School of Self-Image

The Responsible Hedonist: Balancing Pleasure and Responsibility In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh explores the philosophy of hedonism and how it can be practiced responsibly. She discusses the importance of prioritizing pleasure and happiness in life, while also being ethical and making choices that positively impact the world. Tonya shares her personal experience of being accused of being a hedonist and how she embraces it as a compliment. Despite growing up in a culture that viewed pleasure as sinful, she believes in finding a balance and maximizing life's pleasures. Tune in to learn how to be a responsible hedonist and create a better, brighter, and more fulfilling life. Episode Breakdown 02:51 Responsible hedonism. 07:34 Ultimate pain of unfulfilled potential. 10:26 Responsible hedonism. 14:11 Hedonistic budgeting. 20:58 Ultimate hedonism. 22:46 Your charmed life awaits. Quotes: 02:46 - "But I also consider myself a responsible hedonist." 04:13 - "So many people have confused true pleasure, which is what I teach within the School of Self-Image, with escaping their lives." 07:34 - "That is at the end of your life, on your deathbed, looking back and realizing that you lived maybe 5% or maybe even less of what your potential held." 15:11 - "Allocating your pleasures wisely ensures the steady stream of joy throughout your life rather than a one-time explosion of happiness." 17:14 - "What I can tell you is that the more I savor my life, the more I enjoy it, the more I am present in it, the better my life gets." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Sign up for the Weekly Edit! http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

In this unscripted episode, Tonya opens up about her resistance to recording a very personal podcast. She discusses her journey of getting back to her roots and the challenges she has faced along the way. Tune in to join her as she shares her experience and reflects on the importance of embracing the unscripted moments in life. Episode Details: 01:36 Moving back home and personal experience. 06:39 A wild time in my life. 09:29 Search for identity and purpose. 13:55 Returning to my roots. 19:22 Sense of community and longevity. 24:26 Southern culture and alignment. 28:08 Getting back to our roots. 32:38 A charmed life. Quotes: "Maybe some of you are listening to this and you're thinking, I want to get away from this place as far as I can." "We set off and we try on different things and we go on this great adventure, all trying to figure it out." "I think when you are being true to yourself when you're being honest about what you desire; when you are not trying to follow everybody else, but you're listening to your own internal wisdom, I think that is always, always progression." "But what's crazy is I'm coming back as a new version of myself." "I have built a monster. I'm not happy. I want to burn it down." "I believe that our roots will always help us grow." "You know, when I think about Southern Charm, I think about taking the time to appreciate the little moments, the morning coffee, the smile from a stranger." "Your nine-year-old self will raise a flute to you one day and say, well done, darling." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Sign up for the Weekly Edit! http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Creating Your Couture Life: The Power of Dream Fittings! In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the concept of a "couture life" custom-made to fit our souls. She introduces the idea of "dream fittings" and emphasizes the importance of pursuing our dreams. Tonya also discusses the significance of working on one's identity and self-image. She points out that many people neglect this aspect of personal development, which can lead to feeling stuck and self-sabotage. By not working on our identity, individuals may struggle to create the life they truly want. Tonya emphasizes the need to prioritize this aspect of personal development encourages listeners to explore their true desires and aspirations and explores the importance of tangible experiences, trying things on to test out dreams and goals. She encourages individuals to actively engage in real-world situations to gain a better understanding of what truly aligns with their passions and values. Enjoy this insightful 'Dream Fittings' episode Episode Details: 02:26 Appreciating the ordinary. 05:58 A couture life. 09:23 Fear of failure and confidence. 13:48 Finding a fitting dream. 8:00 Dream fittings and exploration. 20:31 Blessings in disguise. 30:47 Join to learn more. Quotes: "Because when you really appreciate the ordinary, that's when it becomes extraordinary." "It's why so many people sabotage themselves because they don't work on the number one thing that is determining the quality of their life." "It's believing that no matter what's going to happen, you're going to be okay." "I'm someone who's willing to fail." "You're so afraid of being called flighty or flaky that you're not willing to experiment." "You're going to have to go out there and try it on." "Testing your dreams out in little ways to see how they fit is the key to living a couture life." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Sign up for the Weekly Edit! http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Handling Fear with Confidence In this episode, host Tonya Leigh discusses the topic of fear and how it is something that we will always experience to some degree. She emphasizes that being fearless is not realistic, but instead suggests that we can approach fear with style and grace. Tonya shares her insights on different types of fears, from normal fears to phobias, fear of failure, fear of rejection, and existential fears. She encourages her listeners to embrace their fears and find ways to navigate through them. This episode is part of Tonya's "Week of Calm" series and offers valuable insights on fear and personal development. Join Tonya as she shares her wisdom on how to do fear in style. Episode breakdown: 00:01:41 Fear of failure. 00:05:13 Overcoming fear and limitations. 00:09:39 Not being afraid of fear. 00:15:58 Style and dealing with fear. 00:19:30 Alter egos and power poses. 00:22:23 Courage through fashion. Quotes: 00:20 - "I believe if we're going to do fear, we can do it in style." 03:36 - "It's really unfortunate that they don't teach us how to navigate fear when we're in elementary school." 09:49 - "I look fear in the eye and I say to it, I'm not backing down. Let's go." 11:53 - "When you reprogram your identity to be a match for what you want, what you want starts seeking you in return." 16:08 - "Style has actually helped me to not be afraid of being afraid and to deal with fear." 16:48 - "If I'm going to be afraid, I want to do it with some swagger." 21:19 - "I deserve to be seen." 24:02 - "Figuring out what style of clothing and what color of clothing helps you to feel confident and courageous can help you not be afraid of being afraid." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Sign up for the Weekly Edit! http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Finding Calm in a Stressful World In this episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of chilling out and finding relaxation in our lives. She shares her personal experiences with anxiety and the tendency to be intense and controlling. Tonya explores whether this mindset serves us and if we want to change it. She also touches on a conversation she had with Sarah and her boyfriend about anxiety and how it can push us forward. Tune in to learn more about finding calm and enjoying life. Episode Details: 3:32 How to chill out. 06:37 Learning to chill out. 11:00 Technology and relaxation. 13:11 Body conditioning and self-image. 20:28 Chilling out and productivity. 23:10 Can I be competitive and chill at the same time? 26:27 Not chill in the passenger seat. 31:10 Monitoring and questioning assumptions. 34:49 Healthy lifestyle choices. Quotes: "Anxiety keeps me going." "I was running from the fear of not being able to take care of my daughter." "I'm blown away by how this is the missing piece that I just did not understand." "Can I be competitive and chill at the same time?" "I want to practice being a Federer, not a McEnroe." "Even at the end, I'm going to be right there with you going nowhere and just giving myself so much love and compassion and reminding myself in this moment, I am OK." "Did they increase your negative tension or did they inspire you to take a deep breath and to chill out?" "One is there is no hurry because usually when I'm stressed, my brain wants to freak me out, tell me I need to hurry, hurry, hurry." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join Week of Calm: https://schoolofselfimage.com/calm FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Sign up for the Weekly Edit! http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Conscious Consumption: How Your Choices Impact Your Life In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of conscious consumption. She prompts listeners to reflect on what they have consumed throughout the day and its impact on their lives. Tonya also introduces the upcoming "Week of Calm" workshop and shares her experience of finding calm amidst the chaos of the COVID-19 pandemic. Tune in to learn more about the power of conscious consumption and how it can positively shape your life. What Tonya covers in this episode: 01:04 Week of Calm. 07:05 Conscious consumption. 09:22 Self-image and reference group. 15:11 Consuming sexy foods. 18:38 Letting go of consumption. Quotes: What have you consumed today? From the books you've read to the people you've hung out with to the music you've listened to, and even to the food that you've ingested. I want you to think about the impact that those consumptions are having on your life. Are you consuming consciously? If it's meant to be it's up to me. If you want to change your life one of the quickest and fastest ways to do it is to start consciously consuming what you want to become. I put myself in certain environments that instantly shook me up to potential new perspectives and new ways of thinking and therefore fast-tracked my growth and my experience in those areas. Do you want to become that thing that you're consuming? Because if you don't, you need to stop consuming it. A beautiful life has more to do with what you subtract than what you add. Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join Week of Calm: https://schoolofselfimage.com/calm FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Sign up for the Weekly Edit! http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

In this week's episode, Tonya shares her own challenges she is currently facing around understanding and overcoming emotional reactions, or triggers, and how we can get untriggered. Tonya discusses the concept of feeling triggered and how to become unbothered by external events and emphasizes the importance of emotional resilience. She also announces the upcoming "Week of Calm" challenge and encourages listeners to sign up for this transformative experience. Tune in to gain insights on handling emotional triggers and finding inner peace. The breakdown: [00:02:27] Being untriggered. [00:06:20] Reacting to triggers. [00:09:12] Childhood coping mechanisms. [00:17:39] Accepting and experiencing human emotions. [00:18:49] Exploring irrational thoughts. [00:24:04] Protecting our peace and discomfort. Quotes: "It is all about being untriggered, how to protect your peace in any situation." "Over the past week, I have been triggered several times by someone that I love deeply." "His reaction and what he learned to do from a very young age is fight." "What part of you needs to step up and claim your power?" "I am a human being having a human emotion right now. And this emotion is here to teach me something." "I'm going to experience this emotion that I'm having with so much love and so much compassion." "At the end of the day, I really do think that we all just want to be loved. We just want to be loved, to be understood, and to be respected." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join Week of Calm: https://schoolofselfimage.com/calm FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Sign up for the Weekly Edit! http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

In the episode, host Tonya Leigh discusses the overwhelming nature of the world's constant expansion, particularly in terms of technology and information. She explains that this constant exposure can overwhelm our nervous systems, leading to feelings of chaos and anxiety. Tonya emphasizes the importance of having specific strategies and techniques to calm our nervous systems in order to avoid creating health issues. Without these strategies, it can be difficult to create what we want in our lives. Rather than labeling herself as an anxious person, Tonya reframes it as being a woman who sometimes experiences anxiety and believes that anxiety can serve a purpose in our lives. Overall, the episode emphasizes the idea that anxiety can be embraced and used as a tool for personal growth and self-discovery. By reframing our relationship with anxiety and viewing it as a normal part of life, we can learn valuable lessons about ourselves and harness its potential for positive change. Tonya also shares a list of things that bring her joy, emphasizing the importance of appreciating what we already have. Despite experiencing anxiety, Tonya reminds listeners that they are not alone. She also shares an exciting announcement about her work called 'A Week of Calm' which helps thousands of people create more calm in their lives. Tune in to find out more about Tonya's journey with anxiety and how she finds joy amidst it all. In this episode: 00:01:35 Anxiety is a common experience. 00:09:45 Embrace and make peace with anxiety. 00:12:37 Embrace and accept your anxiety. 00:20:05 Movement and self-care reduce anxiety. 00:28:36 Romance and embrace your anxiety. 00:32:03 Choose calm for transformative resilience. Quotes: "If you want to worry less and create more, if you want to stop spending your time fearing the worst-case scenario and feeling paralyzed by your fear, then you want to join us for the week of calm." "I needed to surrender to it. I needed to fall into the mystery of it." "And the moment I just embrace my anxiety and not try to change it, it starts to dissipate. It doesn't have that big of a grip on me." "I can do amazing things with anxiety." "You will unlock a superpower that empowers you to build an extraordinary life that you love." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Week of Calm: https://schoolofselfimage.com/calm Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Sign up for the Weekly Edit! http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Overcoming Appearance Obstacles: Transforming Your Self-Image In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh discusses how to overcome appearance obstacles. She emphasizes that appearance obstacles are actually thinking obstacles and shares insights on how our thoughts about our appearance can hold us back from feeling confident and achieving our goals. Tune in to learn how to shift your mindset and embrace the beauty within yourself. In this episode, Tonya discusses: [00:01:38] Overcoming appearance obstacles. [00:06:14] Aging online is a real thing. [00:09:20] Happiness. [00:16:28] Changing physical appearance. [00:19:11] Embracing aging and societal expectations. [00:23:34] Valuing inner beauty over appearance. [00:29:19] Appreciating natural beauty with age. [00:31:31] Struggles with appearance in today's world. Quotes: "The true key to happiness is changing your inner world." "The way I approach this is I think about what can I change and what can't I change?" "What is for myself and what am I doing to meet societal and external expectations?" "It's the whole package. And yet we spend so much of our lives just focusing on the shell versus what the shell houses." "I was looking at my face in the mirror and I could hear that little voice saying, oh, my God, look at the neck. Look at those extra lines around your eyes. Like I could hear that. But there was this other voice of like, oh, my goodness, look at you." "Because if you don't change what's going on inside, what's outside will never matter." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Sign up for the Weekly Edit! http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

In this episode, Tonya Leigh explores the topic of self-forgiveness and how it can lead to a beautiful life. She shares a powerful quote by Doreen Virtue that encourages listeners to forgive themselves for past actions or decisions. Tonya discusses the importance of extending grace, love, and compassion to oneself and offers guidance on how to forgive. If you're struggling with self-forgiveness, this episode is for you. Don't miss out on the opportunity to let go of shame, guilt, and regret and embrace a more positive and self-loving mindset. The takeaways: [00:03:47] Withholding forgiveness from ourselves. [00:07:00] Self-forgiveness and personal growth. [00:11:14] Acceptance and taking responsibility. [00:13:36] Forgiveness and self-growth. [00:19:36] Unconditional love for ourselves. [ 00:24:12] The renewal stage. [00:27:18] Sign up for The Weekly Edit. Quotes: "I came across this quote by Doreen Virtue that caused me to consider that self-forgiveness is the answer to a beautiful life." "But it's also hard to just go to, I forgive myself." "I love what Byron Katie says, to argue with reality is to argue with God and you only lose 100% of the time." "Forgiveness is saying, I forgive you for being a human." "The people who have a hard time forgiving you are the same people that have a hard time forgiving themselves." "No one wins by you withholding forgiveness for yourself and for other people." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Sign up for the Weekly Edit! http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

In this episode, host Tonya Leigh shares the power of changing our past and introduces the concept of how our perception of our past can greatly impact our present and future. Tanya reflects on her experience in the Bay Area and how she had to adjust her expectations of the weather. She also discusses her fiancé, Fonz, and his remarkable perspective on his difficult childhood. Despite facing challenges growing up, Fonz sees his past as a grand adventure. By adopting this mindset and storytelling of our future selves, we can build confidence and become unstoppable. This episode highlights that it is the story we have about events from our past that holds us back, not the events themselves. We possess the power to change our story, which in turn can change our perception of the past. By reframing our past experiences in a positive and empowering light, we can overcome fear, lack of confidence, and other obstacles that may impede us from pursuing our dreams. Tune in to learn how shifting our perception of our past can transform our lives. The details: [00:02:08] Fonz's unique childhood perspective. [00:07:20] Shame and fear holding back. [00:10:01] Changing your past. [00:14:00] Personal transformation and empowerment. Quotes: "He talks about how at five years old, how he would just go around the city by himself on the bus and all of the interesting characters that he would meet. He learned to hustle from a very young age and all of the amazing lessons that he learned on the streets and how that experience shaped him in a positive way." "You can change the past by changing the story." "The story is where you are giving away your power because everybody can agree that she's going to be disrespected." "Say goodbye to the self that's holding you back and hello to the new you." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south The Weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/EDIT Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

In this episode, host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of worthiness and how it can impact our lives. She discusses the importance of recognizing our own value and how it relates to bringing value to the world. Tonya shares personal experiences and insights on making the decision to see oneself as worthy, emphasizing that worthiness is not something that needs to be earned. Tune in to learn more about the "worthy decision" and how it can lead to a life of deep satisfaction and well-being. The details: [00:02:27] Being worthy and self-value. [00:06:03] Your spending habits change. [00:10:09] A worthy decision. [00:13:49] Pay attention to your desires. Quotes: "It was really a decision of seeing myself as worthy." "When you see yourself as worthy; when you see yourself as having nothing to prove, that's when the magic happens." "Things can't make you worthy or make you less worthy." "You're worthy enough to ride in that beautiful car and to pull up in style." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Enclosed cognition is the idea that the clothes we wear can influence our thoughts, emotions, and behavior by triggering certain associations and expectations that we have with those clothes. By using clothing to create associations and shape our self-image, we can influence how we see ourselves, think, feel, and behave. This can also impact how others perceive us and the narrative that is built around us. Changing our style can lead to significant changes in our lives, as it is all interconnected. Therefore, it is important to ask ourselves what emotions and beliefs we want to cultivate about ourselves and choose our clothes accordingly. This concept is a core pillar within the school of self-image. In this podcast episode, Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, discusses how we can control the narrative of how we want to be perceived through our clothing and style choices. Enclosed cognition suggests that our clothes can trigger certain associations and expectations. By choosing clothes that align with our desired self-image, we can cultivate beliefs about ourselves and behave accordingly. Tonya emphasizes the importance of making associations between ourselves and our clothes first, before considering how others may perceive us. She also shares personal experiences of how her style choices have led people to associate her with certain places or qualities. This episode highlights the power of using clothing to transform our self-image and behavior. Timestamps: [00:01:40] Enclosed cognition and clothing. [00:05:11] Personal style. [00:07:18] Clothing shapes self-image and perception. [00:10:55] Power of clothing associations. Quotes: "This concept suggests that the clothes we wear affect our thoughts, our emotions and behavior by triggering certain associations and expectations that we have with those clothes." "It's about an emotional journey." "You can shape how the world sees you." "When a woman changes her style, she changes her life because it's all connected." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

In this episode of the "School of Self-Image" podcast, host Tonya Leigh talks about how to get out of a life rut. She shares common signs that you may be in a rut, such as lacking energy and feeling stuck. Tonya also advises listeners to seek professional help if they suspect they may be dealing with depression. The episode aims to provide guidance and inspiration for listeners who feel like they are stuck in a repetitive cycle and want to break free to live a more fulfilling life. [00:02:57] Comfort zone and fear. [00:04:32] Being in a rut. [00:09:16] Life Ruts and Getting Unstuck. [00:13:48] Life Ruts and Introspection. [00:19:44] Making Bold Moves. [00:27:59] Shaking up your mind. [00:32:07] Choosing an extraordinary goal. Quotes: "There is no comfort in a comfortable life. How ironic is that?" "Acceptance is the first step to change." "You are a human being having a human moment when you are in a life rut." "Do not underestimate the power of style and changing your self-image and helping you get out of a life rut." Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh

In this episode, Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of shaping our surroundings to change our thoughts and self-image. She believes that merely thinking our way to a better life is not enough because there are too many factors involved, such as triggers and trauma. Therefore, she encourages her listeners to change their surroundings to give themselves a fighting chance. This includes changing what we see in the mirror every day, as the reflection tells us a story about ourselves. Tonya discusses the five signs that it's time for a closet cleanse. The first sign is that you have a closet full of clothes, but nothing to wear. This means that you have a lot of items in your closet, but you don't feel confident or comfortable in any of them. The second sign is that you're holding onto clothes that are outdated or no longer fit your current style. The third sign is that your clothes don't fit properly, either because they're too small or too big. The fourth sign is that you have evolved as a person, but your closet hasn't kept up with your changes. This means that you may have different style preferences or body shape than you did in the past. The fifth and final sign is that you feel overwhelmed or stressed when you look in your closet. This could be because you have too many options or because you don't have a clear sense of what you want your style to be. Overall, the host emphasizes the importance of regularly cleansing your closet to ensure that you have a wardrobe that reflects your current style and makes you feel confident and comfortable. Furthermore, the host discusses the dangers of going unconscious and overstuffing our closets. She compares it to overeating to soothe ourselves and buy more to solve our problems. When we don't stop and assess our habits and behaviors, we can accumulate so many things that our closets become too full, and we can't find anything. Tonya believes that cleaning out our closets is a symbolic gesture to the universe that we're ready for change and that it's essential to stop and assess our habits and behaviors to avoid overstuffing our closets and our lives. [00:00:00] Closet Cleanse Signs. [00:08:45] What Your Closet Says About You. [00:13:23] Personal style and wardrobe. [00:18:05] Embracing empty spaces. [00:25:30] Style for reinventing identity. [00:27:40] Transforming your self-image. Quotes: Because there's nothing healthy about being caught up in a cycle of self-loathing and frustration with your body and really being at war with yourself. But the question becomes, have you taken time to really get to know yourself? Know yourself on the inside and the outside. I am worthy. I deserve beautiful things. I love taking care of the body I have right now. Useful Resources: SLIM Self-Image program: http://schoolofselfimage.com/slim Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

The School of Self-Image's annual membership is currently open for a limited time, and the episode delves into its benefits. Members gain access to various courses, including the newly created SLIM Self-Image program. This program focuses on creating a lasting self-image that supports healthy habits by letting go of what's holding you back. The host and a coach who has successfully used the self-image method to lose weight will teach the program live over eight weeks. Interested individuals can join the annual membership and access the SLIM Self-Image program by visiting schoolofselfimage.com/slim. The episode's main focus is on using style as a tool to transform one's self-image and ultimately change their identity. Tonya explains that changing how you look at yourself can significantly impact your mindset and overall outlook on life. She encourages listeners to envision how they want to see themselves and how that version of themselves would show up in the world, not just through their style, but also their speech and body language. She shares her own experience of using style to change her identity from a full-time nurse to a successful business owner. She emphasizes that expanding one's self-image can create new possibilities and achieve extraordinary goals. Overall, the episode suggests that transforming one's self-image through mindset, style, and surroundings can be a powerful tool for personal growth and success. Tonya emphasizes that the word "slim" does not necessarily mean skinny or a certain size, but rather a healthy and confident version of oneself. She also discusses the importance of finding joy and pleasure in life, rather than constantly focusing on dieting and weight loss. Additionally, Tonya mentions that changing one's style and wardrobe can be a helpful tool in reinventing oneself and creating a new identity. [00:03:51] Becoming a slim woman. [00:07:57] Using style to reinvent yourself. [00:09:03] Reinventing Yourself Through Style. [00:13:07] Changing identity through style. [00:17:03] Cultivating personal style. [00:21:17] Creating your ideal identity. Quotes: "Our goal is to help you change your identity so that then the results just become effortless." "I put on something that said, I matter." "I cannot believe how focusing on this one thing is helping me to skyrocket my self-image." "Just by upping my athleisure wear, it motivates me." Links: SLIM Self-Image program: http://schoolofselfimage.com/slim Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Tonya Leigh has set a goal to assist 5,000 women in creating their "after" and documenting the process. She considers the reviews left by listeners on iTunes as a form of "after" because they share how the podcast has impacted their lives. The host expresses gratitude towards the listeners who have left a review and encourages others who have benefited from the podcast to do the same. In this episode, the concept of be actions versus outcome actions is discussed in detail. Tonya explains that most people struggle to achieve their goals because they focus solely on the outcome they want, rather than the person they need to become to achieve that goal. She emphasizes the importance of focusing on one's identity or "being" rather than just the outcome or "getting." The host gives examples from her own life, such as struggling with weight loss and money, where she would take outcome actions such as going on a diet or trying to work out, but would ultimately sabotage herself and go back to her old state of being. She realized she needed to focus on becoming the person she wanted to become, rather than just achieving the outcome. By focusing on 'be actions', the outcome will become effortless, and once the outcome is achieved, it will be easier to sustain because the person's identity has already changed to match what they want. By focusing on creating small wins and little bits of evidence every day that she is a fit woman, the host is able to shift her focus from the outcome to her self-image. She creates new neural pathways that confirm her new identity, and as a result, her outcomes change. Tonya emphasizes that changing one's identity is the key to achieving desired outcomes, not the other way around. [00:02:25] Be actions vs. outcome actions. [00:05:02] Overcoming limiting beliefs. [00:08:45] Changing identity for effortless outcome. Quotes: When I think about myself having a fit body, then who is she? How does she identify? What is her self-image? We create our extraordinary goal, which is the outcome that we want. But then we look at who do we need to become to achieve that goal, to achieve that outcome. The reason why the majority of people struggle in achieving their goals is because they are taking action for an outcome versus taking action for a new state of being. We focus on changing our identity so that the outcome literally becomes effortless. Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, Tonta Leigh discusses the "dos and don'ts" of living a charmed life, inspired by a quote from Neil Donald Walsh. She encourages listeners to be the source of charm in the lives of others and to make everyone they touch feel lucky for crossing paths with them. Tanya also shares some anecdotes from her personal life, including hosting family and training for her first pickleball tournament. Finally, she reminds listeners that it's the little things in everyday life that can bring the most joy. [00:03:35] Living a charmed life. [00:04:33] The meaning of 'charm'. [00:06:20] SOSI South. [00:13:01] Being a Giver, not a taker. [00:16:51] Impress yourself. [00:21:13] Stop focusing on the unattractive. [00:25:03] Don't sweat the small stuff. [00:29:29] Slowing down for a charmed life. Quotes: Charm means the power of giving delight or arousing admiration to achieve something as if by magic. Life gives to the giver and takes from the taker. Live to impress yourself. Another thing to do if you want to live a charmed life is to unplug from the unattractive. Charm and complaining don't go together. But the other beautiful thing about slowing down is that you begin to realize that life can only be as beautiful as you make this moment." Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Join us at SOSI South!: http://schoolofselfimage.com/south Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Thinking on Your Life: The Importance of Planning Your Future In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, host Tonya Leigh talks about the importance of setting aside time to think about your life. She emphasizes that planning your life on purpose is necessary in order to bear the fruits of a well-planned life. Tonya encourages listeners to take time to think about their life direction and make plans to change it if necessary. She reflects on the impact of COVID on the world's pace and how it forced people to slow down and be with their own thoughts, which can be scary at times. The episode ends with an invitation for listeners to take time to reflect on their life and make it a priority. [00:02:05] Time to think during COVID. [00:07:11] Deep thinking for a better life. [00:11:00] Creativity and fulfillment. [00:14:01] Creating thinking time. Useful Resources: Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Give yourself the Royal Treatment! Enroll now here: http://schoolofselfimage.com/royal/ Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

The Impact of Travel on Self-Image: A Conversation with Solo Travel Expert Alessia Tenebruso In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, life coach Tonya Leigh interviews her first video podcast guest, Alessia Tenebruso, owner of "One Girl Travel," a solo travel-focused life coaching company. Alessia shares her experience of how solo travel has changed her self-image and how it can empower women. Tonya and Alessia also discuss the benefits of travel for personal development and creating a positive self-image. [00:03:18] Travel and self-image impact. [00:04:07] Solo travel as personal growth. [00:08:05] Traveling alone safety tips. [00:11:22] What thoughts you're telling yourself. [00:15:23] Living life like a vacation. [00:20:25] Fashion and identity while traveling. [00:23:46] I am my future self. [00:27:41] Solo travel forces decisiveness. [00:29:38] Solo traveling guide. Quotes: Even if it's just a weekend away, at a nearby resort or hotel just to give yourself that experience. When you begin this journey, it's going to be uncomfortable like I'm telling you upfront It will be uncomfortable knowing that going into it and do it anyway. When I'm traveling that's like when I get to dream and think of what I want and what I don't want. It's a very Reflective time. Useful Resources: One Girl Travel: https://onegirltravel.com/ Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Give yourself the Royal Treatment! Enroll now here: http://schoolofselfimage.com/royal/ Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial