We Can Do Hard Things

352. Which Day of the Week Are You? Abby, Glennon and Amanda discuss what day of the week they each are, why we do things we don’t want to do, and how to stop giving unsolicited advice. Discover: -Why we should celebrate divorce and endings more; -Unsolicited advice and what to do if you find yourself giving it; -Why you might be engaging in trauma reenactment; and -What’s happening when you feel the Sunday Scaries. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

351. How to Have *Healthy* Conflict with Amanda Ripley Conflict expert and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is back to give us a conflict resolution 101 guide and delve into some real-life examples from Abby and Glennon’s relationship. Discover: -The best way to diffuse a high-conflict person from going further; -The binary thinking that makes fighting with a spouse feel so painful–plus, the antidote; -How to disagree while still holding someone else’s perspective; and -Why it’s important to know your shame responses in order to have better conflicts. For the first part of our conversation, check out Episode 330 Handling Conflict Right with Amanda Ripley. About Amanda: Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and author. Her most recent book is High Conflict, which chronicles how people get trapped by conflicts of all kinds—and how they get out. Her previous books include The Unthinkable, and The Smartest Kids in the World, a New York Times bestseller which was also turned into a documentary film. IG: @ripleywriter @thegoodconflict To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, we’re sharing our first conversation with one of our favorite teachers – Martha Beck. We talk about letting go of control, cultivating joy, strategies for making hard decisions when we’re scared, and learning to recognize and pursue what feels like freedom. Discover: -How do we tap back into living by our inner compass after living by consensus and following outer voices for so long? -What Martha said to Glennon and Abby when they told her they were in love but scared to move forward—and how that advice changed their lives. -How to make a plan to cultivate joy when it feels like you are army-crawling through life. About Martha: Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her most recent book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller. IG: @themarthabeck To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

350. Secrets to a Joyful Life with Ina Garten Ina Garten – the iconic Barefoot Contessa – shares her best life and business advice and her tips for how to host a successful dinner party. Plus, the details behind an unforgettable night with Abby, Ina, Taylor Swift, and beer pong; Discover: -Ina’s surefire way to silence the inner-critic; -Why satisfaction has everything to do with not settling; and -What the key to having a fun dinner party can teach us about life. About Ina: Ina Garten has hosted her Emmy and James Beard Award winning show, Barefoot Contessa, on the Food Network since 2002 and recently launched a new interview focused series, Be My Guest, with Food Network and discovery+. She has published thirteen cookbooks, including eleven #1 New York Times bestsellers. In 2015 Ina Garten was named one of Time Magazine’s 100 Most Influential People. She lives in East Hampton, New York with her husband, Jeffrey. Her new memoir Be Ready When the Luck Happens is available now. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Part systems expert, part permission giver, Kendra Adachi, The Lazy Genius, is here to help you be a genius about the things that matter and lazy about the things that don't. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

349. How to Stop Pleasing and Start Living Amanda and Glennon answer your questions about friendship, mental health, people pleasing and the difference between boundaries and control. Discover: -Why if you’re a person who “goes with the flow” you might want to reconsider; -What to do when you feel the loss of a friend getting into a new relationship; -The truth about married men who refuse to socialize with women who are not their wife; and -The healing power of getting a mental health diagnosis later in life. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you remember where you were? On September 27, 2018, as Dr. Christine Blasey Ford raised her right hand and testified in the hearings of Brett Kavanaugh—who would go on to be confirmed to a lifetime appointment on the highest court in the nation. This week marks six years since we were eyewitnesses to her historic, courageous patriotism. In honor of her bravery and resolve, today we reshare our powerful conversation with Dr. Christine Blasey Ford—about the heartbreak, and hope, of being an American woman. About Dr. Ford: Dr. Christine Blasey Ford is a professor of psychology at Palo Alto University and a clinical professor and consulting biostatistician at the Stanford University School of Medicine. On September 27, 2018, Dr. Ford testified before the Senate Judiciary Committee regarding her sexual assault in connection with the Committee’s consideration of Judge Brett Kavanaugh’s lifetime confirmation to the United States Supreme Court. Following her testimony, Ford and her family endured constant intimidation, harassment, and death threats forcing them to move out of their home, living in various secure locales with guards. In 2019, she was named one of the 100 most influential people in Time 100. Dr. Ford’s memoir, ONE WAY BACK, is available now. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

348. How to Quiet Your Inner Critic with Dr. Kristin Neff Dr. Kristin Neff shares the secret to self-compassion and how to lessen our inner critic’s voice in order to build self-worth. Discover: -The 20-second daily practice you need to increase your self-compassion; -How to use your compassion for others as a template for how to treat yourself; -How to give your inner-critic a software update; and -The “fierce” self-compassion and what it has to do with drawing boundaries. On The Guest: Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, and co-founder of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion more than twenty years ago. Kristin runs the Self-Compassion Community, an online learning platform where people can learn the skill of self-compassion with the help of others. She is author of the bestselling books Self-Compassion and Fierce Self-Compassion. She also co-wrote The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and has a new book called Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout coming out in Fall 2024. Order her latest book here: https://self-compassion.org/ To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

347. The Cycles We’re Breaking: Abby, Amanda & Glennon Abby, Glennon, and Amanda discuss Tuesday’s conversation with Dr. Mariel Buqué about intergenerational trauma. Each share examples of how they’re working on healing it in their lives and families. Discover: -Abby’s hilarious and heartbreaking breakdown that revealed how deeply she’s into her healing work. -Why Glennon no longer believes that she has a debilitating mental illness; and -The shocking study that made Amanda feel a kinship with mice (literally). Check out Episode 346. How to Break Family Cycles: Dr. Mariel Buqué here. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, we’re resharing a special one. Dear Sugar herself – Cheryl Strayed – joined us to do what she does best: offer her best advice in response to your questions on co-parenting after infidelity, setting boundaries with friends, reconciling an estranged parent relationship, and so much more. Discover: - Why Cheryl says every problem she’s ever had has been solved by a list. - The question Cheryl gets asked over and over again–and how she just helps advice seekers understand what they’re really asking. - How to know a truth thing–and to live by that. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

346. How to Break Family Cycles: Dr. Mariel Buqué Psychologist, Dr. Mariel Buqué, joins us to discuss intergenerational trauma – and how understanding the generations that came before us can lead to profound healing. Discover: -The symptoms that signal that you might have inherited trauma; -The most powerful sentence to say to your child to provide them healing; -How to reframe family loyalty – and why it’s never too late to do this work. About Dr. Buqué: Dr. Mariel Buqué is a first-generation, Black Dominican psychologist, a world-renowned trauma expert, and the author of the bestselling book Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma. Her mission is to help reduce the recurrence of Intergenerational ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences). To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Glennon shares more about going off of antidepressants including a rock bottom moment, what this time of discovery has revealed about where she still needs to heal and the latest tool she has found that’s helping her through. Please note this episode does not contain medical advice and only serves to share Glennon’s personal experience. To hear part one of this conversation, Ep 344 Glennon: Her New Life Off Meds, click here! To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sonya Renee Taylor – author of The Body is Not an Apology – explores the personal and global promise of Radical Self Love: Discover: 1. Examining the way we talk to our bodies – and how to change negative self-dialogue. 2. How to shift from a relationship with our body based on dominance and control to a relationship based on trust. 3. The pitfalls of “body positivity.” 4. The full life that is possible only if we stop believing our body is our enemy, and start seeing our body as a teammate. About Sonya: Sonya Renee Taylor is a world-renowned activist, award-winning artist, transformational thought leader, author of six books including The New York Times best selling The Body is Not an Apology, and founder of the international movement and digital media and education company of the same name whose work has reached millions of people by exploring the intersections of identity, healing, and social justice using a radical self-love framework. She continues to speak, teach,write, create, and transform lives globally. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Glennon shares her experience of going off medication after decades on…the highly personal reason she did it, what it’s been like so far, and what’s next. Please note this episode does not contain medical advice and only serves to share Glennon’s personal experience. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Glennon, Abby and Amanda *attempt* to do a ‘fun’ rapid fire but find themselves in deep discussion about setting boundaries, self regulation, and how to find your unique marrow of life. Discover: -How to know if you are a warm person, cool person or a combo of both. -Which type of person Glennon, Abby, and Amanda each see themselves as; and -What you might need to do if you identify as a people pleaser. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Becky Kennedy shares how we can connect better with our kids. Discover: 1. How to embody your authority while also validating your kid’s experience. 2. The #1 strategy for building resilience. 3. Why consequences and punishments backfire and don’t work. 4. How to sit with your child on the “benches” of their emotions. 5. One thing you can say to your kids to build connection in any circumstance. About Dr. Becky: Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist and mom of three, named “The Millennial Parenting Whisperer” by TIME Magazine. She’s rethinking the way we raise our children – empowering parents to feel sturdier and more equipped to manage the challenges of parenting. Dr. Becky is founder of the Good Inside Membership platform, a hub with Dr. Becky’s complete parenting content collection all in one place; author of Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, which is out this month. And her podcast “Good Inside with Dr. Becky” – was one of Apple Podcasts “Best Shows of 2021. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today is a big day! Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson joins Glennon and Amanda to share her deeply personal journey to becoming the first Black woman Justice of the Supreme Court of the United States. Discover: How four misspelled words changed her entire world view; How the angel she encountered for 5 seconds at Harvard kept her striving; What her Autistic daughter taught her about living well; Her grandmother’s advice that keeps her undistracted by the unfairness she faces; and How the Supreme Court’s presidential immunity ruling affects democracy. Justice Jackson’s beautiful new memoir, Lovely One, is out today! On the Guest: Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson received her undergraduate and law degrees, both with honors, from Harvard University, then served as a law clerk for three federal judges, practiced law in the private sector, worked as Commissioner of the U.S. Sentencing Commission, and served as an assistant federal public defender. President Obama nominated Justice Jackson to the U.S. District Court for the District of Columbia. Elevated to the U.S. Court of Appeals for the District of Columbia Circuit in 2021, Justice Jackson made history in 2022 when President Biden nominated her as an Associate Justice. One of only 115 people in history to have the job – and the Black woman ever to have the job – she was confirmed to the Supreme Court of the United States, and took her seat on June 30, 2022. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

341. Abby: How to Move On after Grief In part two of Abby’s sharing about the loss of her eldest brother, Peter – she opens up more about the revelations that her journey with grief has taught her about life. To hear the first part of our conversation on grief, check out Episode 340. How Abby Survived Her Biggest Loss Discover: -Why Abby now looks at grief like a friend; -The beautiful story of how Peter saved Abby’s life and how that hits her now; and -What was truly underneath Abby’s outsized fear of death this whole time. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, we're revisiting one of our favorites. Enneagram Godmother Suzanne Stabile guides us through: What the hell is the Enneagram and why does it matter? -The gifts and struggles each Enneagram type faces; -Why the worst part of you is also the BEST part of you; -The core desire / fear that explains your behavior; and -Why, if Suzanne ever needs brain surgery, she’s finding a doctor who’s an Enneagram 1 And we FINALLY answer the question: Is Amanda a 3 or a 1? To continue with follow up episode to this one, check out: Fix Your Most Important Relationships with the Enneagram: Suzanne Stabile. About Suzanne: Suzanne Stabile is an internationally-recognized Enneagram teacher. She is the co-author of The Road Back to You, and the author of The Path Between Us and The Journey Toward Wholeness. With backgrounds in sociology and theology, Suzanne has served as a high school professor; the first women’s basketball coach at SMU after Title IX; and as the founding Director of Shared Housing, a social service agency in Dallas. Suzanne lives in Dallas with her husband Rev. Joseph Stabile. She is the mother of four children and grandmother of nine. TW: @SuzanneStabile IG: @suzannestabile To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

340. How Abby Survived Her Biggest Loss Abby shares an intimate account of the loss of her eldest brother, Peter, at the end of 2023. She describes the emotional turmoil she’s experienced and how she’s coping with her family's grief, the planning of the service, and the overwhelming mix of emotions she continues to feel surrounding grief and death. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices