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Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064 or send your own recording to voicemail@savagelovecast.com. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a Magnum subscription.

Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064 or send your own recording to voicemail@savagelovecast.com. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a Magnum subscription.

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Seattle, WA

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Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064 or send your own recording to voicemail@savagelovecast.com. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a Magnum subscription.

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English


Episodes

Savage Love Episode 777

9/14/2021
A woman had sex with her super-hot neighbor. Then she found out that not only is he unvaccinated, but uses a fake vax card. Should she continue to share her body with this monster? A young gay man wants to be able to both top and bottom. But when he's topping his gets so in his head that he loses his erection. Dan Savage! Help this man keep a rock hard boner! On the Magnum, a caller who escaped her family's cult when she was a teen has been invited to her sister's wedding. But their abusive...

Duration:00:51:36

Savage Love Episode 776

9/7/2021
Have you ever lost a dildo up your butt? This man has, but somehow the tale ends up as our opening "sexcess" story. A 51 year-old woman is seeing a 33 year-old man. It's fantastic, but how long can it last? On the Magnum, Dan brings back Lina Dune, from "Ask a Sub" to talk about some subby listener questions and her new podcast. Finally, a couple won't watch porn for ethical reasons. And he doesn't want to be poly or open. She wonders...how can they have any fun?! 206-302-2064...

Duration:00:49:45

Savage Love Episode 775

8/31/2021
A man's randy co-worker has slept with the wives of other workers and tons of women on the job. He nearly got fired for it, but he's back. Should the caller confront this man and tell him to knock it off? Warn all the females on staff? If someone you were chatting with from an app told you that his previous relationship was with his own therapist, would you consider this a red flag? Would you meet him anyway? On the Magnum, great news! Apple is installing mass surveillance on the iPhone....

Duration:00:47:12

Savage Love Episode 774

8/24/2021
Everyone's worried that they are taking up too much space. A straight man feels guilty that he signed up for an activity meant for folks in the LGBT community. And, a transman ventured into a gay leather bar with his girlfriend and got the stink-eye. Is it cool to bring your girlfriend into dedicated gay male space? Everybody's talking about the new animated educational series "Welcome to Kinkyville" that's being developed. Dan interviews co-creator/host Emily Blake about this awesome...

Duration:00:53:38

Savage Love Episode 773

8/17/2021
On this episode, we are treated to a couple of calls concerning pronouns. One comes from a man who doesn't understand how to use the familiar 2nd person plural when one or more are non-binary. Another comes from a man who proposes a new catch all gender-neutral pronoun to rule us all. Will it stick? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr Carole Hooven, author of Testosterone: The Story of the Hormone that Dominates and Divides Us. They discuss how testosterone works, and how we all have to live...

Duration:00:48:43

Savage Love Episode 772

8/10/2021
A woman is sick of being a dirty little secret. Her boyfriend's ex-partner would withhold access to the kids if she found out about the relationship. Can she demand that he tell his ex? A woman fantasizes that she's a gay man when she's having sex. But the rest of the time, she feels like a cis woman. Dan issues a label for her and sends her on her way. On the Magnum, a comedian is creeped out that her ex-boyfriend might come heckle her at her stand-up shows. Dan welcomes comedian Jen...

Duration:00:51:23

Savage Love Episode 771

8/3/2021
Our opening "sexcess" story will make all the licensed massage therapists cringe. We are truly sorry. A woman and her girlfriend have gotten in the habit of using baby voices with each other. They know this is terrible, but they can't stop. Dan! Make them stop! On the Magnum, Dan continues crushing out on dominatrixes. This week, he interviews Goddess Charlotte Lashes about financial domination, kinky conservatives, and boyfriends who are being dominated by their mothers. Goddess Charlotte...

Duration:00:48:44

Savage Love Episode 770

7/27/2021
A nice bi man just wanted to join a nudist community and hang out with his nudist homies, not wearing any clothes and being naked. He certainly DID NOT want to be ogled or groped by the creepy leader of the group. So now what? Should he try to oust the creep, give up on the group, or return and try to avoid him? A woman learned that her boyfriend has been leading a secret double life. Have you ever led a secret double life? Well! This man's secret double life involves an online dom...

Duration:00:50:40

Savage Love Episode 769

7/20/2021
Women beware! A new form of negging has emerged. If you followed a hook-up on Instagram, but he didn't follow you back, it could be INSTA-NEGGING. A trans man iplans to do a lot more butt sex once he has bottom surgery. How can he prepare on a daily basis? On the Magnum, is it ever ok to leave your wife when you are in your 70s? Dan and senior sex writer Joan Price disagree... And, a lesbian begs all those straight couples who pour into lesbian bars at closing time looking for women to be in...

Duration:00:55:17

Savage Love Episode 768

7/13/2021
A bi woman wants to try three-ways with her boyfriend. He enthusiastically agrees. But it's been a while since she's been with a woman, and wants to have a trial run with just her unicorn. Now, he's getting a little nervous... A woman with a 12 year-old son has been toying with the idea of starting an Only Fans account. The problem? Her son might see some of her content. How can she have this very difficult parental conversation? In one of our favorite interviews of all time, Dan brings on...

Duration:00:56:22

Savage Love Episode 767

7/6/2021
Dear Emily Post: What am I to do when I encounter my boyfriend in the basement enjoying large amounts of cocaine, in women's attire, with a gentleman we both know very well? A kinky woman already agreed to open up her relationship with her boyfriend. So why did he have to go out and cheat? On the Magnum, a very ethical stripper, bartender and sugar baby has contracted MRSA and worries she is putting others at risk. Not sure what MRSA is? Well, you will know plenty about it after you listen...

Duration:00:43:14

Savage Love Episode 766

6/29/2021
After a dazzling "sexcess" story, we launch into three tales of dreadful parents. Conservative, manipulative, disrespectful, bigoted parents. If you have this kind of parent, our hearts go out to you. Are you a thoughtful gift giver? This woman is, and she REALLY wishes her boyfriend would reciprocate... On the Magnum: Save the lesbian bars! For they are disappearing. Dan interviews Lea Delaria (from "Orange is the New Black") about the Lesbian Bar Project. Kick in, won't you?...

Duration:00:59:11

Savage Love Episode 765

6/22/2021
A mother in Central America is worried that her son is being a little too risky when he walks home from the beach in women's clothing. When she confronts him about this, he calls her a transphobic, homophobic boomer. Teens! Am I right? A woman is afraid that her boyfriend will cheat on her. And yet, she fantasizes that her boyfriend is cheating on her. How can she preserve her self-esteem while indulging her cuckqueen instincts? On the Magnum, it turns out the ancient Greeks were wrong about...

Duration:00:48:31

Savage Love Episode 764

6/15/2021
Our opening "Sexcess" story should flood all you postpartum parents with optimism. A married straight couple has an arrangement where she can go outside the relationship, and he remains monogamous to her. All good. But she wants to tell everyone about it, and he wants to keep it under wraps. Who wins? On the Magnum, meet the elite proctologist and anal surgeon, Dr. Evan Goldstein of Bespoke Surgical. He and Dan talk about centering pleasure and beauty in proctology. We loved Dr. Goldstein,...

Duration:00:51:13

Savage Love Episode 763

6/8/2021
Sometimes the "happy ending" in an erotic massage can go both ways. Our caller enjoyed orally pleasuring his masseuse so much that he wants to continue the relationship outside the parlor. What is the proper etiquette for asking out an erotic massage practitioner? (Sorry LMTs! We know you don't want to hear ANY of this...) A married woman discovered a gif of jiggly boobs with her sister's face superimposed over them. Where did she see this? On her husband's computer of course. So now what?...

Duration:00:51:16

Savage Love Episode 762

6/1/2021
Dan! Dan! My dildos melted together in the drawer! Horrifically, this is not uncommon if you buy cheap-ass sex toys. A gay man is establishing a potentially great friends-with-benefits relationship. The problem? The guy won't stop sending him stupid little memes all the damn day long. How can our caller put an end to this childish behavior? Over on the Magnum, a Nervous Norman is worried about possible harm that could come to his willy if he got a vasectomy. Reassurance arrives in the form...

Duration:00:50:56

Savage Love Episode 761

5/25/2021
Our opening "sex-cess" story is extra delightful this week, because it centers the "Climbing Boy." Our caller advises you to get yourself one, pronto. Ok, neo-pronouns. Just how ridiculous are they? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Seattle writer Matt Baume about the friendly, pervy world of furries and the super-interesting work they've been doing with virtual reality spaces. And, commenting on a shopgirl's ass- can you get away with it if you're a queer woman? 206-302-2064 This episode is...

Duration:00:50:53

Savage Love Episode 760

5/18/2021
Boundaries are hard! For instance, a married couple of 12 years decided to open the relationship. So naturally, she started sleeping with her husband's brother in their own house. Of course. And! If you knocked on the door, and your kid confessed that they were masturbating, would you A) Mutter, "Sorry!" and walk away. B) Walk in and chuckle at the site of their underpants. C) Run screaming from the building. You'll have to listen to learn what this lady did. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with...

Duration:00:50:47

Savage Love Episode 759

5/11/2021
My, what a fetish-y show we have for you this week! Genital stretching? Check. Chastity belts? Sure. Piss play? Why not? Gainer/Feeder? Let's go! In a more wholesome turn, Dan welcomes Dr. Debby Herbenick back to the show. The sex educator answers a question about the nature of multiple orgasms for women and the unwelcome phenomenon of sex headaches. And finally, Dan gets into some complex thermodynamics as he explains how to keep your dildo nice and cold. But not too cold. 206-302-2064...

Duration:00:53:58

Savage Love Episode 758

5/4/2021
It's a boy! A pregnant woman upon learning the sex of her unborn baby is devastated that she's not getting the daughter she always dreamed of. Can she learn to love...a son? Have you heard the Death, Sex & Money podcast with Anna Sale? Well! Anna joined us to talk about her new book "Let's Talk About Hard Things." She and Dan answered a few calls together, which somehow leads to a discussion about an esoteric BJ technique. Some is on the Micro, all is on the Magnum. A married lesbian found...

Duration:00:53:21