Anatomy of Us

Today, we hear from a listener who shares a common observation experienced by people on a personal development journey: no longer being able to identify with what family and friends think about, talk about, and feel. This completely normal phenomenon can be jarring and confusing when first encountered, so Seth and I share how we have worked through this in our own relationships. Share what you are learning by leaving us a message on The Holiday Hotline (425) 310-2467 LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Subscribe to Our Channel: https://www.youtube.com/thestudleys Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us We are sponsored by Factor. For 50% off visit factormeals.com/aou50 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we are sharing a concept we use with our High-Performance Marriage Coaching Clients called the Straight and Narrow Path. This idea helps couples identify a marriage goal and then (the most critical part) create a straight and narrow path to help them reach their goal! The Straight and Narrow Path reduces decision fatigue and gives couples clarity on how to have relationship success each and every day! This is also a game-changer for parenting, fitness goals, emotional intelligence goals, and more! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Subscribe to Our Channel: https://www.youtube.com/thestudleys Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us We are sponsored by Factor. For 50% off visit factormeals.com/aou50 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we discuss how couples can transform their relationship by engaging in “Marriage Mode”! Similar to Marshawn Lynch’s Beast Mode, Marriage Mode uses six key points to help couples create and maintain a powerful mindset around their relationship. 1. Mental Focus and Determination 2. Increased Intensity 3. Flow State 4. Adrenaline Release 5. Preparation and Training 6. Positive Mindset LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Subscribe to Our Channel: https://www.youtube.com/thestudleys Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us We are sponsored by Factor. For 50% off visit factormeals.com/aou50 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we are so excited to share two big announcements! The Holiday Hotline & The AOU Call-in Show! On the Holiday Hotline, we are letting you vent about your crazy in-laws, how your wife turns into a spoiled brat when she visits her parents for Christmas, and the annoying fights you get in over things like opening a present on Christmas Eve or Christmas morning! Bring it on because we can handle it AND give you helpful tips, tools, advice and strategies to make your holidays a little less stressful this year! We are also sharing our new Anatomy Of Us Call-in show, where we will speak directly with YOU about all things marriage, parenting, in-laws, personal growth, you name it! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Subscribe to Our Channel: https://www.youtube.com/thestudleys Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we continue the conversation about Janet G. Woititz's book Adult Children of Alcoholics. This book provides wisdom and information for people who grew up in homes affected by addiction. It also addresses the patterns found in dysfunctional families and what folks can do to learn better relational skills. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Subscribe to Our Channel: https://www.youtube.com/thestudleys Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we discuss the profoundly impactful book Adult Children of Alcoholics by Janet G. Woititz. This book has had a significant impact on Seth, and it provides wisdom and information for people who grew up in homes affected by addiction. It also addresses the patterns found in dysfunctional families and how they impact those individuals, especially in relationships and decision making. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Subscribe to Our Channel: https://www.youtube.com/thestudleys Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, Melanie shares the true process of healing. Whether you are healing from an affair, healing from financial infidelity, trauma, or your own childhood, this episode will give you a deeper understanding of the timeline and nature of true and lasting healing. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Subscribe to Our Channel: https://www.youtube.com/thestudleys Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Seth and Melanie recently completed 75 hard together, and Seth talks about how it hurt them and also how it can create so much connectedness and freedom--it's amazing! You've heard Melanie and Seth talk about this before and in this episode, Seth talks about what 75 hard is, how it hurt them, and 7 ways that it ignited growth like never before. Doing the program together with a spouse can create a shared goal and common ground for conversation, create camaraderie, achieving shared goals, encouraging discipline, and saving $$$! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Subscribe to Our Channel: https://www.youtube.com/thestudleys Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Seth talks about the concept of Self Validation vs. Others Validation. Credit to Rachel Wortman and Melanie here. Self Validation is the feeling of having recognized, confirmed, or established one's own worthiness or legitimacy. Do you like or prefer something if others like it too? This concept is fine if you're not in a relationship but can be very overwhelming for your partner if you are too Others Validating. Journal, Set Alarms, Affirmations, Stop Thoughts and Shaking some truth on it are some of the practical tips that Seth walks you through in this episode. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Subscribe to Our Channel: https://www.youtube.com/thestudleys Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Seth and Melanie answer a listener question about walking through the early phases of parenting with a wife who is touched out. With two young kids, this husband is struggling to feel connected with his wife and is looking for some helpful advice! https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Subscribe to Our Channel: https://www.youtube.com/thestudleys Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we are talking about using artwork to help you see yourself with new eyes and to truly visualize your future in a new and empowering way. Melanie shares her personal journey of personal growth and wanting to level up in various aspects of life. She describes how she had a transformative experience in a Christian group where people described her as a warrior with armor. To solidify this vision, Melanie created an AI-generated image of a strong, armored woman as a screensaver on her computer. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: https://anatomyofus.com/womens-group-coaching Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we help couples focus on the things that they truly want in marriage, and we share how creating a laser focus (or a "narrow path") can help them succeed in creating a happy marriage! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: https://anatomyofus.com/womens-group-coaching Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we call up Bryan Ward of the Dad Up Podcast and talk about what it takes to show up fully for your kiddos! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: https://anatomyofus.com/womens-group-coaching Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we called up our friend Dr. John Delony and talked about his brand new book Own Your Past Change Your Future. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: https://anatomyofus.com/womens-group-coaching Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we explore the Enneagram with the awesome Beth and Jeff McCord of Your Enneagram Coach. We talk about the impact that understanding the Enneagram has on your relationships, and how it is a tool for building compassion and empathy. Seth also shares his journey with discovering his own 9-ness and what that means in our marriage. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: https://anatomyofus.com/womens-group-coaching Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today Seth shares the ways that he hasn't been stepping up to the plate in marriage in hopes that it will help husbands become stronger leaders and men. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: https://anatomyofus.com/womens-group-coaching Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we talk with Dr. David Hawkins of Marriage Recover Center about all things Narcissism & Emotional Abuse! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: https://anatomyofus.com/womens-group-coaching Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Seth and Melanie talk in more detail about the impact of Spiritual Warfare in marriage, and they share tools to fight against it! Download the Power Couple List: https://anatomyofus.com/resources LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: https://anatomyofus.com/womens-group-coaching Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we answer a listener's question about how to rekindle the sexual flame in marriage! To listen to the full episode, subscribe on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: https://anatomyofus.com/womens-group-coaching Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today Melanie discusses all things Nervous System with Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof of the Trauma Rewired Podcast! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: https://anatomyofus.com/womens-group-coaching Join Seth's Badass Husband Mastermind: badasshusband.com Download the Clearing Structure in the Resources section at https://www.anatomyofus.com/ We are sponsored by BetterHelp. To find a virtual counselor visit http://betterhelp.com/us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices