School of Self-Image

Challenging the Status Quo: The Power of Asking Why One of the key themes discussed in the podcast episode is the importance of challenging the status quo by asking why and questioning what we have accepted as normal. Tonya Leigh emphasizes the significance of questioning the beliefs and norms that have been ingrained in us without critical examination. Tonya shares a personal anecdote from her childhood where she questioned the teachings in Sunday school, demonstrating her early inclination to challenge the status quo. She highlights how questioning the norms around her led her to develop a mindset of curiosity and critical thinking, which ultimately shaped her ability to challenge societal norms and expectations. Join her at the School of Self-Image where personal development meets style, and learn how the audacity to ask can open unexpected doors in your life and career. Talking Points: 01:00 - Gratitude Amidst Chaos 02:31 - Childhood Memories and Aspirations 04:17 - The Power of Asking: Transforming Lives 06:00 - Questioning Societal Rules and Norms 09:53 - Questioning Religious Teachings 10:12 - Fighting for Possibilities: How Can I? 12:27 - The Importance of Quality Questions 14:45 - Shifting Focus: From Limitations to Possibilities 16:08 - Overcoming Self-Sufficiency and Asking for Help 18:29 - The Role of Rejection in Asking 20:36 - Observing Others: The Power of Asking 23:02 - The ATM Machine Analogy 24:11 - Expansive Energy: The Audacity to Ask and Receive 25:09 - Invitation to Join the Private Podcast Series Quotes: "Learning to ask the right questions of yourself and others can open doors you never knew existed." "If you have the audacity to ask, your life will begin to change in the most beautiful of ways." "Energy is everything, my friends, everything. Where your attention goes is where your energy is flowing." "I ask for help. I ask for what I want." "The more willing you are to ask for what you want, are you also more willing to give without any kind of resentment?" "I want you to see you as an ATM machine." "A beautiful life requires you." Useful Resources: 12-Week Private Podcast Series: https://schoolofselfimage.com/why/ FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after/ FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: https://schoolofselfimage.com/edit/ Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Failing Forward: Lessons in Style and Business Failure is often viewed negatively, but in this episode, Carmin and Sherry Black share with host Tonya Leigh their stories of failure and how they turned it into a stepping stone to success. Carmin explained how her business, Half United, faced a setback due to a manufacturing defect that resulted in a lawsuit. She realized that the failure was not solely due to external factors but also stemmed from her own decisions and priorities. Similarly, Sherry Black shared her experiences of encountering obstacles and setbacks in her career as an interior and furniture designer. From relocating from Hawaii to Alaska to launching restaurants in Raleigh, Sherry faced various challenges along the way. However, she emphasized the importance of embracing failure and using it as a learning experience. Both Carmen and Sherry's narratives illustrate the significance of embracing failure as a stepping stone toward success. By acknowledging their mistakes, learning from them, and making necessary adjustments, they were able to evolve, grow, and ultimately achieve their goals. Their stories serve as a reminder that failure is not the end but a valuable opportunity for growth and improvement in future endeavors. Talking Points: 02:45 Stylish careers. 05:15 Childhood fascination with glamorous decor. 09:42 Fashion faux pas anecdote. 14:32 Individuality and self-expression. 18:34 Starting a business with $200. 24:05 Bullets turned into jewelry. 28:39 Overcoming failure and resilience. 30:40 Manufacturing challenges and growth decisions. 38:33 Embracing challenges for growth. 44:25 The impact of personal style. 52:13 Taking risks in business. 59:25 Experience stacking. 01:05: Entrepreneurial mindset and resiliency. 01:16: Signature style preferences. 01:22: Mr. Rogers obsession. 01:23: The value of simplicity. 01:27: Setting daily goals for success. 01:30:58 Imagine possibilities beyond limits. Quotes: "I have declared that this will be my summer of style." "I do remember walking into that school and people just bursting out in laughter." "Yeah. Yeah, Christian, my brother and I, when we started our first brand, we had no money. I am talking no money. Big money buying mugs from Salvation Army." "Every product that you purchase is giving seven meals to a kid in need." "I just always see failure as a stepping stone." "It doesn't matter if it was you or if it was other people or things out of your control, the weather, whatever. It always can be used for your good. So just never, never give up." "I should not have to go through the employment office to get a job. I was humbled on that." "All those years later. That's really interesting, because I call that experience stacking, or you can call it skill stacking, where you don't understand it at the time, how it's all going to fit together." "I believe that entrepreneurs make really horrible employees, like really, really bad." "You can still look chic in your workout Clothes, you know a cute little ponytail and put on some lip gloss and you've changed the whole vibe." "But I don't want to have the limited mentality that says, I could never have that. I can never imagine that." "Style is timeless and it starts with you." Useful Resources: 12-Week Private Podcast Series: https://schoolofselfimage.com/why FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto Sign up for the weekly Edit: https://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Unleashing Your Inner Style: My Summer of Self-Expression Style is not just about clothing and accessories; it is a powerful tool for self-expression that can transform how we experience the world. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses how style goes beyond fashion choices and can impact various aspects of our lives. She emphasizes that style is a mindset that can influence how we express ourselves and interact with the world around us. Tonya Leigh shares her personal journey of how embracing style has changed her life and helped her become more confident and intentional in her self-expression. By paying attention to the details of her style choices, she has been able to rewrite her story and create a more joyful and fulfilling life. Join Tonya on this journey of self-discovery and learn how style can be a powerful tool for personal growth and transformation. Talking Points: 00:52 - Designing Your Dream Summer 01:46 - How Style Changed My Life 03:01 - A Decade of Study and Exploration 03:23 - Diana Vreeland: Inspiration and Creativity 04:18 - Why Don't You: New Private Podcast Series 06:05 - Joyful Self-Expression 07:20 - Attracting Like-Minded People 08:18 - Dressing with Intention 12:45 - Telling Your Story Through Style 16:26 - Style Evolution and Growth 18:03 - Daily Attention to Details Quotes: "What if the secret to a more joyful, confident life was hidden in the details you've been overlooking?" "I want to use style to help birth this next version of me." "You have to be willing to repel people." "Your style choices are telling a story about who you are and who you aspire to be. Style is your visual autobiography." "I used to think happiness was a fairy tale forever, just out of reach. I felt stuck a lot of the times helpless and like I was constantly failing." "Perhaps that last point is the most important because I've found that if we're not mindful, we can get so caught up in the big, the big goals." Useful Resources: 12 Week Private Podcast Series: https://schoolofselfimage.com/why FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto Sign up for the weekly Edit: https://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Emotional Residency: Packing Up Your Life for Joyful Reinvention Assessing what parts of our lives we are ready to leave behind and what we want to bring along as we move forward is a crucial aspect of personal growth and transformation. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the process of packing up her belongings as she prepares to move to a new house. This physical act of packing serves as a metaphor for the emotional and mental process of evaluating what serves us and what no longer aligns with our current goals and values. She emphasizes the importance of being intentional about what we choose to bring along on our journey. This includes not only physical items but also emotional baggage, old beliefs, and outdated thought patterns. By taking the time to assess these aspects of our lives, we can make conscious decisions about what to let go of and what to hold onto as we move forward. Join Tanya as she shares her own emotional journey of packing up her current home and moving into a new chapter. Talking Points: 00:30 - Introduction to Packing Up and Moving On 05:30 - Emotional Baggage and Letting Go 10:33 - Sunken Cost Fallacy and Letting Go 15:19 - Packing Up for the Future 18:41 - Moving into a New Chapter 22:47 - Joyful Reinvention through Packing Up and Moving On Quotes: "This has been about me deciding what parts of myself I'm ready to leave behind, what things I'm ready to let go of, and equally, what I'm ready to move towards." "I had divorce papers, I had emails, I had things that when I read them, I was like, oh my goodness, like, who was I and who was my ex because we both had grown up." "Does this spark joy? Does this belong in my future? Does this excite me? Does this align with my values? Does it represent who I am today?" "Your brain doesn't know what it's like to walk through the world feeling like you are deserving." "I believe that packing up and moving on, whether it's metaphorically or it's reality, is one of the most powerful tools for joyful reinvention." "But then I discovered a simple shift. Or three, that changed everything." Useful Resources: FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Creating Magic in Everyday Moments: A Guide to Romanticizing Your Life Romanticizing your life involves being mindful and appreciating the present moment. Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of being present and mindful to romanticize your life in this weeks School of Self-Image podcast. She highlights the significance of slowing down, being with yourself, and appreciating the details of your life. By being fully present in the moment, you can tend to the details of your life and truly appreciate the joyous moments that may otherwise be overlooked. Tonya also stresses the practice of slowing down and being present with oneself or those around you. By taking the time to truly be present with yourself and others, you can cultivate a deeper sense of appreciation for the blessings in your life. This involves not being distracted by worries about the future or regrets about the past, but rather focusing on the beauty and goodness that the present moment offers. Tune in to discover how you can infuse your daily life with meaning and enjoy the present moment rather than rushing toward the future. Talking Points: 01:00 - Introduction to Romanticizing Your Life 05:30 - Philosophical Perspectives on Romanticizing Your Life 08:32 - Benefits of Romanticizing Your Life 09:16 - Embracing Adventure in Everyday Situations 11:34 - Importance of Mindfulness in Romanticizing Your Life 17:06 - Morning Routine for Romanticizing Your Life 21:18 - Importance of Self-Appreciation in Romanticizing Your Life 25:38 - Balancing Idealism and Realism in Romanticizing Your Life 29:03 - Finding Joy in Work and Daily Activities 31:31 - Building Meaningful Connections and Appreciating Moments 32:45 - Slowing Down and Being Present in Your Life Quotes: "Romance is not something that you have to wait until one day to have. In fact, to create a romantic life, it requires that you start right now." "I will tell you, learning to romanticize my life has been one of the biggest gifts that I've given myself." "You can filter it in a way that makes you feel optimistic, that makes you feel full of gratitude, that makes you feel abundant." "I chose to create this alternative universe that I could live in. That's full of adventure. That's full of opportunities. It's full of surprises." "Looking for the blessing, looking for the joy, looking for the love, looking for the abundance. It's there if you're looking for it." "Love on yourself more if you want to romanticize your life." "Really, romanticizing your life is not that hard. It's about you being awake. It's about you appreciating. It's about you tending to the details of your life. And most importantly, it's about loving yourself." "Appreciate all of the goodness that life offers." Useful Resources: FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

The Truth About Confidence: 5 Myths Exposed Confidence is often misunderstood, and host Tonya Leigh debunks five prevalent myths surrounding it in this episode. I encourage listeners to build a confident relationship with themselves and to understand that doubt is a natural part of the journey. Confidence in your abilities will grow over time through repeated actions and experiences. Tonya dives into the topic of confidence, debunking five common myths surrounding it. She shares personal stories about her journey to self-assurance and highlights that while confidence is desirable, it is not mandatory for living an incredible life. Tanya encourages listeners to pursue their dreams even in the face of self-doubt, emphasizing that confidence can be cultivated through thoughts and actions. Tune in to challenge your beliefs about confidence and discover the power of embracing the unknown in your journey towards self-assurance. Talking Points: 00:40 - What is Confidence? 01:02 - Confidence is Overrated 01:13 - Action Before Confidence 01:58 - Myth 1: Confidence is Needed for Amazing Things 03:16 - Self-Assurance Over Confidence 04:08 - Personal Story: First Mastermind Retreat 05:54 - Building Confidence Through Repetition 07:01 - Myth 2: Confidence Comes from External Validation 09:02 - Building Self-Trust 10:32 - Myth 3: Confidence Requires Being the Smartest and Loudest 11:57 - True Confidence is Comfort with Oneself 12:29 - Myth 4: Confidence Equals Arrogance 13:56 - Confidence Has Nothing to Prove 15:02 - Myth 5: Confident People Never Doubt Themselves 16:36 - Doubt as a Companion to Confidence Quotes: "And honestly, I sort of think confidence is overrated, even though I want you all to feel it." "There is a big difference. And a lot of you are trying to have confidence in something that you've never done before. And it is practically impossible." "It becomes this thing that needs to be fed from the outside world." "Confidence has nothing to prove." "Doubt is not a reason to stop. It's a reason to keep going." "Confidence comes from just believing and trusting in yourself." Useful Resources: FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Soul Cravings: The Path to Joy and Fulfillment Pay attention to your soul cravings and align with your core values, strengths, and passions for deep fulfillment. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of listening to your soul's cravings, which originate from the deepest part of you and are in harmony with your core values, strengths, and passions. These cravings differ from societal cravings influenced by external expectations and norms. By paying attention to your soul cravings, you can experience a profound sense of purpose, joy, and alignment in your life. Tonya shares her personal journey of discovering her soul cravings, such as a desire to learn about the world, feel at home in different cultures, and explore various cuisines. By following these cravings, she was able to align with her true self and move towards her North Star. She highlights the contrast between societal cravings, which may offer temporary approval or success but lack deep fulfillment, and soul cravings, which lead to a sense of purpose and joy. She encourages listeners to pay attention to their own cravings and explore what their soul truly longs for in life. Talking Points: 00:39 - Tanya's New York City Experience 01:55 - Identifying Your Cravings 02:36 - Personal Development Journey 03:08 - Essential Self vs. Social Self 04:12 - Excavating Your True Self 05:06 - Following Soul Cravings 06:08 - Discovering Worldly Cravings 07:00 - Societal vs. Soul Cravings 10:03 - Discomfort in Following Cravings 12:12 - Recognizing Soul Cravings 13:05 - Creating Space for Soul Cravings 14:10 - Developing Self-Trust 15:37 - Paying Attention to Intuition and Body 21:02 - Practical Exercise: Mood Boards 24:04 - Energy from Soul Cravings Quotes: "By listening to my soul's cravings, not my societal cravings, but my soul's cravings, has led me towards my North Star." "I believe in honoring your soul cravings." "You will know a soul craving because it will bring you joy. Even if it's hard, it'll bring you so much joy and satisfaction." "You have to be the one that puts up a red velvet rope around your mind, around your soul, so that you can hear you again, so that you can listen and pay attention to what you're being nudged towards and what you're being nudged away from." "That's not it. I just moved away from my sweet spot." "What is that one thing that your soul is craving right now? Listen, it's trying to speak to you. Pay attention." "Unleash your inner powerhouse." Useful Resources: FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Overcoming Overwhelm: What to Do When You're Drowning in Your To-Do's One of the key insights from the podcast episode is the understanding that overwhelm is an emotion created by the thoughts in our heads. Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh explains that when we feel overwhelmed, we are often in a state of fight or flight, where our sympathetic nervous system is activated. This heightened state of stress and panic can make it challenging to think clearly and find solutions to our overwhelming to-do lists. To manage overwhelm effectively, Tonya suggests accessing the parasympathetic nervous system. This system is responsible for rest and digest functions, promoting a state of calm and relaxation. By engaging the parasympathetic nervous system, we can counteract the fight or flight response and regain clarity of thought. She reflects on her own journey through overwhelm and provides tools to help listeners manage and conquer their to-do lists effectively. If you've ever felt like you're drowning in tasks, this episode is a must-listen for practical advice and inspiration. Talking Points: 00:00 - Introduction to Feeling Overwhelmed 05:30 - Overcoming Overwhelm with Self-Care 0:22 - Filtering To-Do List with the Four D's 13:04 - Providing Clarity through Scheduling 4:06 - Releasing Perfectionism for Productivity 16:28 - Embracing the Journey, Not the Destination 18:26 - Celebrating Choices and Finding Inner Peace 20:10 - Empowering Action with Dream Life Masterclass Quotes: "What to do when you feel like you're drowning in your to-do's." "I want to be like that bird. I want to be able to find my stillness. "Who you're being is up to you." "Because if you take action off of guilt and fear over and over, you're just building a life that feels like a prison." "Tonya, you're never going to be done. So stop trying to get to that place that doesn't exist and learn to enjoy the day that you're in." Useful Resources: FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/after FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Life's Highs and Lows: Discovering Your Path to Alignment Being outside of your comfort zone and navigating through that phase successfullly requires curiosity and self-reflection. This episode delves into the concept of embracing life's lows as much as you yearn for the highs. Tonya Leigh stresses that straying from your comfort zone is a natural part of the journey and should not be seen as a setback. Being outside of your comfort zone and navigating through that phase successfullly requires curiosity and self-reflection. Tonya underscores the importance of not being too hard on yourself when you're not in your comfort zone. Instead, she urges listeners to embrace it, stay curious about themselves, and extract the lessons that being out of the comfort zone can offer. By embracing the lows, one can savor the highs even more when they arrive. The analogy of trying on different outfits is used to illustrate the process of finding what suits you best in life. Just like trying on clothes to find the perfect fit, life is about experimenting and trying new things to discover what resonates with your values and essence. T This mindset fosters growth, self-discovery, and the chance to correct course when necessary. Tonya's message inspires listeners to value the contrast between highs and lows, understanding that both experiences contribute to personal growth and a deeper self-awareness. Talking Points: 01:24 Finding your sweet spot. 04:58 Embracing Life's Ups and Downs. 11:09 Core values and connection. 17:12 Living in your sweet spot. 22:23 Making tough decisions about change. 30:44 Joyful reinvention and self-image. 35:08 Embracing life's contrasts. 39:27 Feeling stuck and stagnant. Quotes: "I'm feeling so at peace. I'm feeling so excited about the future. I'm feeling healthier. I'm feeling vibrant. I feel like I'm in my sweet spot." "But unfortunately, what a lot of people do is they just continuously focus on what they don't want." "You're more motivated. You're more excited about your life. You feel more aligned." "Every moment is a chance to turn back to you." "Clarity comes through action." "What if you learn to embrace the lows as much as you crave the highs?" Useful Resources: FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/ FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Creating Intentional Self-Image Events for Personal Growth Self-image events play a crucial role in shaping our identities, as discussed in the podcast episode. These events can be intentional or unexpected, and reflecting on both types from our past is essential for personal growth and self-awareness. Intentional self-image events are experiences or activities that we consciously choose with the purpose of changing our self-image and identity. By setting extraordinary goals and immersing ourselves in new environments, we challenge our existing beliefs, push beyond personal boundaries, and facilitate the development of new skills and perspectives. These intentional events are designed to push us out of our comfort zones and help us evolve into a new way of being in the world. Embracing intentional self-image events can be a catalyst for personal development and lead to a more empowered and fulfilling life. Join in to explore how moments, both intentional and unexpected, shape our identities and help us evolve personally. Talking Points: 02:58 - Understanding Self-Image Events 04:03 - Childhood and Self-Image Formation 06:09 - Conflicting Identities: Pageants and Church 07:03 - Overcoming Negative Self-Image from Bullying 08:05 - Gaining Power Through Understanding Self-Image 10:02 - Adult Unexpected Self-Image Event 12:10 - Cognitive Dissonance and Self-Imag 14:08 - Adapting Self-Image to New Realities 17:13 - Negative Self-Image Events and Recover 19:00 - Compassion in the Face of Self-Image Challenges 20:05 - Creating Intentional Self-Image Events 27:45 - Intentional Self-Image Events for Future Growth Quotes: "Life is about all of it. And I've just come to the understanding that embracing that is the secret to true fulfillment." "I always felt like I was sinning and I was going to go straight to hell." "The scared little girl in me trying to protect herself from the world. But as the adult me, I've got me." "This is too good to be true. This surely isn't going to work out. This isn't as good as it seems to be." "There's going to be so much cognitive dissonance between your beliefs about yourself and your actions." "When I started to look for the commonalities, it lessened the cognitive dissonance, which allowed me to entertain saying yes to this opportunity that would shape my self-image in a whole different way." Useful Resources: FREE Training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/ FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

You Are Enough: Celebrating the Uniqueness of Motherhood Drawing from her personal journey as a mother, Tonya highlights moments of doubt, frustration, and guilt she has faced. Despite these challenges, she stresses the importance of recognizing and celebrating the love and effort that mothers put into raising their children. By acknowledging the sacrifices, hard work, and dedication that mothers invest in their children, they can begin to appreciate and love themselves more. The episode also addresses the common feelings of guilt experienced by mothers. Tonya suggests that instead of dwelling on guilt, mothers should embrace innocence - recognizing that their intentions are always rooted in love and care for their children. By letting go of guilt and accepting that they are doing their best, mothers can start showing themselves the same grace and understanding they offer to their children. Tune in for a touching tribute to the strength and beauty of motherhood. Talking Points: 02:26 The journey of motherhood. 05:17 Motherhood and astrology signs. 12:31 Guilt and Innocence as Options. 16:18 Your needs matter as a mom. 20:01 Embracing imperfection as a mom. Quotes: "This is the most hard and beautiful and awful and amazing journey any person could go on. That of being a mother." "Can I return her? Because right now, I don't like her." "I was a great mother. I decided that everything has happened the way it was supposed to." "Guilt is always an option. But do you know what else is an option? Innocence." "Your needs matter too." "There are times that I wish I could pack my bags and just move away. Yeah, I'd probably come back, but sometimes I fantasize about it. And that's okay." "You are enough. Really let that sink in. You are enough." Useful Resources: Join The School of Self-Image Now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Transforming Your Relationship with Food and Exercise: Insights from Laura Hinton Weight loss can be achieved by changing our eating habits and our relationship with food, rather than fixating on strict diets and clean eating. Laura Hinton shares her journey with Tonya Leigh of losing 50 pounds by shifting her mindset around food. She stressed that she didn't have to eat only "clean" or "good for you" foods to lose weight. Instead, she focused on consuming the same foods she had been eating but in moderation and with a fresh perspective. Laura's story underscores the importance of impartial evaluation and self-acceptance when it comes to food choices. She mentioned transitioning from self-judgment to self-love, which ultimately yielded more effective results in her weight loss journey. By approaching food with love and grace, she was able to make sustainable changes without feeling deprived or restricted. When individuals shift their focus from self-criticism to self-acceptance, they are more likely to make healthier choices, listen to their bodies, and approach weight loss from a place of empowerment rather than punishment. This shift in mindset can lead to enduring results and a more positive relationship with food, exercise, and self-image. The 3 Big Weight Loss Myths: Myth #1: Clean Eating for Weight Loss Myth #2: Exercise Intensity and Weight Loss Myth #3: Self-Criticism and Weight Loss Talking Points: 00:51 Weight loss myths debunked. 05:44 Body image and weight struggles. 10:31 Society of immediate gratification. 14:47 Surprising lessons from weight loss. 17:43 Relationship with food changes. 26:05 Liberation from food obsession. 29:26 Debunking clean eating myth. 34:58 Exercise mindset and expectations. 38:35 Exercise as punishment mindset. 43:05 Self-love and weight loss. Quotes: "But the really pivotal moment was when I got engaged and that was 2008. I suddenly had this fear and panic that I was going to be fat, quote unquote, for my wedding." "We want the quick fix now. We want to lose weight by the wedding. We want to lose weight by bikini season. And we have just set ourself up for this toxic cycle of white knuckling." "So 100%, the most surprising thing to me was that I'm in charge of the way that I feel." "Well, I think the biggest thing that changed for me in terms of my relationship with food is that food is no longer a source of comfort." "There aren't good or bad foods. There's just food." "In a way, it was like a dopamine hit. It was fun for the first day or two thinking about this new diet that may work." "You can still have pizza, but instead of eating half the pizza, we're gonna have two slices and see how that goes." "So many people, especially in the diet industry, they use exercise as a form of punishment." "Yeah, it makes me think of one of my favorite Abraham quotes where they say, there is no happy ending to an unhappy journey." Useful Resources: Sign Up for the Slim Secret Webinar: https://schoolofselfimage.com/slim Join The School of Self-Image Now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Unlocking Lasting Peace with Your Body Success should be judged beyond the scale and dress size. This episode emphasizes the importance of redefining how we measure success with our bodies. Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh highlights that relying solely on the scale or dress size as indicators of success can be detrimental to our overall well-being. Instead, she encourages listeners to shift their focus towards how they feel emotionally and physically. Tonya shares her personal journey of struggling with weight and body image issues, where she found herself trapped in a cycle of using external measurements to determine her worth. She explains that tying success to a number on the scale can lead to feelings of discouragement, fear, and obsession. By shifting the focus to how we feel each day and how our bodies feel, we can create a more sustainable and fulfilling approach to body success. Join Tonya as she delves into finding beauty and joy in life, beyond the numbers on a scale. Talking Points: 02:25 Finding peace with your body. 10:18 - Rethinking Body Success Measurement 15:28 - Creating Intrinsic Body Success 18:10 - Embracing Imperfection and Gratitude 21:01 - Choosing Definitions of Body Success Quotes: "If you even look at the definition of the word slim, it's to rid of the excess, to slim down." "We have a limited amount of energy and how much of yours is going into obsessing, hating, resisting, trying so hard to lose weight?" "I have this belief that we're successful even when we fail, if we use those failures to grow us." "You'll never feel better when you've set up your world and your paradigm that you can only feel good if you look a certain way." "Wait, W-A-I-T, leads to wait, W-E-I-G-H-T. It's time to stop waiting to feel better." "You're not here to be perfect. You're here to enjoy your life, to enjoy your body, to learn and to grow." Useful Resources: Sign Up for the Slim Secret Webinar: https://schoolofselfimage.com/secret Join The School of Self-Image Now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Illuminating Your Path: The Decision Switch in Action Making decisions is essential for moving forward in life and creating change. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of making decisions to break free from feeling stuck and to propel oneself towards desired outcomes. She discusses how indecision can keep individuals in a state of paralysis, preventing them from progressing in life. She also highlights that decisions, whether big or small, play a crucial role in shaping the trajectory of one's life and influencing the overall experience. This episode underscores the transformative power of making decisions and highlights how each choice, no matter how small, can have a significant impact on one's life journey. By embracing the decision-making process and being willing to step into the unknown, individuals can break free from stagnation, create positive change, and ultimately shape a more fulfilling and purposeful life. Talking Points: 00:42 - The Decision Switch Concept 02:22 - Reasons for Decision Paralysis 04:38 - Overthinking and Perfectionism in Decisions 05:45 - External Pressures Impacting Decisions 07:53 - Worry and Business 08:15 - Breaking Connections with Old Self 09:41 - Team Dynamics and Decision Confidence 11:59 - Stop Self-Criticism 14:38 - Personal Decision to Build a House 17:50 - Clarity After Making Decisions 18:12 - Relationship Decisions: Stay or Go 19:05 - Comfort in Indecision 19:37 - Removing Right or Wrong from Decisions 23:00 - Investing in Personal Growth Quotes: "People fear losing things more than they get excited about gaining things." "I literally said out loud, I am no longer available to worry about my business. It is not even an option." "What is the decision switch that you need to make in your life right now?" "It was like, oh, now I am a homeowner. Now I am adulting officially. And it was the best feeling." "Either way, just switch the light on. That's what decisions do. They turn the light on so you can see what your next steps are." "There is no right or wrong decisions that we will make from a place of wanting the best for ourselves." "It is done. Now, can you learn something from it? 100%." Useful Resources: Join The School of Self-Image Now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

From Stuck to Unstoppable: Strategies for Personal Breakthroughs To overcome feeling stuck, it is crucial to provide your brain with clarity and direction. In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of giving clear instructions and goals to your brain. She shares that when she felt stuck while recording the episode, it was because she lacked the direction and clarity needed to move forward. Tonya also stresses the significance of setting extraordinary goals to combat feeling stuck. Many individuals struggle with this because they have not determined what they truly want. By establishing clear and specific goals, individuals can give their brains a sense of purpose and direction, enabling them to progress and break free from feeling stuck. Tonya highlights how perfectionism can hinder progress and steal time. By letting go of the need to be perfect and focusing on taking action, individuals can overcome the fear of imperfection, make decisions, and move forward in their personal and professional lives. Join Tonya as she delves into why we get stuck and how to move forward with purpose and intention. Talking Points: 01:24 - Clarity and Direction for Getting Unstuck 02:18 - Choosing an Extraordinary Goal 03:42 - Discomfort of Change 07:21 - Acceptance and Authenticity 08:03 - The Trap of Perfectionism 09:07 - Embracing Where You Are 10:00 - The Analogy of Water Skiing 11:46 - Letting Go of the Rope 13:22 - Creating Desired Feelings 14:48 - Moving Towards Desired Emotions Quotes: "You don't know what you're trying to create. And the reason why the majority of you don't know is because you're afraid of the answer." "Perfectionism will not only steal your time, it will steal your life." "But if I've learned anything, the world doesn't want the perfect version of you. They want the real you." "The way to get unstuck is to let go of the rope. Let go for a minute and just relax." "Done is better than perfect" Useful Resources: Join The School of Self-Image Now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

How Your Environment Shapes Your Self-Image Let's delve into the psychology of space and how our environments can shape our self-image. Tonya shares personal experiences of how different homes she has lived in reflect her inner world and how she uses her spaces to evolve her own self-image. She discusses the importance of using our spaces intentionally to change how we feel and see ourselves. By making small changes in our homes, we can align our spaces with who we want to become. She also emphasizes the power of using our spaces as tools for personal growth and transformation. Overall, the episode highlights the significance of our environments in influencing our self-image and provides practical tips for using our spaces to support our personal development journey. Talking Points: 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Psychology of Space 00:05:30 - Reflecting on the Story of Different Homes 00:10:38 - Personal Style and Home Decor Preferences 00:15:04 - Using Spaces to Change Self-Image 00:18:39 - Bridging the Gap Between Current Space and Desired Self-Image 00:22:17 - Blooming in Your Current Space Quotes: "Our environments are shaping us and we shape our environments." "Our homes are more than just physical spaces. They are literally mirrors that reflect our inner world." "Red is very fiery, very passionate. And let me tell you, that was me. And not in a good way." "If you want to see yourself as a woman who is fit and healthy, imagine what her kitchen looks like. Imagine what her pantry looks like." "I'm going to clean this up and I'm going to organize it. And I'm going to keep it that way to send the message to my brain of this is who I am." Useful Resources: Join The School of Self-Image Now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

From Negative to Neiman: Upgrading Your Thought Wardrobe To enhance your life and mindset, it is essential to intentionally select and upgrade your thoughts to higher quality ones. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of being mindful of the thoughts we entertain daily. She classifies thoughts into different levels, ranging from "Goodwill thoughts" inherited from past experiences to "Neiman Marcus thoughts" that are of superior quality and more empowering. Tonya urges the audience to evaluate their current thought patterns and beliefs, highlighting that negative or outdated thoughts can hinder individuals and impact their overall well-being. By deliberately choosing thoughts that align with their values, dreams, and desires, individuals can cultivate a more positive and empowering mindset. Join Tonya as she takes you thorugh her thought clloset and inspire listeners to consciously select empowering beliefs and shed outdated or limiting ones to cultivate a more positive, resilient, and fulfilling mindset. Talking Points: Quotes: "Girl, I am feeling like yesterday's fries." "I'm going to bloom where I'm planted. I'm going to really show up in this position, in this role, and I'm going to give it my all because it matters." "Money is fun, which is in my thought closet. And money doesn't solve the problems that people are trying to use money to solve the problem for." "I love believing that failure is what dreams are built upon." "It was a thought that I decided to return, and I upgraded for a better thought." Useful Resources: The Royal Treatment Workshop: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ROYAL Join the membership: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Unveiling Your Inner Queen: The Power of Self-Respect and Self-Care Giving yourself a royal treatment involves creating a personalized plan for self-care and self-respect. In this School of Self-Image episode, host, and master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of treating oneself like royalty and prioritizing self-care. She shares the story of a client named Sarah who transformed her life by implementing a royal treatment plan tailored to her needs. This plan included setting boundaries at work, taking lunch breaks, exercising, and engaging in hobbies she enjoyed. The concept of a royal treatment goes beyond superficial indulgences like spa days and manicures. It is about connecting with one's true nature, listening to internal cues, and establishing a strong inner kingdom. By tuning into one's body and soul, individuals can determine what they need to feel their best and align with their natural rhythm. This process involves building a strong relationship with oneself based on love, respect, and self-worth. Tune in to learn why every woman needs to prioritize herself and treat herself like royalty. Talking Points: 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Royal Treatment 00:05:30 - The Consequences of Self-Neglect 00:10:16 - Overcoming Excuses for Self-Care 00:13:05 - Increased Confidence through Self-Care 00:17:32 - Attractiveness and Energy 00:21:31 - Unveiling Your True Nature 00:24:34 - Building a Strong Inner Kingdom 00:26:19 - Invitation to the Royal Treatment Workshop Quotes: "When are you going to start treating yourself like a queen?" "Confidence is something that you create with your thoughts, with your mind. It is a belief in your abilities." "I've done those things, and it creates this deep trust in myself. This feeling of like, girl, I've got you." "Would you rather attract rusty old nails or shiny gold coins? I'm guessing your answer is shiny gold coins." "It is going to have the most beautiful cascading effect into every area of your life." Useful Resources: The Royal Treatment Workshop: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ROYAL Join Now! https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the Weekly Edit! http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial

Embracing 'No': The Key to Living a Life Aligned with Your Values Saying no is a powerful tool for setting boundaries and taking back control of your life. In the podcast episode, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of establishing boundaries to prioritize your well-being and align with your values and goals. Here are some key points to consider when it comes to setting boundaries through saying no: Prioritizing Your Well-being: By saying no to commitments or requests that do not serve you, you are prioritizing your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Empowering Yourself: Saying no is a way of empowering yourself and demonstrating self-respect. Taking Control of Your Life: Without boundaries, you may feel like you are being run over by the demands and expectations of others. Living in Alignment: Setting boundaries through saying no allows you to live in alignment with your decisions, goals, and values. Building Self-Image: Saying no can positively impact your self-image and self-esteem. Saying no is not just about declining requests; it is a powerful act of self-care and self-empowerment. By setting boundaries through saying no, you can take control of your life, prioritize your well-being, and live in alignment with your values and goals. Join Tonya as she delves into the power of saying no, inspired by quotes from Steve Jobs and Paulo Coelho, and explores the importance of listening to our gut feelings and setting boundaries by saying no when necessary to avoid feeling overwhelmed or drained. ____________________________________________________________________________ Episode Details: 00:01:25 - Embracing Joyful Yeses 00:01:57 - Mastering the Art of Saying No 00:03:11 - Free Guide to Saying No 00:04:14 - Societal Pressures and FOMO 00:05:08 - The Consequences of Yes 00:06:33 - The Jar Metaphor 00:08:10 - Identity and Priorities 00:12:36 - The Upside of Saying No 00:15:16 - The Clarity of Prioritizing Yes 00:18:30 - Elegance and Quality Over Quantity 00:23:53 - The Pleasure of Saying No 00:25:28 - The Invitation to Say No Quotes: "Innovation is saying no to a thousand things." "No is my new favorite word." "When you say yes to everything, you live someone else's life." "I prioritize my wellbeing to demonstrate that I am worthy and I am confident in who I am." "The power of no lies in saying no to the junk, to the low quality." "I lived a large part of my life lying to everybody. Not on purpose, but to me, when you say yes to something that you don't really want to do, it's like you're lying." "The power of no after years of being afraid of it, I can tell you it's one of the best two-letter words in my vocabulary." Useful Resources: The Guide to Saying No: https://schoolofselfimage.com/power Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/ FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh

The Power of Self-Appreciation: 5 Steps to Delight in You Inspired by a quote from Anais Nin, Tonya Leigh reflects on the concept she has adopted that is centered on delighting in oneself. Tonya shares her experience of a delightful day spent alone and discusses the importance of analyzing and journaling about such days to create more moments of joy. She offers five ways to delight in oneself, encouraging listeners to take pleasure and satisfaction in who they are. By prioritizing self-care, nurturing self-relationship, and appreciating one's own value, individuals can cultivate a deeper sense of joy, fulfillment, and self-love. These practices not only benefit personal well-being but also have a positive impact on external relationships, work, and overall quality of life. Embracing these aspects can lead to a more fulfilling and delightful existence, where individuals can truly thrive and experience the fullness of life. ____________________________________________________________________________ Episode Details: 00:49 Delighting in yourself 06:52 Prioritize self-care 09:35 Making time for joyful activities 15:31 Being your own best friend 20:14 Quality alone time 21:51 Cultivating a deeper relationship with yourself Quotes: "My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace." “A joyful woman is a magnet for her desires. Energy is always looking for its equal match. Delighting is an energy. It is a vibration that you put out into the world.” "You are the longest commitment you will ever have in your life. Make the choice to lovingly commit to yourself." "What if you just decided you're never going to beat yourself up again? Instead, you're going to be your own best friend, your greatest cheerleader." "You are worth that time. You are valuable enough to delight in yourself." "There's nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. But your approach probably is." Useful Resources: Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/ FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh