how do you recognize each of the 9 types in conversation so you can build long lasting connections with anyone you meet? A Word From Our Sponsors Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover relationship building and repairing with Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael is the founder of Box of Crayons, a learning and development company, and the author of several books including his bestseller The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever and his newest title How to Work with (Almost) Anyone: Five Questions for Building the Best Possible Relationships. Relationships are not easy to maintain and the best relationships take work, so how do you build the best relationships, what can you do to repair broken relationships, and how do you know you should just walk away? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What are the negative impacts of not having psychological safety in the workplace? Why is it important to seek relationships that go beyond safety? What questions can you ask so you can work with almost anyone? Increase productivity with language – 15:20 What is the best way to make a to-do list so you’ll actually complete it? What question can you ask to understand why people don’t like working with you? Repair the relationship – 31:20 What questions can you ask to stop a relationship from failing? What questions can you ask to repair a broken relationship? Can you reset a relationship? Choose your battles – 41:37 How do you know when you should walk away from a relationship or friendship? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover influence with Jonah Berger, Zoe Chance, and Vanessa Bohns. Jonah Berger is a professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania, a best selling author, and world expert in social influence and consumer behavior. Zoe Chance is a professor at Yale School of Management and a researcher, speaker and consultant who specializes in persuasion, influence and behavioral economics. Vanessa Bonds is a social psychologist and professor at Cornell University, and her research focuses on how people make judgments and decisions in social contexts. Humans are social creatures so we are always influencing others and being influenced by others, but how does influence work, how do you protect yourself from being influenced by others, and what can you do to become more influential? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How do others influence you without you being aware of it? What is the most common mistake we make when trying to influence the people around us and what should you do to avoid making the same mistake? The 3 layers of listening required for influence – 9:02 Why do you need to listen to others in order to influence them? What 3 things do you need to listen for so the other person knows you understand them and thus is more susceptible to your influence? One simple change to boost your influence – 15:07 What one word will amplify your ability to influence the person you’re talking to? What common mistake do people make when speaking that makes others less likely to respect what they have to say? Power of the pause – 31:20 Why is silence in conversation so impactful and how can you use it to your advantage? The number one reason you don’t try – 33:42 How do you reframe rejection so you can embrace it and grow from it rather than avoid it and stop yourself from achieving your goals? What’s the best way to reject someone so you don’t hurt the person’s feelings? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover how to master change with Brad Stulberg. Brad regularly contributes to the New York Times and his work has been featured in the Wall Street Journal and the Atlantic, and he is the bestselling author of Peak Performance, The Passion Paradox, The Practice of Groundedness, and his newest: Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing – Including You. Change can rock your world when you’re not prepared for it, so what can you do to become more resilient to change, how do you develop rugged flexibility, and what role does change play in our relationships? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How many major changes will you encounter in life and how do you prepare for them? How can you embrace change and use it to grow? What steps can we take to find balance in our own lives during times of change? Rugged Flexibility – 13:25 What is rugged flexibility, why do you need it, and how do you build it in your life? How to be resilient to change – 23:45 What are the two requirements to be resilient to change? How do you whittle down a list of values to your 3-5 core values and what impact can living in alignment with your core values have on your overall well-being? Control vs Expectations – 38:03 How do you balance the control you have over a situation with the expectations you have? How do you handle relationships with people who change in different ways from you? How do you set expectations with friendships to make your friends feel like they can always come to you? The 4-P framework to handle change – 57:58 What is the 4-P framework and how can you use it to handle any change you encounter in life? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover the expectation effect with David Robson. David is an award winning writer who specializes in psychology and neuroscience, and is the author of The Intelligence Trap: Why Smart People Make Dumb Mistakes, and his most recent book, The Expectation Effect: How Your Mind Can Change Your World. Your expectations can mean the difference between failure and success, but why do your expectations have such a drastic impact, how can you reframe your expectations to achieve success whenever possible, and how do you use visualization techniques to boost your performance in any area overnight? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What is the expectation effect and why do your expectations impact everything you do? Reframe expectations to reach your goals – 10:47 How can you reframe your expectations to enjoy working out and achieve the body you’ve always wanted? Why is it important for you to feel stress and how do you know what too much stress is? What can you do to reframe expectations to be comfortable with public speaking? Visualization and Performance – 26:22 What visualization technique can you use to increase your strength by 10% and recover from injury faster? How do you use visualization to decrease your stress and anxiety? How do the expectations of people around you affect your performance and what can you do to decrease their impact? Do not do this if you want to be happy – 40:10 What do you need to avoid doing if you want to maximize your happiness and minimize your daily suffering? How can you use science to increase your willpower? How can you harness the science of expectations to build the top performing routine that will reach any goal you set for yourself? How do you reframe frustration to help you grow? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover culture with Dr Marcus Collins. Marcus is an award-winning marketer and cultural translator, the head of strategy at Wieden+Kennedy New York, a clinical assistant professor of marketing at the Ross School of Business, University of Michigan, and the author of For the Culture: The Power Behind What We Buy, What We Do, and Who We Want to Be. Introduction Culture is as much a part of everyday life as the air we breathe, but how do we define what a culture is, what is the secret that marketers use to tap into culture and motivate you to take action, and how do you build your own culture (or find a new one)? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What does the word culture mean and why is culture so important to us? What are the three systems that make up culture? Fast Culture vs Slow Culture – 15:15 Why do certain aspects of culture move faster than others and how do they influence each other? Why is it taboo to talk openly about politics, religion, and money? Role Theory – 30:11 What is role theory and how is it embedded in every culture? What is the difference between cultural appropriation and cultural appreciation? How do you turn a trend into a cultural phenomenon – 45:28 What is a cultural contagion and what two factors determine whether something becomes an official part of a culture? If you’re not part of a culture, how do you understand a culture to appreciate it and understand where members of that culture are coming from? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover how to grow your charisma with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold. Charismatic people can light up a room and make everyone want to be around them, but what even is charisma, how does your charisma impact your career and relationships for better or worse, and what can you do to unlock your inner charisma to be more memorable and interesting? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What 3 skill sets do you need to work on to develop your charisma? How to Grow Your Charisma – 10:50 How do you practice being more present so people feel like you are not ignoring or dismissing them? What can you do to develop your empathy so people don’t feel judged by you and pushed away? How do you be more enthusiastic so people don’t think you’re boring? Emotional Climate – 25:00 What emotional climate are you creating around people and how do you make a fun, positive, inviting emotional climate that makes people want to spend more time with you? Why is pessimism detrimental to your charisma and how can you become optimistic? Confidence – 36:02 How do you exude confidence that draws people in everytime you walk into the room? Why is vulnerability key to showing confidence? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover deception and fraud with Chris Chabris. Chris is a research psychologist, Senior Investigator at Geisinger Health System, visiting fellow at the Institute for Advanced Study, and associate professor of Psychology and co-director of the Neuroscience Program at Union College in New York. Scammers and con men are everywhere these days, but how can you recognize when you’re being scammed, what behaviors or habits of your own should be aware of that tip you off as a potential victim, and what tactics do scammers, businesses, and governments use on us to get what they want? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Why are people fascinated by conmen and scammers? How did AJ get scammed in Thailand and what can you learn to avoid being scammed anywhere? How scammers choose their targets – 13:44 What 4 key cognitive habits do scammers exploit in their targets and how can you stop them from exploiting those habits in you? How we help scammers to scam us – 33:50 What do we unconsciously do to help people deceive us? How do people get away with large scale fraud and deception? What are the 4 hooks that businesses and governments use to deceive us? The weapons of scammers – 52:30 How do scammers and con men use words and memories against us? How does your memory deceive you every time you try to remember something? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover body language with former FBI agents Jack Schafer and Joe Navarro, trust and body language expert Abbie Maroño, and CEO of The Behavior Company Anne Maartje Oud, some of the leading experts in body language. We all possess the ability to read body language before we can form words, but in today’s world we seem to disregard this incredible ability early on, so what happened, why is it more important than ever, and what can you do to quickly relearn this invaluable skill? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Why we (now) suck at reading body language – 3:01 How did we get so bad at reading body language in the west when we’re born with this ability? What is the only thing you can do to change a first impression? How do you build trust rapidly and effectively? What makes sincere human connection – 11:22 What are the 3 components you need to build a sincere human connection? FBI advice for introverts – 23:01 When approaching a group of people, how do you know who is easiest to talk to? How do you know if you’re making someone uncomfortable and what can you do to make the other person comfortable? Body language myths – 31:25 What are the biggest misconceptions people have about body language? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box.  In today’s episode, we cover breaking the ice with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael. Taking the first step is often the hardest, so when it comes to breaking the ice what is the most effective way to strike up a conversation, what mindset can you cultivate that will make conversations flow effortlessly, and what can you do to become unforgettable in the eyes of people you meet? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How do you start conversations with strangers without coming off as awkward? The Conversation Formula – 7:50 What are some examples of simple questions to ask in social, romantic, or professional environments to start a conversation? Why is it important to focus on "we" moments in conversations rather than just talking about yourself? What questions should you avoid in conversation? What Should You Say Next – 21:24 Why should you avoid asking questions over and over again, and what should you say after someone answers your question? If curiosity is the key to great conversations, how do you cultivate your own curiosity so conversations don’t feel awkward and forced? What topics should you avoid when talking to someone new? Become Unforgettable – 27:57 How do you create a positive, memorable impression so people never forget you and look forward to spending time with you? What exercise can you use in a conversation to create a stronger bond with anyone? With all of these tips in mind, it's important to remember that building meaningful relationships still takes time and effort. It's not a one-time event; rather, it's an ongoing process that grows with each new connection. Working on developing meaningful relationships may bring success in the professional or personal goals desired. Nevertheless, it also requires a commitment to get out of your comfort zone, acknowledge different points of view, listen more than you talk, and ask thoughtful questions about the person and what they stand for. Ultimately, when we put care into connecting to others on a more focused level and look beyond our surface interests or intentions, we can create stronger connections that have a lasting impact on our lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover journaling with Ceri Samvilian. Ceri is an expert on journaling, a certified life coach, author of Journal and discover your authentic self, and speaker with 20 years of experience in human resources. The most important relationship you can have in life is with yourself, but how do you use journaling to nurture and strengthen that relationship, what simple journal prompt can you use to defeat overthinking, and when is it more important to journal so you are better capable of handling the inevitable tough times in life? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 If you’re feeling stuck in life, what can you do today to get unstuck and start building unstoppable momentum? How can you use journaling to figure out who your authentic self is? The Principles of Effective Journaling – 19:45 How do you start journaling? What questions can you ask yourself to make journaling productive? How can journaling help individuals become more self-aware? Who should journal? – 30:50 Why do men need to journal? When is it more important to journal? What questions can you ask yourself to improve your journaling practice and make it more enjoyable? The one thing all humans need in order to be happy? – 47:20 How does journaling help you find the one thing you need in order to be happy? How do the “masks” we wear prevent us from achieving our dreams? How do you identify the masks you wear around different people so you can understand where your road blocks are between you and your potential? Journaling is a powerful practice that helps bring clarity and understanding to even the most confusing of inner voices. It just takes a few simple steps to start living an empowered life, starting with choosing a pen, grabbing a notebook or opening an app, and selecting a prompt that works for you. Although self-development is often a bumpy road, Ceri's journal can help you navigate it more easily and string those bumps together into mountains of success and joy for your future. Don’t let the intimidating thought of taking that first step prevent you from reaping its rewards. You deserve to be authentic, so set aside some time today for self-reflection and overthinking prevention—start journaling now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover leadership, relationship building, and feedback with Brett Crozier. Brett graduated from the United States Naval Academy, served as the Commanding Officer of a combat F/A-18 strike fighter squadron, the world’s largest and most advanced communications ship USS Blue Ridge, and the aircraft carrier USS Theodore Roosevelt before retiring from the Navy in 2022. Brett is the author of Surf When You Can: Lessons in Life, Loyalty, and Leadership from a Maverick Navy Captain. On this episode of The Art of Charm, we interview Brett Crozier, retired Captain of the US Navy and former Commanding Officer of the USS Roosevelt. We dive into the importance of teamwork and leadership in implementing successful missions and running a floating city. Brett shares his experiences launching fighter jets and navigating the challenges of COVID-19 on the Roosevelt. He also provides valuable insights on building relationships and feedback mechanisms as a leader. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Why has surfing always been important to Brett? What goals did Brett have when he first entered the Naval Academy? How did Brett’s fighter pilot experience influence his leadership abilities? Building Trust Cross Culturally – 10:08 How do you build trust with someone from a different culture? Why are sports important to building relationships in structures of hierarchy? Relying on Instincts When Training isn’t Enough – 23:47 What do you do when you encounter a situation that wasn’t covered in class or training? How do you make sure you get quality feedback from the people who matter? What two traits do you need to develop to be an effective leader? Navy Captain Sends Email, Gets Fired – 37:55 Why did Brett Crozier lose his position as Captain of an aircraft carrier when COVID started? Leadership is more than simply a position of authority; it's an opportunity to build relationships, bridge divides, and promote safe and healthy practices. From this discussion we can take away valuable lessons for not only overcoming challenges but also directing a team towards sustainable success. We can treat each situation as an opportunity to learn, grow, and build meaningful connections while developing skills that will aid us when leading others anywhere be it at home or work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover how to become the super connector everyone wants to know. Super Connectors aren't born with some special talent. By understanding what others value from a connection, focusing on how each person can help the other rather than focusing on what's in it for themselves, and making sure all interactions leave both parties feeling inspired and motivated, super connectors make invaluable connections that open doors to success. In this episode we explore what makes a successful super connector as well as simple steps to get on track towards becoming one yourself. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Adam Grant and the Secret to Effective Networking – 3:35 How do you amplify your social capital and build a high value network in five minutes? What is the secret to making your networking efforts more effective? Super Connector Toolbox – 28:40 What is the best way to introduce two people you think will benefit from knowing each other? What’s the best way to follow up with someone you meet at a networking event? Keith Ferrazzi and Upgrading Acquaintances to Friends – 36:50 What are the 8 attributes of a high performing relationship? How do you turn an acquaintance into a lifelong friend? Building a high value network and amplifying your social capital need not be a long, drawn out process. Just five minutes a day can go a long way in making your connections more valuable and meaningful. Start by introducing two people that you think could benefit from knowing each other, as this is a great way to get the ball rolling. Following up with someone soon after meeting them at an event is important to foster a new relationship. Connecting on an emotional level, being sincere, and sharing your knowledge are all essential pieces for creating strong bonds with others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover how patterns from your childhood impact your current relationships with Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is a licensed family and marriage therapist, the author of the national bestseller The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love, We all have behaviors that help and hurt us, but the behaviors that hurt us aren’t always obvious, so what can you do to identify the behavioral patterns that negatively impact your life and relationships and what can you do to overcome them so you can build confidence and long-lasting fulfilling relationships? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How do our childhood experiences create patterns in our relationships, behavior, and communication? Identifying old wounds you don’t know about – 14:40 What are the obvious signs you have detrimental thought patterns left over from your childhood that are negatively impacting your relationships today? How do you stop dating people who aren’t good for you? Breaking patterns and healing old wounds – 29:00 What steps can you take to break harmful patterns in yourself and heal the wounds that cause the patterns to keep repeating? The value of grief – 39:50 What is grief exactly and why is it important to feel and process grief when we experience it? How does dealing with your grief improve your relationships and prevent them from failing? Breaking childhood patterns is something that can take time, but it is an important step for anyone in order to create relationships that are healthy and fulfilling. Whether you are trying to build healthier relationships with friends or a romantic partner, understanding your family system is key. Taking a closer look at the childhood patterns that show up in adult life can provide insight into how we interact with others and sabotage our social and romantic relationships. By implementing the four-step process laid out in this episode, you can start breaking these patterns today, pivot in directions that bring joy and confidence, and create more dynamic relationships as a result of it. After working through this process, you will be empowered by the new-found understanding of what brought you to your current reality - giving yourself permission to make different choices going forward will reward you mentally and affirmingly for many years to come. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover dating and building attraction effortlessly with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold. Technology has made it easier than ever to stay connected, so why are we dealing with a pandemic of loneliness and what can you do to lift yourself out of it and create a vibrant social life? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Does the pandemic of loneliness affect men or women more and what can we do about it? What 3 areas in your life is technology hindering you the most and what can you do to develop them, unlocking your true potential? Go from Ordinary to Extraordinary – 13:02 What can you do to be extraordinary and remain authentic to who you are? How do you learn to be funnier and more charming? Building Rock Solid Confidence – 25:35 How do you build confidence and why do you need to work on it in order to maintain it? All Men Need a Vibrant Social Life – 35:23 Why is it important to have a vibrant social circle if you want to find a quality romantic partner? How do you build a social life women will be excited to be a part of? Loneliness affects us all. To conquer this sadness we need to work on ourselves and embrace technology but also find ways to have genuine human interactions. Begin by building confidence which comes from pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, openly expressing your feelings and striving to be the best version of yourself. Socializing with others is also essential for living a fulfilled life, as it helps you build connections and find prospective romantic partners. By being authentic, striving for excellence and working on self-improvement you can become an extraordinary individual while also valuing companionship without disregarding your independence. Start making connections today that will help you release the pandemic of loneliness in your life and boost your chances of living an enriching life full of quality relationships! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog’s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm. Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton’s classes don’t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you’ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America’s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today’s episode, we cover the importance of improvising with Kelly Leonard. Kelly's career in the theater industry began by accident. He was hired as a dishwasher at Second City in Chicago, where he met John Favreau. He realized improv was not magic, but a skill that could be practiced and applied in business, parenting, and relationships. Kelly established himself as an executive producer for Second City, coordinating performances for generations of comics, actors, and writers. Kelly has written a book, "Yes, And," outlining how he believes the core principles behind improvisation can be applied to spark and drive collaboration. In this episode of The Art of Charm, we explore the world of improvisation and its many benefits in communication, comedy, and creativity. From empathy and collaboration to resilience through failure, our guest speaker shares his experiences using improv to navigate ambiguity and uncertainty. We discuss the importance of listening, reframing, and storytelling, as well as the concept of post traumatic growth. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How did Kelly Leonard get started in improv? Why is improv important for innovation? The Core Principles of Improv – 10:58 What are the core principles of improv and why do they apply to many areas of life? How do you lead a healthy conversation with someone you disagree with? The Magic of Mistakes – 24:02 How do we leverage mistakes to create success or make progress toward your goals? What simple exercise can you use to reframe negative events in your life to be positive? Creating Comedy – 42:30 How do you formally create comedy? How do you give status to people you’re talking to? What simple tool can you start using today to make conversations easier, engaging, and more fun for anyone involved? Many of us are familiar with improv comedy but did you know the principles of improv can be used in business, parenting, and relationships? Every time you have a conversation with someone, you are improvising because you can’t predict what the other person will say and so you must improvise every time the other person responds to something you say. The best conversations are fluid and dynamic, making both people feel comfortable and natural. But to be good at improvising, you must practice it just like you would any other skill. Resources from this Episode Yes, And: How Improvisation Reverses "No, But" Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration by Kelly Leonard Kelly Leonard on Twitter Second City’s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices